18andabove

2012 and then he'll be four

2009-12-17T13:21:00.003+01:00

hmmm...

13 days till the end of 2009 and i'm already thinking of 2012.you can't blame me really, i just
saw the movie 2012. I figure i need atleast a billion euros to ensure the existence of my surname... the ticket's for my mrs by the way...lol
(Now you've got to see the movie to "get" me)

Among other thing's i've started making plans for the coming years...think the japanese...who have 100 year goals..lol.i limited mine to 3 years...till 2012.

In the past few days i've read so many books,
Anthony Robbins - Awaken the Giant Within
Rhonda Byrne - The Secret
Seth Godin - 99 Cows
Gary Vaynerchuk - Crush It!
Ben Casnocha - My Start-Up Life

Really Outstanding books, that i would recommend for anyone in a rut.

I get into that mode almost every december... That's when you're suppossed to take stock shey... its usually like i haven't just done enough. So my quest for ideas begin, hence i soak in information from all media, then i distill it, then i drink it up, i get "high" and finally i start again.

Yes, i got the mobile dating service going again...it's starting off slowly,like a text or 2 a day, unlike at inception in 2007 when i got 20 to 30 texts per day.come on people.
That's the thing. when you start, be ready to go all the way, because a lull/pause in activity allows people to tune off and focus on the next best thing.

how many of you folks agree that when a man loves a woman there's no extent to which he couldnt go to make her comfortable? Like he could even do money rituals just to keep her.Most of the yoruba movies i watch nowadays seem to have that same theme.At the end of the day,the wife finds out, doesnt consent to it, the guy dies & then the lady continues to spend the money.why not kuku leave the money.

Omo, Ikira to all the mothers out there, una too gbasky... its really hard work taking care of children, especially 6 month olds... whew...yeah i'm on my leave and my sister came to drop her son with me... everything's all rosy till he starts crying...then i just get confused,
if i wasn't strong, i would cry too...lol.you don't just know why he's crying...you try to give him food, doesn't work.then you start patting him,with the hope that he'll sleep, no chance...
you let him cry and pretend he's not there, the neighbours come to check whats wrong
thankfully mumsie's around too...so she handles it.
Hmmm,he's crying again...i'll be back in a bit i hope..."sigh"

"Beauty" in a Bird's Eye

2009-12-09T19:22:00.006+01:00

Hmmm… A list of theparakeet‘s Favourites.
Enjoy.

My Foundation: None

My Mascara: Loreal Telescopic
My Blush: None

My Eye Shadow: Sleek
My Day Cream: Nitrogena Day cream SPF 15
My Lipstick: None (Use Victoria Secret Lip Gloss instead)
My Beauty Product Brand: I do various brands

My Essential Beauty Product: Sleek crème to oil pressed powder

My Favorite Makeup Product: Sleek crème to oil pressed powder

My Perfumes: Cerrutti Image, Angel Demon by Givenchy, Cool Water, Pink by Lacoste, Space NK

My Nails: I usually don’t wear nail polish

My Feet: Same as nails

My Hands: Varies from Vaseline to Dove to Nivea hand cream and in the past Avon

Three Products to bring on a deserted island: Black eye pencil, lip gloss and pressed powder

Woman I admire for their beauty: None

Woman with the Best Sense of Style: None

How Do I Define Womanhood: Strength and Dignity

My Favorite Fashion Publication: I don’t read any.

He/She who has ear's let them....do as they like

2009-11-12T11:40:00.004+01:00

Hi, Everyone!!! Hope you had a marvelous week...Good...
I've been scared emotionally lately and based on what i know now, i'm going to make a couple of sweeping generalizations (wunmi can stop reading now lol).

A girl will never forget her first guy...
A guy won't too because she was the one that gave us our first BJ, and now you have to do it too.

Ever loved someone who didnt think the world of you... me too.

What's worse? having feelings for someone who's married or someone who's gay?

Guys don't really want to get married. We'd rather have you as a live in girlfriend.

Women are as insecure as men...and more confused...
my last babe thought i was Insensitive,while my new babe think's i'm too insecure,
ladies & gentlemen, i have not fu cking changed...lol

Girl's would really like to call our phones till our batteries ran out but...then we'd think they were psycho's shey

Okay, so if we really liked you...even it meant stealing a phone, we'd call you.

If he's married and you're dating him, he'll only leave his wife for you...IN YOUR DREAMS.

There's always going to be that girl that think's we're cute ...(fu ck us fo r free) even though we're dating you.

A woman will dump you if she's getting bored in the relationship...thats the reason why men cheat too ( well, one of the reasons).

If a lady has all your qualities, does all you do ...then goes 1% more...then consider yourself getting dumped soon ....

If you've been dating for atleast 2 years and he's never popped the question, then he's never gonna do it.

In fact, if you dont get married soon, you're gonna get dumped.

Most times, we make you think you dumped us,really...Ever heard?
-I don't want to stand in your way or hold you back.
-I don't deserve you.
-I'm so jealous of the guy who gets to marry you.
-hmmm...wo, you can add more" those are the one's have used.

If we call you out of the blues, it means we want to get fu ked...really....you really know that don't you?

If a friend (girl) treats you as a friend,she will not sleep with you,get your head out of the clouds, mate.If she did it once (out of sympathy),no she's not your babe, because she won't do it again.

There are really guys out there that won't doubledate.

If you cheat on your babe and you're upfront about it...yes *i'm not crazy*, there's actually a possibilty that you'll be forgiven.

DON'T PLAY WIFE, IF YOU'RE NOT.

If a guy wants to date you ehn, he'll ask you out.

We really do need to have sex!

You can check our phones all you want, Read all our messages but we'll only get caught if we want to.

Hmmm....all girls are up for some naughty fun.

Ever f ucked a girl while thinking of someonelse....well she does too.

We do CRY when we get DUMPED.

There are three kinds of ladies out there...
Those we're not just attracted/interested in (it's not your fault, it's just us)
Those we're attracted to,but we really just want sex
Those we wanna get married to

When you meet a guy, you instinctively know if there's hope or not.

If a guy makes you cry (well apart from tears of ecstacy), dump him now.

Yep I'm done now....*deep breaths*
Hope you enjoy the songs on my esnips...watch this space on my mobile/audio dating.

I Don Come Again

2009-11-03T12:40:00.021+01:00

Hmmm its been a while o....Aaahhh close to 4months since i last showed up here...
so what excuse i'm i gonna give you guys...hmmm....wo, none ojare
in short i just got bored, and i had to deal with business....
i have even thought of closing this blog a couple of times, but i just eventually decided to leave it...
this serves as my online presence and yes a couple of people actually made orders...so i'm definately keeping this one...

Okay, i'm gonna try and give you recaps on all thats happened...well all thats affected me in the last couple of months:

Yeah, i'm still in the business of making people beautiful...nowadays i only attend to ladies who call in...so you get to be treated like a queen that you are...

I'm birthday mates with the best country on the planet, even though we had a lack lustre celebration here, waiting for the big 5.0. celebrations next year.

I celebrated my birthday on the 21st of October, and as usual i kept to myself (which wasnt funny, i've got a steady babe now)...i used the day to reflect on my journey in life...

Ever tried to live without social media (twitter,Almighty facebook,myspace etc)....well i did, for a whole month...the silence was worth it i tell you...you should try it sometimes...

I've also contemplated restarting my mobile dating service...yes, i got a lot of calls and text messages to continue with it.Hopefully that'll be with a twist sha...Ever heard of "audio dating"...its going to be a lot of fun.

And The Man Died!!!
Micheal Jackson died and some would say he was as popular dead as alive.
Gani Fawehinmi died, The only true Crusader i know goes to where the Old ones go.

Reforms (Sanusi) hit the Banking sector; GTBank is safe *heaving a sigh of relief*

Boko Haraam killings...to think people first thought it was another religious war.

A couple of music awards held...Both within and outside Nigeria.
2009 SMVA's , why didnt they screen it!!!...shey because the first one had hiccups? Kel won an award sha...Thats about it.

Weird Stuff at the MAMAs...all i can remember is Akon & Wyclef in their Briefs...lol..

The Emmys Held and some lady (Victoria Rowell) wore leftover "Obama" Ankara.
Enough Reality TV Shows....Centage Superstars, Koko Manshion

Comedy Shows....AY Live, Basket Mouth Uncensored

Some musicians dropped (or about to drop) albums, those i'm feeling....Omawunmi,9ice,Inyanya, Diamondz,P Square,Jim Iyke???, Lara George

Nigerian Artistes go on Hunger Strike...well some of them ...hehehe

Someone finally won 10 million naira on who wants to be a millionaire.

Whitney Houston Relaunches Career...

Jay Z dropped BluePrint3...

The (TuFace vs R Kelly i dont know him but he did a song with me Wahala).

Darey's "Let You Know" video hits our TV screen...Mediocre Song, Cool Video

And Serena Does the Photoshoot...

Rihanna goes Gaga....I love Lady Gaga by the way (shes a breath of fresh air)

and Solange Knowles shaves it all off...Me Like

The VMA'S hmm....Lil Mama, Beyonce, Taylor Swift and This....

The BET Award 2009...Wack as usual

Rita Dominic becomes new face of Nokia Africa... Thought we'd have her pictures on every new nokia phone "hiss"

Kunle Afolayan's The Figurine... Nice Movie

Virgin Nigeria ceased to exist, changed to Nigeria Eagles Airlines...duhh...What ever happened to just "Nigeria Airways"?

Ghana won the Under 21 Football Championship held in Egypt.They became the first African country to do so.The Nigerian Team just tried biko.

Jenson Button wins Formula1 Season with a race to go

Caster Semenya: male or female? hmmm...both

US Secretary of State Visits Nigeria...She really made sense...

They've been so much hoopla about white models who are made to darken their skin for photoshoots... abeg abeg abeg...i think this racism issue gets overblown sometimes... anyone seen "White Chicks" by "The Wayne Brothers". Abi.

There's also the thing about the nation's image been battered viz a viz "District 9" and "The Sony Advert". Nice one that Sony Apologised, i wouldnt wait for the Producers of "District 9" though... Better we make a "District 1" in reply.

Which brings me to "beef" not that kain..he he...meant "beef" between musicians....In the Red Corner Representing Chocolate City we have the Undisputed king of Nigerian Rap "MI" and in the Blue Corner we have...."Iceberg Slim"...dont know much about the dude...go ahead "google".

The major beef...i'm liking now is that between "Nicky Minaj" and "Lola "Angel" Monroe"... Nothing as captivating as a cat fight.

Guinness marks 250 years...if you have to drink, drink short brown bottles & i dont mean maltina.

Veda Laptops...Nice

Chimamanda Adichie's "The Thing Around Your Neck"...wish the stories were longer

And yes we muslims fasted...And your boy went all spiritual....I should do that often sef.

Finally was able to visit "The Icecream Factory"...if you're single,male...you better start visting the place... enough babes o... plus the icecream's really good.

Thats it for now...Expect more later...I said i'm back shey

Relationship and Business

2009-06-29T18:52:00.003+01:00

Been awhile everyone...hope you guys are all right

Business, business can often be comparable to a relationship.A few friends know i started my cosmetics business about 6 months ago, the same time i got the green light for a relationship with the mrs.

Both have gone through one major stage now and moving towards an essential stage.They have both passed what i call the "castle in the air" stage. For want of not been too dramatic yeah.When i started both ventures/adventures, i couldnt think of any other thing. it was either the business or mrs boss.

I had grandiose plans of world domination, my cosmetics business was the best thing since sliced bread. Mrs boss was just perfect and i had to marry her yesterday.She couldnt put a foot wrong.Then i would have smelt her armpits all she just needed to do was ask.Not that i wouldnt do it now...hmmm...anyway sha.hope youguys get the gist.

We sent messages everyday, i called her like crazy, couldnt wait to be with her.she always wanted to hang around me.she was hit by the "kehinde" bug.Everyone wanted to meet me to know what the "f$%k" it was all about.Trust i didnt disappoint.My Friends just wouldnt stop teasing me, i was tied to mrs boss strings.My relationship with the bois suffered, we couldnt go to trhe club together no more,we couldnt stare at chicks together no more...miss them days...lol....but it really didnt matter cause, it was all for mrs boss.

Business couldnt be better either,you know, when you start a new venture, well me,my family & friends are soo supportive,everyone fighting over themselves to be the first to buy or use the service. they recommend you to everyone. you get big contracts and money keeps rolling in.you're leaving the life.you are attracted to praise & reject criticism which could be good advice.You & your business are indestructible.

Then,Kryptonite.

I noticed that overtime, the initial gragra started to wear off, the calls reduced,the messages started trickling,i didnt get "high" on her bodily fumes anymore.She cried (i hate tears), she vomits when sick (yuck). she loves high heels but still complains about her feet at every outing, I couldnt touch her everytime,
We couldnt have sex (shes religious)...i mean too religious.She "leaked"....I realised i raised my voice when she irritates me,i am lackadisical about my dressing,i didnt open the door for her everytime, i made fun of her alot,i was getting to possesive & jealous,and i didnt take her to the movies anymore.anyways you get the point.

I realised she was human.

Then i have to try and understand this human,who i wanted to prolly marry.could i cope with her wants and whims,her tears and cramps.I had to be realistic about us now.

Business slowed down,I had practically sold to everyone i knew...selling to those who didnt need it sef.Now i knew there were other brands in the market and its a dog eat dog world out there.I had to hustle more to get the least amount of sales.Selling makeup alone,couldntpossibly take me to uhuru could it.

I think the best thing about the "been realistic" stage are the questions and been retrospective.you know, you're not bullshitting yourself anymore.Noone needs to talk to you because inside of you.you knowthe truth.you know that for the relationship to work, you need communication, talking about your goals and aligning it together for your future and acting. you know that to make more sales you have to be really
creative and hustle more.

I really dont know whats after this stage, and i sincerely hope its bliss.All i know is that its the "been realistic" stage, that makes or mars a relationship or a business.I think i'm dealing with both amazing well...well,better than i expected.

Live your best life everyday

2009-06-08T14:56:00.002+01:00

hello everyone....its been a while i've been here...and i've missed blogville,i still go bloghopping though and mighty me they're a lot of new bloggers on naija blogvilla now o,nice to see that...not that i'm so old too...lol

whew...i was practically forced back here by stuff that happened over the weekend..yelz. someone i know somehow thru a blogger died...and it just hit me the guy was just about 4 years older...and my world literally stopped.i wasnt acheiving all i set out to do (blogging inclusive) in the short span that God has gifted me with so i had to be back here....

Was feeling all romantic on thursday and sent roses to mrs boss at work,she and her numerous friends & colleagues appreciated it and i got a lil sumthing sumthing in return from mrs boss...lol and she met mumsie for the 1st time on saturday,i was nervous all through...lol cause its like i just apparently sealed my movement from being single with the enough faaji to being HOOKED atleast...lol.

Strolling hand in hand with mrs boss yesterday, i asked what she wanted from me this week and she's like "i want you to make more money".& i'm like yeah, what else, she said "thats all i want" and here i am begging you folks *prostrating-like its my traditional engagement*begging please buy my makeup products...lol.

Business has been moving Insha Allah, I got a number of calls from nigerian bloggers who made requests and i am so humbled.and all my onigbese's have paid so things are really looking up.Like you all know by now, I deal in Tara,Bobbi Brown,Sleek,Black Opal cosmetics...thinking of adding lise too...
Well yelz ladies and (gentlemen-a la zac efron stlye)...i'll give you discounts.For now, i'm out....Live your best life everyday shey una hear.

FYI,Max Factor yelz, the make-up brand's gonna be disappearing from the market next year...so better stock up o

eyeshadow & scoopsnija....Finally

2009-04-16T08:46:00.003+01:00

How's it been Ladies and Gentlemen,
Its been a while abi...lol...would be lying if i said it was just business
I really have been bored, wanting to do the next exciting thing,planning a trip

Yes,Yes...business has been moving beautifully....i know, i know...still have those my customers that havent paid sha(ssshhh...dont tell them o...lol) but what can i do but be thankful that they even bought from me anyways.

Anyone know where i can get Iman eyeshadow?...its only the powder thats so popular over here...Omo, I didnt know there were so many brands of eyeshadow o, until i went to the market to stock up.whew, so many to pick from...but for now, i've still stuck to Sleek,Tara,Bobbi Brown.So holla if u wanna.

Ehn Ehn,I 'm Having a makeup marketing seminar this weekend so i'll keep you posted, and yes finally i've decided to learn how to make ladies up.can i specialize on doing only their eyes and lips...prolly not....but dont you just love a well done lips and eyeshadow's that colourful.

By the way visit http://scoopsnija.com/ for the latest entertainment gist.

Makeup Contracts

2009-03-23T17:01:00.005+01:00

Been a while o abi....
No be my fault na, i dey try sell ni....
Selling's the most easy thing in the world, its also the most difficult activity too
Anyhoo, i'm making headway, yeah...
I got a contract...ehn now, a contract to "supply" my twin's colleagues at work, and she works in a bank, so enough money.lol.

Yes o, the increased disparity between the dollar and the naira affected me too.Thank God i thought to diversify.

A few changes will be coming to this blog....I'm going to be adding more Makeup tips courtesy http://mwatum.blogspot.com/ (Coup de Coeur) , http://herroyalposhness.com/ and http://naijagal.blogspot.com/ (Naijagal).
Hopefully i'll get to add a few makeup videos and Pictures.
I wouldnt mind contributions from my esteemed readers too o...shey una know say i be guy.closest i ever got to using makeup is painting my toe nails black....Do you think there's something wrong with that?...please tell me.

Hmmm let me see, okay ehn ehn, please tell me what you think about this transition from a relationship blog to a selling makeup blog...lol

And if you get "contract" for me, abeg holla

Makeup On Point....Check

2009-03-06T09:28:00.004+01:00

Ladies and Gentlemen, Hope you're having a great day...well you ought to "write your own script"...a certain bank seems to have the lockdown on creative phrases....okay its Bankphb,please patronise them o...my sister works there ...lol

Ehn ehn, this is one of those posts that you have to quickly write down all you have to say before you forget o...lol. please forgive me if its disjointed.and yes, i will join issues cause i dont want to write two posts.

Do you have those days that you just think about your job and you cant take it anymore? well i had one yesterday and i decided i was quitting.Yeah,I'm quitting my day job...and thats it...although its gonna take a bit of time....i have a schedule planned already.I just hope i stick to it.I have a lot of projects i would want to be involved in...might gist una later.

Business is really moving o and i actually need to pump in more capital...as in demand far overshadows supply.Luckily i've got family that can "risk" their hard earned money for me.

On this second batch of merchandise i bought, I got a diary, wrote all the items and the cost, but i didnt write my expected profit, dont count your chicks before they are hatched abi.So i have an agreement with my major client for now that i would be coming over every friday to restock or collect money...instead of hapharzadly like before.hopefully that will ensure that gbogbo owo ma pe (All the money will be complete).

By the way, would you beleive that the company actually increased the price of the products, Now i know how it feels when government increases the price of fuel....lol.Its a shame that its my customers thats going to recieve the backlash.although i'll try to subsidize when i can.i'm becoming an economist abi using all this big big words.

And the thing about Iman is confirmed,she isnt bankrupt but her major distributor is,so for now you got to hurry before my Iman Cosmetics Stock gets soldout.

And i have mumsie to thank for all the advice, she's really got my back on this one.

Ladies,Now pause on reading a lil bit,take out your mirror and look into it....Is Your Makeup On Point? No smugs? No Blurs?....Now Clap for yoursef...lol.I dont know o, i think i'm in love with make up and especially when ladies are creative with eye shadow (like the one above), easy on the red lipstick though.

By the way, i twit too....almost every minute...forgive me....i feel its more easier getting my thoughts across there.you could drop ur twitter ID so i can follow u...well without pestering to buy my products o...lol

picture courtesy: http://allmeyene.blogspot.com/

Didnt Think Selling Makeup Was This Easy

2009-02-24T10:18:00.002+01:00

Ladies and Gentlemen, its your boi...trying to make a living selling makeup

Okay so dont let your caption deceive you...lol, i'm really trying to console myself...lol
like anyone (thats your friend) will tell you, being a startup is not easy.
you have a thousand and one details to take care of,then you also need to keep your customer happy.

Really business is moving, i think, just that, Women,Women, kai...they want to negotiate to the barest minimum and on top everything they'll want to pay twice...lol
just imagine
You tell her the product is 1,500 yeah?, she beats it down to 950 then wants to pay twice.so even when she pays...she'll pay 900 and with a smily face tells you you cant leave 50 for her.
and shey you know i like fine fine girls...aaaarrrgggghhh...lol
I love my customers.

And una fit bad mouth...ah...lol, They'll be like this one is not good, its mary kay i use...even when they know mary kay isnt designed for the african skin...at the end of the day, they now want to use that reason to shortchange...
emi okin gba sha (i dont accept sha)...lol

Anyhoo,i'm at the teething stage right, so i cant give up now...lol
besides,i've had lots of people who do cash and carry,so i cant complain too much

A very important lesson when you're selling anything....do not touch your profit,till you sell all your stock...better still reinvest your profit into the business.

By the way, i stock Sleek cosmetics now o...

Tara's Orekelewa to the Rescue

2009-02-17T14:24:00.004+01:00

Whew....How was your val?...hope u had an exciting day with ur loved one.
I spent mine calling makeup distributors o...lol
didnt know Iman cosmetics was this scarce in lagos....abi people dey hoard am ni...lol
Sha i havent found one but i found ample replacement for my client
yep Tara's Orekelewa to the rescue,
I finally became a beauty rep yesterday
I registered and paid my dues....so i officially stock her cosmetic line now
and i think they're wonderful

Okay, so i got home with my products and sample, and mumsie....my sweet mum, even though she keeps saying its a woman's line of business, was the 1st to she mi lo wo (buy from me)....that in itsef is a blessing i believe.

Then a few of my sister's friends also bought although they've not paid o.

And today i had the balls to face my female colleagues at work, one bought too, with the others needing more samples...so i'm off to a great start abi

Ladies and Gentlemen, i'll keep you posted on subsequent marketing,sales and drama on the adventures of this guy selling makeup...lol

Ehn ehn, i found out that women buy makeup alot even during recessions...so if u want additional income why not start selling....i dont mind the competition...well unless u're on my turf...lol

Wo...i'm off looking for an Iman Distributor, Know anyone in Lagos?...pls i'm on bended knees, tell me o

(I'm sorry if i didnt respond to your match making messages, the service is on hold for now)

Ladies...pls if you'd buy a simple makeup kit, what wld u want to be in it?

Ready for business

2009-02-06T16:58:00.003+01:00

Ladies and Gentlemen, bois and girlz...not again you might say...lol
well i'm back and ready for business...another one you might say...lol

yeah its the makeup business ladies and a few meterosexual guys....whatever that is

I love beautiful women and if you read the last post i'm sure you know the major reason why i'm going into this business...and its not about the global recession o.

Thank you for supporting me ehn, and i cross my heart not to disappoint you.*sigh..now i'm in deep s**t*..lol and thanks so much for your tips at being good at this.
I hope you'll be able to endure all my own beauty tips o...it'll prolly be more of avant garde makeup tips.so stay tuned

A few people didnt even know about my mobile dating serivce, well i still run one...i just stopped it been for free for now.till i get open source code or i get my shortcode...i'm sorry if i just burst your valentine's day bubble (hopes of getting a guy or babe before then)

Hopefully and please pray with me that i get it back on track before the end of the year.

Okay,so tomorrow...i'm gonna get my first stock of Tara's Orekelewa...
I'm ecstatic...its a new experience for me and i hope i enjoy it.

(P.S, I was at the toni kan bookreading in case you're wondering...recognised a few bloggers too)

SWIISM- So What If I Sell Makeup

2009-01-28T15:41:00.002+01:00

Ladies and Gentlemen, boys and guys...i'm back this year 009
What happens in 2008 stays in 2008 fellas, so i wont bore you
I made it to a Thousand people using the mobile dating service so i'm upgrading *Stay Tuned*
hope you like the change in template...

my new catchphrase now is SWIISM...yes o
okay i do sell makeup, and i'm a guy plus i'm not gay (so u know)...lol
whats the big deal really...
okay i understand its what women are suppossed to do,
but whats that funny look i see in ur eyes...lol
I love beautiful women as you'll prolly know,
now i want to make them look more appealing to the eye.

I would want to know though...Ladies why would you want to buy makeup from me?
I stock all brands by the way, hope that isnt too much?
I have so many questions...hope you guys help me with the 1st two...
and wish me luck

I'm leaving...(11th december 2008)

2008-12-11T19:10:00.002+01:00

Allow me to reintroduce mysef...my name is...fill in the gap...lol
i'm high yes o i'm high, i'm embarking on a one month vacation....thats one of the reasons you should love your what you do....
i was getting sick of my job, yes o....
i'm interested if u wan swap...
i'll be dropping in though....its a month only....

Dont ever ever kiss (not to talk of having sex) with someone you dont love

i didnt want to honestly,she was up for it and we .....could i say..she raped me...lol

anyhoo,we're good
gotta go now
make una no finish the chicken o

30th October 2008 (400)

2008-10-30T12:21:00.002+01:00

yeah yeah, i advertised but it was exhilirating acquiring the 400th user of my service....all this just within 2 weeks of making it to 300...i hopefully pray it wasnt a glitch o....at this rate i'll make 1000 folks before the end of the year...amin o

And i often have to distingiush between active users and individuals on my database, i can assure you that active ones are growing too...by active, i mean repetitive users...although i wish there arent that many cause it means you're trivalising it (my service i mean)

to counter that, they'll prolly be a deluxe version by the end of the year or early 2009...Insha Allah

they've been a few complaints i'd like to treat here:
I have clients complaining that they often try calling their matches but often dont get response...hopefully its the mobile operators just try and try again

Also the guys often complain that the lady doesnt call at all, my guy...i already done the difficult part for you, atleast i've provided you with the mobile number of a single female that lives so close to you that you could meet up before the end of the day if you wanted to....so really wats making the 1st call...trust me the ladies wouldnt call unless she's that desperate.

Sending repetitive asl's over the same mobile number suggests to my software that you'd like to change your user profile,so if your friend's using your phone to get a match...means we end up changing your preferences...lol
btw, tell your friend to get a phone now...ow much be sim card

anyhoo,thanks again everyone and take care

Thursday 23/10/08 (hmmm)

2008-10-23T11:59:00.002+01:00

i wont start the usual i'm back again routine
so we'll just dive right into it
i missed you guys in the short break i had
its a result of my ISP and my laziness...if you would call it that
anyhoo, business been moving...
my service has been taking a new defining turn
something about your idea not traNSLATING TO EXACTLY WAT UR SAW IT TO BE IN YOUR MIND...
HOPEFULLY WITH UNA SUPPORT I'LL MEET MY TARGET OF 700 NEW USERS OF THE SERVICE BY DECEMBER 31ST 2008.
SOMEONE WOULD ASK WHY I'M PUTTING MY TARGET DATE OUT THERE, ITS BECAUSE, IT BEEN HERE WOULD MOTIVATE ME TO MEET MY TARGET...AND I'M NOT ONE TO BE SCARED...

AND BTW, MY BIRTHDAY WAS 21ST OCTOBER....THANK YOU THANK YOU
DIDNT TELL ANYONE CAUSE I NO GET MONEY CARRY THE GUYS GO JOINT....LOL

I GOT A GIFT THOUGH, THE 1ST IN A WHILE...LOL
GOLD CUFFLINKS I MIGHT NEVER USE....I SAID MIGHT O...
I LOVE THE HEART AND BODY BEHIND THE GIFT...
ITS MY ALHAJA...YES, A NEW ONE AND THIS ONE REALLY LIKES ME, WELL I HOPE SO
YOU WOULDNT BELIEVE ME I9F I TOLD YOU SHE'S THE EXACT DESCRIPTION OF MY BABE I ENVISIONED AND WROTE INTO MY DIARY A FEW YEARS AGO

NOT TO RUSH IT AND SPOIL IT SHA, SO WE'RE TAKING EACH DAY AS IT COMES...

GOT TO GO NOW....
AND KEEP USING THE SERVICE

Conversations with a Babe (Lady Koko)

2008-10-09T18:51:00.008+01:00

As i type this, i can here gun shots...chairmen (robbers) dey do operation just close to my office
but no lele, dem no fit reach my side...i hope..lol
anyhoo, got my last Conversation with a Babe....enjoy

lady koko: HEY DARLING
lady koko: LADY KOKO HERE!!!!!!!
18andabove: nice...
18andabove: ow was ur day?
lady koko: WELL....I JUST WOKE UP...LOL
lady koko: ITS 5.30 PM
lady koko: LOLOLOLOL
18andabove: lol...
18andabove: u mean u dont work?
lady koko: ERM......
lady koko: okay
lady koko: am a bit of a spoilt brat
18andabove: lol...
lady koko: lol
lady koko: GEES U TOUCHED A SENSITIVE SPOT MEHNN
lady koko: LOL
18andabove: wats the sensitive spot?...
lady koko: I'VE WORKED TWICE
lady koko: FIRST JOB I QUIT AFTER 2 DAYS
18andabove: i love the fact that u dont work o....
18andabove: but u get to eat...lol
18andabove: 2 days?????
18andabove: wat kind of work was it?
lady koko: SECOND JOB..QUIT AFTER 4 DAYS
lady koko: LOLOLOLOL
lady koko: admin kinda stuff
18andabove: 4 days?????....u slapped the boss?
lady koko: LOLOLOLOL
18andabove: okay....
lady koko: I DINT GET FIRED..i quit
lady koko: lol
18andabove: nioce...
18andabove: i hope i have the balls to do that soon...lol
18andabove: so wat course did u study at the uni?
lady koko: am studying medine
lady koko: *medicine
18andabove: oh????7 years right?
lady koko: yea
18andabove: omo una dey try o....
18andabove: 7 yrs for sch, when u go start life?
lady koko: HEHE......
lady koko: i guess thats y ma parents dnt want me to lifet a finger yet
18andabove: lol....
lady koko: WELL.....AM NOT THE TYPICAL MED STUDENT OOO
lady koko: I HAVE A LIFE
18andabove: ok?
lady koko: TRUST ME!!!!!!!!!
18andabove: wats ur typical day like?
lady koko: I'LL WAKE UP AT 12 PM
lady koko: HAVE PANCAKES FOR BREAKFAST WHILE CATCHING UP ON THE REPEAT OF GIRLFRIENDS ON T.V.
lady koko: THEN.,....
18andabove: okay?
lady koko: I'LL CALL UP ONE OF MY BESTFREINDS
18andabove: ok?
18andabove: pancakes/....yummy...lol
lady koko: SEE IF SHE WANTS TO DO DINNER /LUNCH
lady koko: *mine are the best*
18andabove: yeepa...i'm not supposed to think abt food o...lol
18andabove: i guess...lol
lady koko: but basically from 2 -8 PM
lady koko: I ENTERTAIN GUESTS
18andabove: guests????
lady koko: I LIKE TO THINK A GREAT HOST
lady koko: YEA
lady koko: I LIVE ON MY OWN
18andabove: as in friends that dont have jobs too
lady koko: FRIENDS COME OVER]
lady koko: I COOK
lady koko: AND STUFF
18andabove: where are ur parents?
lady koko: BUHAHAAHHHAAH
18andabove: lol
18andabove: and i'm guessing u're based in the uk
lady koko: YEA..LONDON BEYBEY!!!!!!!!!
lady koko: HEHE
lady koko: look yea
lady koko: am sure u think
lady koko: AM A LAZY ASS BITCH
lady koko: WHO DOES NOTHIN
18andabove: y pic too the side....wanna break my head?
lady koko: BUT EAT THE FRUIT OF HER PARENTS LABOUR
lady koko: WELL UR RIGHT
18andabove: no swear words...yet...lol
lady koko: but there is a whole load more depth to me mr!
18andabove: okay....
lady koko: lol
lady koko: lolol
18andabove: wats the most important thing to u now?
lady koko: THAT LAUGHTER IS A UNIVERSAL LANGUAGE..AND LOVE IS THE GREATEST OF THEM ALL
18andabove: love????....well is there anything like that?
lady koko: OF COURSE...DNT U THINK SO
18andabove: i'm trying so hard to believe in it
lady koko: REALLY???????
lady koko: I BELIEVE IN LOVE OO
lady koko: I FEEL IT EVERDAY
18andabove: so ow many times u ever fallen in love?
18andabove: u have a webcam or something?
lady koko: IT DEPENDS..WITH A GUY?
lady koko: COS I FALL IN LOVE WITH GIRLS
18andabove: lol
lady koko: EVERYDAY
lady koko: *NO HOMO*
18andabove: seriously....u arent gay are u?
lady koko: I HAVE A REALLY BIG HEART
lady koko: THERS A WHOLE LOT OF LOVE
lady koko: TO GIVE OUT
lady koko: IF THAT MAKES ME GAY
18andabove: so u are gay!!!!
lady koko: THEN YES!!!!!!!!! I AM GAY
18andabove: omo ur parents go kill u o...lol
lady koko: NO AM NOT SILLY
lady koko: AM NOT GAY..AM NOT BI
18andabove: ow long u been in the uk?
lady koko: *I LOVE ALL SEXES....I DONT DO ALL SEXES*
18andabove: so for the record, u're straight....
lady koko: FOR ABOUT 7 YEARS
lady koko: YES OOO..I AM STARIGHT AS RULER ABEG OOOOOO
18andabove: meaning u left immediately after secondary school?
18andabove: u got a webcam?
18andabove: so ow many siblings u got?
lady koko: NO WEBCAM
lady koko: 2 ADORABLE SIBLINGS!!!!!!!!!
18andabove: nice....
lady koko: BIG BRO..LIL SIS
lady koko: YEA
lady koko: lucky me!
18andabove: and they're still in lagos....
lady koko: ma big bro is here
lady koko: ma lil sis is GETTING HER OWN TATSE
18andabove: okay...
lady koko: OF BOARDING SCOOL IN NIJA
18andabove: lol....
18andabove: wat sch u finished from?
lady koko: LOL
lady koko: SHE LOVES IT THO
18andabove: i guess, i was in boarding too
lady koko: I CANT SAY AM SORRY..THAT WILL GIVE ME AWAY.......
lady koko: BUT ITS ONE OF THE POPULAR ONES
lady koko: YEA
lady koko: AND NO IT AINT QUEENS COLLEGE
18andabove: no we wouldnt include it in the conversation...
18andabove: i'd just like to know...
lady koko: YEA I KNU
lady koko: WEL..OKAY
lady koko: ADESOYE COLLEGE
18andabove: wat?????
lady koko: YES
18andabove: where's adesoye college....lol
lady koko: ARE U KIDDING ME
lady koko: OKAY WAIT
lady koko: DO U KNU OLASHORE?
18andabove: serious....
18andabove: olashore?????....
lady koko: ERM...
lady koko: THESE ARE LITERALLY
lady koko: TOP TEN IN NAIJA
lady koko: PRESEIDENTS SONS
18andabove: okay....wats the name of the school?
lady koko: EVEN WENT TO ADESOYE
lady koko: AND U AINT HEARD OF IT
lady koko: LAWDYYYYYYYY
lady koko: LOL
18andabove: adesoye is the name of the school??????
lady koko: YES! ADESOYE COLLEGE
lady koko: ASK AROUND
18andabove: i dont know anyone thats even heard it before sef...lol
lady koko: EVERYONE KNOWS IT
18andabove: just asked my colleagues...lol
lady koko: OKAY DO U VIVIAN FOWLER
18andabove: ehn ehn...i know that one...
18andabove: its close to where i live sef
lady koko: AND THAT ONE IS NOT EVEN
lady koko: UP THERE WITH ADESOYE AND OLASHORE YET
lady koko: AND U KNU IT
lady koko: LOL
18andabove: adesoye....olashore....sorry i dont know
lady koko: LOL
lady koko: OKAY OO
18andabove: prolly those schs at the outskirts of lagos...lol
lady koko: *DO UR REASERCH*
lady koko: NAA THEY AINT IN LAGOS
18andabove: already done it...
18andabove: ehn ehn...where dem dey?
lady koko: ADESOYE IS IN KWARA STATE....OLASHORE IS IN OSUN STATE
lady koko: BUT EVERYONE FROM LAGOS ABUJA GO THERE
18andabove: okay then...
18andabove: yeah right...lol
lady koko: ITS LITERALLY I TELL YOU...TOP 5 IN FACT
lady koko: HEAVY SCOOL FEES
lady koko: U PAY IN PUNDS
lady koko: OR DOLLARS
18andabove: so i'm guesing u're an osun *stressing the s* girl...lol
lady koko: NOPE
lady koko: LOL
18andabove: anyways lady koko....why use that name...
lady koko: BECOS AM KNOWN AS KOKO
18andabove: the only lady koko i know is one make believe lady we used to scare ourselves with in secondary school...lol
lady koko: AND I BELIEVE I POSSESS ALL THE QUALITIES OF A LADY
18andabove: koko????
lady koko: *SHE JUST MIGHT BE ME.....PEOPLE R USUALLY SCARED AND INTIMIDATED
18andabove: lol.....
lady koko: BY INTERNAL AND OUTWARD BEAUTY
lady koko: LOL
18andabove: shes suppossed to turn all who see her into stone...lol
lady koko: WELLL.......I BELIEVE THAT ME OOOOO
lady koko: MEN USUALLY FREEZE IN THE STARES
18andabove: who personifies ur kind of beauty
lady koko: LOL
18andabove: lol....
lady koko: AND WOMEN TOO OF COURSE
18andabove: so u had ur 21st birthday already????.
lady koko: I NEVER SED IT WAS 21ST DID I
lady koko: I CELEBRATED A SIGNIFICANT YEAR
lady koko: TO ME
lady koko: BUT IT MIGHT NOT BE TO EVERYONE ELSE
lady koko: 21 MEANS NUTIN TO ME
18andabove: ow old was the oldest person u dated?
lady koko: I DNT KNU Y ITS A BIG FUSS..WELL I GUESS IN AMERICA ITS THE OFFICIAL AGE
lady koko: OH GOSH
lady koko: WELL..I WAS 14 HE WAS 24
18andabove: i think 18 is the official age
18andabove: 10 yrs....
lady koko: OH REALLY OK
lady koko: YES
lady koko: I LIKE OLDER MEN
lady koko: AM TOO MATURED FOR MY AGE
lady koko: YOUNGER GUYS
18andabove: did u say 14?
lady koko: CANT SATISFY MY NEED
lady koko: LOL
lady koko: YES..WELL HE DIDNT KNU I WAS 14
18andabove: ow old was the youngest person u dated?
lady koko: LIKE I SED....I AM QUITE MATURED
lady koko: AM SURE IF I TOLD U MY AGE U WUD BE RATHER SHOCKED
18andabove: u look it...
lady koko: LOL
18andabove: go ahead....
lady koko: I LOOK WOT
lady koko: OLD????
lady koko: GOODNESS
18andabove: u look older...lol
lady koko: I AM A KOKOLET OOOOOOOOO
18andabove: maybe its cause the pic is slanted...lol
lady koko: DO U AGREE
18andabove: yeah yeah....lol
lady koko: I'LL TAKE IT AS A COMPLIMENT
18andabove: have to see a lot of ur pics to agree...lol
lady koko: LOL
18andabove: so why do u blog?
lady koko: BECOS I LIKE TO TALK
lady koko: AND WRITING
lady koko: IS THE NEXT BEST THING
18andabove: lol...
lady koko: LOL
18andabove: ever tot of been a presenter on radio or tv?
lady koko: YES ....BUT FUNY ENUFF..I CAN BE QUITE SHY IN FRONT OF A CAMERA
lady koko: LOL
18andabove: and in front of people too....lol
lady koko: WELL..IT DEPENDS ON THE CAMERA MAN ACTUALLY
lady koko: U KNU WOT
18andabove: lol...u naughty girl..lol
18andabove: wat?
lady koko: PEOPLE SEE ME..
lady koko: ESPECIALLY THOSE THAT KNOW ME
lady koko: EXPECT ME TO BE BURST OF ENERGY 24/7
lady koko: I AM QUITE A LIVELY BALL OF FIRE
lady koko: I GET EXCITED EASILY
lady koko: BUT
lady koko: i do get shy too
lady koko: LOL
18andabove: so wats ur favourite drink ....
18andabove: apart from rum?
lady koko: SNAKE BITE
18andabove: lol....
lady koko: HAVE U TATSED IIT
lady koko: ITS SOOOO LOVELEY
lady koko: COMES IN MY FAVOURITE COLOUR TOO
18andabove: neva= got a snake bite me b4...lol
lady koko: LIKE A WINEY SORTA RED
lady koko: LOL
18andabove: just kidding....is it suppossed to be an energy drink or wat?
lady koko: WELL ITS KINDA LIKE A COCKTAIL
18andabove: ok....
lady koko: DEP/WINEY RED
lady koko: HAS A HINT OF STRWBERRY
lady koko: HAS A TANGY AFTER YASTE
18andabove: i have a thing for energy drinks though...
lady koko: REALLY
18andabove: gosh, cant talk abt drinks too..lol
lady koko: I HAVE WAYYYYYYY TOO MUCH ENERGY ALREADY
18andabove: i guess...
lady koko: ENERGY DRINKS...MIGHT MAKE ME LOOK LIKE AM ON CRACK
18andabove: lol....
18andabove: u ever been in nigeria since then?
lady koko: OF COURSE
lady koko: LASTE TIME WAS EASTER
lady koko: AM COMING FOR CHRISTMAS TOO
18andabove: ok...
lady koko: I ALWAYS COME BACK
lady koko: HW DO U THINK
18andabove: nice...so i'd get to see this dynamite...
lady koko: I MAINTAIN MY NAIJA FLINGS
lady koko: LOL
18andabove: lol...
lady koko: WE'LL SET A DATE
18andabove: i'll come to dat later....
lady koko: LOL
lady koko: LOL
18andabove: really ....why wld i ask u out rather than the other chick?
lady koko: AM NO DIFFERNT FROM THE OTHA CHICKS
lady koko: EXCEPT WE HAVE
lady koko: DIFFEREN STORIES TO TELL
lady koko: AND MINE MIGHT BE MORE INTERSTING
18andabove: ok....
lady koko: am worth the risk*
lady koko: lol
18andabove: so its not that u're a model....
lady koko: well some say i look like one
18andabove: cocacola shaped....halle berry looking bombshell...lol
lady koko: lol
18andabove: we better set a date right now then...lol
lady koko: halle berry aint all that
lady koko: lololololol
18andabove: she is....
18andabove: and lets not go there...lol
lady koko: SOPHIE ELLIS BEXTOR
lady koko: IS MORE LIKE IT
lady koko: LOL
18andabove: nice....
18andabove: so anyone introduce u to blogging?
lady koko: NO..I JUST STUMBLED ON TO IT
18andabove: ok?
lady koko: ADDICTED TO FASHION BLOGS
lady koko: JUST WENT ON FROM THERE
18andabove: okay....
18andabove: and most of ur posts are true...
lady koko: ALL my posts r true
18andabove: sure????
lady koko: 100 PERCENT
lady koko: THATS Y I TAKE SUM
lady koko: WELL
18andabove: even the almost raunchy ones...
lady koko: MOST POSTS DOWN
lady koko: AFTER A WHILE
lady koko: I FEEL NAKED
18andabove: okay....
18andabove: anything u ever written affected u in real life
lady koko: WELL I HAD AN INCIDENT
18andabove: ok...
lady koko: WHERE I HAD SLAGGED OFF
lady koko: ONE OF MY FRIENDS
lady koko: LOL
lady koko: BASICALLY I VENTED
18andabove: ok???
lady koko: AND THAT SAME DAY
lady koko: SHE CALLED ME TELLING
lady koko: ME SHE WAS HURT
lady koko: AND ALL
lady koko: AND I PANICKED
18andabove: ow???/
lady koko: THINKING SHE HAD READ MY POST..we will never know
lady koko: lol
18andabove: God ,,,, u got compromised...lol
lady koko: *i am now a cautious blogger....SAD
18andabove: ow identities are the most sacred things to us....we bloggers...lol
lady koko: WELL
18andabove: not that i care though...lol
lady koko: WHEN I FIRST STARTED
lady koko: I WANT ANNONYMOUS
18andabove: ok?
lady koko: I HAD MY PIC UP AND ALL
18andabove: ok?
lady koko: MY DEFENSE THEN WAS THAT
lady koko: i was telling my own gist
18andabove: ok?
lady koko: BUT I SOON LEARNED
lady koko: LOL
18andabove: abi o...lol
lady koko: LOLOL
18andabove: met any bloggers yet?
lady koko: ERM......
lady koko: WELL..
lady koko: NOT PHYSICALLY
lady koko: BUT I'VE SEEN SOME PICS AND ALL
18andabove: yes now...lol
lady koko: AND THE CREEPY PART
lady koko: IS THE ONES
lady koko: THAT GO TO THE SAME PARTIES
18andabove: okay...lol
lady koko: AND WE CANT FIGURE OUT WHO WE R
lady koko: LOLOLOLOL
18andabove: abi o...lol
18andabove: so any blogger u'd like to meet ....physically that is,
18andabove: apart from me o...lol
lady koko: WELL......
lady koko: HONESTLY....
18andabove: yes???
lady koko: I DONT REALLY MIND WHICH BLOGGERS I GET TO MEET
lady koko: I THINK I WUD STILL BE EXCITED
18andabove: sheybii...lol
lady koko: LOL
18andabove: u're above 18 right?
lady koko: OF COURSE
lady koko: AINT NO UNDERAGE BITCH
lady koko: THANK YOU VERY MUCH
18andabove: and now.....i can see ur legs...lol
lady koko: LOL
lady koko: ITS NOT 4 U
lady koko: MY EX IS ONLINE
lady koko: JUST THTO I'D SHOW HIM WOT HE IS MISSING
lady koko: LOLOLOLOLOL
18andabove: ever used a mobile dating service before.....?
18andabove: lol
lady koko: am a bitch like that
18andabove: u bad girl...lol
lady koko: NO!!!!
18andabove: we've not gotten to the part where u swear...lol
lady koko: NO TO MOBIE DATING SERVICE
lady koko: I AINT SWEARING
18andabove: thought u been there, done that?
lady koko: LOLOLOLOL
lady koko: NAAAA
lady koko: MOBILE DATING..INTERNET DATING
lady koko: THOSE
lady koko: R
18andabove: okay???
lady koko: ADVENTURES FOR ANOTHER DAY
18andabove: dont say it....
lady koko: LOLOLOL
18andabove: okay....thought u'd use a different word...lol
lady koko: LOLOL
lady koko: DARLING
lady koko: I AINT GONNA SWEAR
18andabove: lol...
lady koko: BITCH AINT A SWEAR WORD TO ME OO
18andabove: thanks my dear...
lady koko: BITCH=SISTA
18andabove: so why did u break up with ur Ex?
lady koko: AHHH
lady koko: HE'S CHEATING ASS..JUST WASNT MAN ENUFF FOR ME ANYMORE
lady koko: THERE WERE GREATER MEN IN THE WORLD TO DATE
18andabove: so u did the breaking up bit???
lady koko: OF COURSE
lady koko: NO ONE BREKS UP WITH LADY KOKO
lady koko: EVEN WEN I WAS YOUNG
lady koko: IF I SENSE IT COMING
lady koko: B4 U SAY THE WORDS
18andabove: wat did the other chick have that u didnt...?
lady koko: I WILL DUMO UR ASS
lady koko: A PUSSY THAT WAS WILLING
18andabove: okay...point taken...lol
lady koko: i am a vigin
lady koko: a PROUD ONE OOOO
18andabove: what????
lady koko: A FUCKABLE ONE
lady koko: BUT I JUST CHOOSE TO WAIT TILL I
lady koko: WANT TO BE SEXUALLY ACTIVE
lady koko: I KNOW MYSELF
lady koko: I COULD BE A FREAK
18andabove: so u aint sexually active yet...?
lady koko: BEST TO UNLEASH IT IN DUE TIME
lady koko: no...
18andabove: wait...ow old are u again?
lady koko: ITS BEEN HARD
lady koko: VERYYYYYYY HARD
lady koko: BUT AM A STRONG WOMEN
18andabove: got to be sure u're 18....
18andabove: lol
lady koko: AM OLD ENIFF TO HAVE SEX OOOO
lady koko: LOLO
lady koko: AM IN MY 20'S
lady koko: BASICALLY I AINT A TEENAGER NO MORE
18andabove: cause u said u werent sexually active...
18andabove: okay...
lady koko: IS THAT A SHOCK
lady koko: IT IS TO EVERYONE
18andabove: so wats the best thing abt being a virgin...
lady koko: IN FACT MY OWN BESTFRIEND
18andabove: yes i am shocked...
lady koko: DOESNT BELIEVE ME
18andabove: wat u have is rare....
lady koko: I KNOW
18andabove: i believe u though...
lady koko: YES ITS TRUE
lady koko: WELL
lady koko: THE BEST THING
lady koko: IS KNOWING
18andabove: ok?
lady koko: AND RESPECTING..how in conteol i am
lady koko: OF MYSELF
lady koko: IT HAS NOTHING TO D WITH
18andabove: thats terrific...
lady koko: THE ACTUAL SEX FOR ME
lady koko: ITS JUST THE CONTROL ASPECT I ABSOLTELY LOVE
18andabove: everyoneelse let there...bodies control them
lady koko: just to clarify
18andabove: yes...wish i cld too...lol
lady koko: EXACTLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
lady koko: BUT ITS NOT EASY
lady koko: TO ME
lady koko: I WILL MOST PROBABLY EMBARK ON THAT JOURNEY(well of course i will)
lady koko: lol
18andabove: yeah...it isnt...
lady koko: but IT JUST HAS TO FEEL right
lady koko: if uknu wot imean
18andabove: yes it does....
lady koko: AND NO I AINT SHY OF MY BODY OOOO
lady koko: ALL BOYFRIENDS HAVE SEEN ME NAKED
18andabove: we wont let just anyone hit it...lol
lady koko: LOLOLOL
18andabove: okay....
lady koko: YEA ........ITS TOOO HOT TO HANDLE
18andabove: and i bet they tried....
lady koko: LOLOLOLOLOL
lady koko: LOLOLOLOL
lady koko: WELL THEY KNEW
18andabove: but u wldnt just bulge and they'd think there's something wrong with u...lol
lady koko: WOT THEY WERE GETTING INTO
lady koko: NO
lady koko: THERE ARE MANY OTHER ROUTES
lady koko: OTHER THAN SEX
18andabove: and they went ahead...lol
lady koko: *WINK*
18andabove: yeah i know....lol
lady koko: THEY KNOW THERE AINT NUTIN WRONG WIV ME
18andabove: u bad girl...
lady koko: AM A BAD GIRL
18andabove: ok... so means u're really all talk , no action?
lady koko: behind closed doors
lady koko: U KU WOT
lady koko: I HATE TO ADMIT IT BUT UR RIGHT
lady koko: AM ALL TALK....MINIMAL ACTION
lady koko: LOL
lady koko: AM A TEASE/...
lady koko: AM A TERRIBLE FLIRT
18andabove: lol....
lady koko: BUT DUN MEAN U GETTING SUM
lady koko: LOLOLOLOL
18andabove: guessed as much...lol
lady koko: THE THE GIRL MEN LOVE TO HATE
lady koko: LOLOLOLOLOLOL
lady koko: * AM CHANGING THO
lady koko: LOLOLOLOLOLOLOL
18andabove: so seen any movies recently?
lady koko: YEA
lady koko: BEEN WATCHING OLD CLASSIC MOVIES
lady koko: LIKE PRETTY WOMAN]LOVE AND BASKET BALL
lady koko: BROWN SUGAR
18andabove: okay...
lady koko: *SINGLE WOMEN MOVIES
lady koko: LOLOLOLOLOL
18andabove: so u're really into drama flicks...
lady koko: TOOOOOOOOOO MUCH
lady koko: AM INTO ANYTHING GIRLY..ANYTHIGN ROMANCE
lady koko: AM A SUCKA FOR LOVE
lady koko: CAN U TELL?
18andabove: wld u ever consider mobile dating....seeing i run a mobile dating service?...*wink*
lady koko: THATS UNKNOWN TERRITORY
lady koko: I FEEL LIKE
lady koko: Y SHUD I
18andabove: yeah i can....thats y i can only see ur legs in this pic....lol
lady koko: ALREADY I HAVE TOO MANY
lady koko: DATES TO HANDLE
18andabove: like ow many?
lady koko: TO I NEED THE EXTRA
lady koko: ONES I CANT EVEN SEE
18andabove: thats wat they all say....lol
lady koko: YEA MANY SAY THATS THEIR LIFE...I live the life
lady koko: am a serial dater
lady koko: its wot i do with my spare time
lady koko: LOL
18andabove: lol
18andabove: lol
18andabove: so right now, thats a no...?
lady koko: ITS A
lady koko: *MAYBE..IF AM FEELING ADVENTROUS
lady koko: I WILL TRY MOST THINGS ONCE
lady koko: JUST TO SAY I'VE DONE IT
18andabove: thats me too....
lady koko: AM IMPLUSLIVE LIKE THAT
lady koko: YOUT TOO
18andabove: even if its a dare....lol
lady koko: YEA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
lady koko: ME TOO!!!!!!!!!!
18andabove: almost killed mesef cause of a dare...
lady koko: BUHAHHAHAHA
lady koko: HOW??
lady koko: WHAT DID U DO OO??
lady koko: LOLOLOL
18andabove: and i got to climb everest by God's Grace...lol
18andabove: i almost finished a bottle of pasties...
18andabove: its like fruty rum...
lady koko: AM GOING TO ISREAL TO CLIMB A MOUTAIN SOON
lady koko: CANT REMEBER WOT ITS CALLED
lady koko: AND I'VE ALREADY CLOMBED SOME IN IBADAN
lady koko: LOL
lady koko: LOL
18andabove: lol
18andabove: which one in ibadan
lady koko: CANT REMEBER THE NAME MEHNN
lady koko: BUT I KNU ITS IN IBADAN
lady koko: LOL
18andabove: i'm hoping to do the highest pic in nigeria december...
18andabove: peak....u invited
lady koko: WOTS A PEAK
lady koko: OH U MEAN MOUTAIN
18andabove: yeah...
lady koko: CLIMB THE HEIGHEST IN NIGERIA??
18andabove: yes...
lady koko: MOST DEF
lady koko: BUT WOT STATE WILL THAT BE IN THO
lady koko: MY DRIVER WILL HAVE TO LEARN THE ROAD
lady koko: LOLOLOL
18andabove: no probs then
18andabove: its in taraba state...
lady koko: WHERE D HELL IS THAT
lady koko: HOW MANY HOURS FROM LAGOS
18andabove: just on the border with cameroun...
lady koko: WOT!!!!!!!!!
18andabove: lets just say 24
lady koko: SORRY OH
18andabove: lol
lady koko: NOT ME AND YOU
lady koko: LOL
18andabove: u dey fear abi...lol
lady koko: SO I WNT BATH
lady koko: FOR 24 HRS
lady koko: OR BRUSH TEETH
lady koko: SORRY OOO
18andabove: thought u gt extra balls...lol
lady koko: BUT EHN....
lady koko: ITS WAYYYYY
lady koko: OUT OF MY COMFORT ZONE
lady koko: BESIDES U SHUD BE THINKING
18andabove: lol
18andabove: abt?
lady koko: BIUT TREATING ME TO A ROMANTIC DATE
lady koko: THT MORE MY STYLE
lady koko: LOLOLOLO
18andabove: nah....u got enough of that...
lady koko: LOL
lady koko: UR JUST SCARED
lady koko: LOOLO
18andabove: i've got to be different...
18andabove: so u can remember me all the time...lol
lady koko: LOL
lady koko: HMMM
lady koko: INTERSTING
lady koko: WOT WUD
lady koko: U CONSIDER A UNIQUE DATE THEN
18andabove: wat wld u consider a unique date?
lady koko: I ASKED U FIRST
lady koko: WELL..NO ONE SEEMS TO GO SWIMMING AS A DATE ANYMORE
lady koko: AND THAT D PERFECT WAY
lady koko: TO CHECK UR BABES BODY OUT
lady koko: I GUESS GUYS AINT THAT SMART ANYMORE
18andabove: ladies 1st...lol
lady koko: LOLOLOL
lady koko: *DNT PUNCH ME OO
18andabove: lol....
18andabove: thats a new one...lol
18andabove: guys usually do the big two...
18andabove: movies and restaurant...lol
lady koko: WOTS DAT
lady koko: boring!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
lady koko: BESIDES
lady koko: MOVIES??????????
18andabove: shey...
lady koko: U CANT EVEN TALK
lady koko: IN D CINEMA
18andabove: well, u can
lady koko: THTS D DATE
lady koko: FOR WHEN U ALREADY KNU EACHOTHER
lady koko: SO THAT
lady koko: ITS D DATE FOR GETTING PHYSICALLY FAMILIAR
18andabove: u only have to contend with the popcorn thrown from others...lol
lady koko: IN THE DARK U CAN EXPLORE
lady koko: EACH OTHER
lady koko: LOLOLOLO
18andabove: lol....bad gurl...?
18andabove: so wat kinda guys u like?
lady koko: ALL MY EXS ARE ABSILUTELY DIFFERENT
lady koko: I DNT HAVE A TYPE
lady koko: BUT I USUALLY
18andabove: ok...
lady koko: AM NOT PHYSICALLY BLINDED
lady koko: AND THATS D HONEST TRUTH
18andabove: nice then...
lady koko: I LURRRRRRRRRRVE ME SUM SWAGGER
18andabove: so u cld date someone shorter...
lady koko: SOME CONFIDENCE
lady koko: NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
lady koko: APART FROM SHORTER
18andabove: i'm short....
lady koko: SHORTER IS THE ONLY TABOO
18andabove: well at 5 7, i think i am...lol
lady koko: AWW..BABES OKAY I WONT WEAR HEELS
18andabove: so i'm out, tom cruise is out, al pacino is out...
lady koko: LOL
18andabove: lol...
lady koko: I NEVER SED SO
lady koko: U KNU WOT
lady koko: THERE IS ALWAYS A FIRST!
lady koko: HEHE
18andabove: and tom did nicole and wats her name...kate...lol
lady koko: BUT U SEE
lady koko: THEY LOOK OKAY
lady koko: THEY STILL LOOK CUTE
18andabove: lol
lady koko: IT ;LOOKS WEIRD
lady koko: ONLY
lady koko: WHEN THE PARTIES ARE UNCOMFORTABLE WIV IT
18andabove: i'm a stunner....if i say so mesef...lo
lady koko: LOL
18andabove: yeah i guess....
lady koko: AND IT ONLY LOOKS GOOD
lady koko: WHEN
18andabove: so its a no fly zone for u lol
lady koko: THE GIRL IS TALL BUT SLENDER
18andabove: yeah...u slender....
lady koko: *GOD FORGIVE ME FOR SAYING THAT BUT ITS THE TRUTH
18andabove: well unless this is a pic of ur sis...lol
18andabove: yeah it is...
lady koko: LOLOLOLOL
lady koko: NO ITS NOT MA SIS
lady koko: OO ABEG..D GIRL IS ONLY 14
lady koko: LOLOLLOL
18andabove: lol...
lady koko: LOL
lady koko: GOSH
18andabove: come to think of it u...look 14..lol
lady koko: UR KINDA FUN
lady koko: EXCUSE ME
lady koko: ???????????
18andabove: thanks
18andabove: lol...
lady koko: U CANT EVEN SEE MY FACE PROPERLY
lady koko: WORREVER
18andabove: well cause u dont want me...lol
lady koko:
18andabove: cant c any emmm...chest...
18andabove: then no emmm...arsenal...
18andabove: lol...
lady koko: ACTAULLY
lady koko: I HAVE REALLY GOOD CHEST FOR A SLENDER CHICK
lady koko: BUT I GUESS U WILL NEVER KNU
18andabove: yeah yeah...lol
lady koko: COS I AINT GONNA LET U FEEL
18andabove: i will when u come over, remember..lol
lady koko:
18andabove: lol
18andabove: doubt that...lol
lady koko: NOT IF I BRING MY BIG BROTHER WITH ME
18andabove: so wat team u support?
lady koko:
lady koko: i dont like football..I DONT WATCH FOOTBALL
18andabove: he'll be the body guard for me and u...lol
lady koko: I DNT CARE ABOUT FOOTBALL
lady koko: LOL
18andabove: eeya/....u dont know wat u missing..lol
lady koko: MY BRO BODY GURAD
lady koko: LOL
lady koko: U R JUST CRAZZY
18andabove: so apart from swimming* wink*....wat other sport u do?
lady koko: AM VERY ATHLETIC
lady koko: WELL USED TO BE
lady koko: LOL
lady koko: BASKETBALL
lady koko: TENNIS
lady koko: I LOVE SPORTS MEHNN
18andabove: just not football...lol
lady koko: NOPE....NOT MY CUP OF TEA
lady koko: BUT IF MY MAN
18andabove: so u're 5 10, 6, 6 2?
lady koko: LOVES FOOTBALL
lady koko: I'LL SHOW MY SUPORT
lady koko: BY
18andabove: lol
lady koko: MAKING HIM A SANDWICH
lady koko: AND BRINGING HIM HE'S CAN OF BEER
18andabove: nice....
lady koko: LOL
18andabove: and when sulking after a loss?
lady koko: AM NOT GONNA DISCLOSE MY HEIGHT
lady koko: LOL
18andabove: ok....
lady koko: I'LL GIVE HIM A BJ
lady koko: THATS HUD CHEER HIM UP
lady koko: #
lady koko: ,LOLOLOLOLOLOLOL
18andabove: lets see...i think u're...5 4....thats why u're height sensitive...lol
18andabove: lol...u bad gurl...
lady koko: AM NOT BAD
18andabove: said that like ow many times already>????
lady koko: AM BEING SARCASTIC
18andabove: lol
lady koko: 5'4?????????
lady koko: NO MATE
18andabove: ok...then...any song u in love with right now?
lady koko: MY DEAR I HAVE TO BE LEAVING SOON.....I HAVE TO MAKE DINNER FOR S FRIEND
18andabove: no probs...
lady koko: WE HAE 30 MINS TO CHAT
18andabove: as in 30 more mins?
lady koko: YEA
lady koko: I HAVE A SONG I
18andabove: which one?
lady koko: YEA 30 MORE MINS
lady koko: ITS CALLED
lady koko: BUST YOUR WINDOW
18andabove: by ????
lady koko: BY JAZMINE SULIVAN
18andabove: not heard it yet....
lady koko: ITS BASICALLY
lady koko: ABOUT
lady koko: A GUY THAT CHEATED ON HER
18andabove: lets see if i can find it online...
18andabove: ok...
lady koko: AND SHE IS TELLING HIM
lady koko: WHAT SHE DID TO HE'S PRECIOUS CAR
18andabove: lol...
lady koko: *EVIL LAUGH
18andabove: u cldnt do that wld u?
lady koko: HE DESERVED IT IF U ASK ME
lady koko: NAA
lady koko: I CUDNT DO THAT
lady koko: ONLY BECOS
18andabove: lol...
lady koko: AM TOO CLASSY FRO THAT RUBBISH
lady koko: AND I KNU
lady koko: HE WILL COME BEGGING EVENTUALLY
18andabove: lol
lady koko: *THEY ALWAYS DO
lady koko: *SIGH
18andabove: yeah yeah..
18andabove: lol...
lady koko: AM NOT SAYING THAT
lady koko: JUST BECOS.....like evry otha girl
18andabove: so a guy's confidence wld definatlly attract u to him?
lady koko: that thinks she's d shit
lady koko: YES!!!!!!!!! YES!!!!!!!!!YES!!!!!!!!!
lady koko: CONFIDENCE
lady koko: I ABSOLUTELY
lady koko: CAN NOT RESIST
lady koko: UGLY GUY OR PRETTY GUY
lady koko: THE SWAGGER
18andabove: its not if he drives a bently....or looks like the hulk?
lady koko: SPEAKS FOR ITSELF
18andabove: lol...
lady koko: PLSSSSSS
lady koko: THATS SOOOO BORING THESE DAYS
18andabove: cld u ask a guy out?
lady koko: depth....is more exciting
lady koko: I ALREADY HAVE ..ONCE
lady koko: NEVER AGIN THO
18andabove: ehn ehn,
18andabove: ow did it go?
lady koko: AND I ONLY
lady koko: DID
lady koko: IT BECOS
lady koko: I WANTED TO CHECK IT OFF MY LIST
18andabove: ....?
lady koko: OF THINGS TO DO
18andabove: lol...
lady koko: I WAS TESTING MYSELF..SO SEE HOW BOLD I CUD BE
lady koko: IT WASNT COS I WAS DROOLING OVER HIM SOO BADLY
18andabove: u really bold...
18andabove: i get....
18andabove: so ow did it end?
lady koko: I HVE MY MOMENTS
lady koko: HE FELL MADLY IN LOVE WITH ME
lady koko: HONEST]
lady koko: BUT GOT A BIT TOO CLINGY
18andabove: lol////
lady koko: HE WAS A GOOD GUY..JUST NOT THE GOOD GUY FOR ME
lady koko: I HATE TO BE BORED
18andabove: why do we not like the clingy ones..lol
lady koko: what started as summin exciting
lady koko: now starts
18andabove: been hearing that phrase recently...
lady koko: to becosme too predictable
18andabove: yeah....
lady koko: thats d problem wiv clingy guys
lady koko: U NEED TO LEARN TO CONTROL URSELF
18andabove: and gurls to
lady koko: FAKE IT
lady koko: BECOS GIRLS
18andabove: too...
lady koko: DNT WANT
18andabove: ok
lady koko: TO BE SMOTHERED EVERYTIME
lady koko: IT MAKES UR KISSES LESS SPECIAL...
lady koko: UR TALK BECOMES CHEAP
18andabove: lol...
lady koko: LOL
18andabove: wld u go out with ur best friend's ex?
lady koko: NEVER!!!!!!!!
lady koko: WHERES THE LOYALTY
lady koko: SHE CANT BE EX GIRL TO THE NEST GIRL
lady koko: THEN HAVE THAT NEXT GIRL BE ME
18andabove: even if they broke up abt 5 yrs ago?
lady koko: IT WILL BE WEIRD NAWW
lady koko: LIKE
18andabove: lol
lady koko: HW DO U COPE KNOWING
lady koko: THAT THEY ONCE USED
lady koko: TO CARESS AND KISS
lady koko: SO R WE ALL EXPECTED TO GO ON DOUBLE DATES
18andabove: lol...
lady koko: LIKE A DISFUNCTIONAL FAMILY
lady koko: PLS ABEG
18andabove: lol...
lady koko: ITS JUTS EASIER AND LESS HEADACHE TO AVOID SUCH
18andabove: talking abt fam, wu u closer to?
lady koko: HOWEVER
lady koko: I WILL DEF DATE MY BESTFRIENDS
lady koko: EX-CRUSH
18andabove: thats ok, i guess.
lady koko: AM A DADDY'S GIRL
lady koko: AM MUMMY'S SISTER/GIRLFIEND
18andabove: u got ur looks from him too?
lady koko: AM MY LIL SIS'S HERO/INSPIRATION
18andabove: eeya...
lady koko: AM MY BIG BRO'S BABY
lady koko: EVERYONE OF THEM PLAYS
18andabove: thats so cute....lol
lady koko: SUCH A SIGNIFICANT ROLE
lady koko: we r a reallllllllllllllllly
lady koko: closeeeeeeeeeeeee family
18andabove: we all need fam
lady koko: ESPECIALLY FOR NIGERIANS
lady koko: I KNOW RIGHT
18andabove: yeah...
18andabove: so lets say this medicne thing doesnt work out...
18andabove: wat wld u do?
lady koko: GOD FORBID
lady koko: DIDNT PLAN ANYTHIGN ELSE
lady koko: THATS WOT I AKLWAYS DREAMT OF
18andabove: sorry, hit a raw nerve i guess...lol
lady koko: I HAVE NO OTHER OPTIONS..LITERALLY
18andabove: sticking needles into everyones arses...lol
lady koko: not rally..am just scared
lady koko: that all
18andabove: lol...
lady koko: lol
lady koko: AM TOO PASSIONATE..I JUST HAVE TO MAKE IT
lady koko: U FEEL ME
18andabove: yeah i do...
18andabove: u ooze originality, confidence, care, uniqueness and sophistication
18andabove: bad gurl...lol
lady koko: OH MA GOSH!!!!!!!!!!!!
lady koko: R U SERIOUS
18andabove: yeah
lady koko: DO U REALLY GET ALL THAT
lady koko: JUST FROM THIS CONVO
lady koko: WOW!!!!!!!!!!!
18andabove: yes ma....
18andabove: deduced that already....
18andabove: just that u get shy...
18andabove: when u least expect it
lady koko: lolo...YEA..LOLOLOL
lady koko: AM SHY OF MY BADNESS
lady koko: LLOLOLOLOL
18andabove: lol
lady koko: NO ONE WANTS TO BE JUDGED
lady koko: BECOS OF THAT
lady koko: U KNU
lady koko: LOLOLOLOL
18andabove: lol...
18andabove: so he's got confidence....but he still doesnt get ur number....why?
lady koko: BECOS OUR SOULS JUST DID NOT CONNECT
lady koko: SIMPLE
lady koko: AM QUITE A SPIRITUAL PERSON
lady koko: IN D SENSE THAT
18andabove: ehn ehn...
18andabove: ok?
lady koko: I ALWAYS
lady koko: SORT OF SENSE PEOPLE FROM A MILE
lady koko: I DNT KNU HW TO EXPLAIN IT
lady koko: OAKY LIKE
lady koko: SOME PEOPLE WONDER WHY I GIVE SUM PEOPLE THE TIME OF THE DAY
18andabove: ok...
lady koko: THEY WONDER Y I MOST TIMES DNT CARE TO KNU THE POPULAR PEOPLE
18andabove: ok?
lady koko: ITS JUST BECOS I OFTEN RECOGNISE
18andabove: maybe its just telepathy?
18andabove: i have it with my twin...
lady koko: UR A TWIN???????????
lady koko: REALLY?????????????
18andabove: yeah i am...
18andabove: my name is kehinde...
18andabove: u never did me the honours of telling me urs?
lady koko: LOLOLOLOL
lady koko: NAMES R REALLY PERSONAL
18andabove: will u???
18andabove: u know wat forget it...
lady koko: MY NAME IS.......................................
lady koko: COCOA
18andabove: so....wat are conversation killers...for u???
lady koko: EVERYONE CALLS ME COCOA
18andabove: not me...lol
lady koko: so wot do u want to call me
lady koko: give me a ncikname
lady koko: hehe
lady koko: *am soo chessesy
lady koko: but realy wot do u wanna call me
18andabove: still thinking abt it....
lady koko: well i'll answer ur previous question
18andabove: wat wld u like a guy to talk abt when he approaches u?
lady koko: while u think
18andabove: ok...
lady koko: okay i'll ansa that too
lady koko: converstains killer for me
lady koko: are dudes talking about THEIR VOILENT NATURE
18andabove: ok...
lady koko: AND GIRLS TALKING DIRTY ABOUT THEIR BESTFRIENDS
18andabove: lol...
lady koko: BESTFRIENDS R SPECIAL...
lady koko: U NEVA VENT ABOUT THEM TO JUST ANYBODY
lady koko: AND WHEN A GUY FIRST MEETS ME
18andabove: ok?
lady koko: I CANT SAY WHAT I WUD LIKE TO HEAR..I LOVE TO BE SURPRISED....BUT PLS
lady koko: IF U GONNA
lady koko: USE A CHAT UP LINE
18andabove: ok?
lady koko: USE ONE I HAVE NEVER HEARD BEFORE...AND DELIEVER IT WITH HUMOUR
18andabove: lol...
lady koko: AND DNT BE OFFENDED WHEN I CALL U A *CHESSEBALL...
lady koko: IN FACT
18andabove: wat of "i've we met before"
lady koko: I WILL RESPECT U MORE
lady koko: IF U *ACCEPTED
lady koko: NO..THATS PLAYED OUT
18andabove: lol...
lady koko: IF I FIND U
lady koko: PHYSICALLY ATTRACTIVE
lady koko: I'LL PROBABLY SAY
lady koko: "YES WE HAVE.....I SAW U IN MY DREAMS
18andabove: or "wat are the chances we hitting the sack tonight:...lol
lady koko: COS AM CHESSEY LIKE THAT
18andabove: bad gurl...lol
lady koko: LOLOL
lady koko: I WILL SIMPLY ROLL MY EYES AND SAY
lady koko: WOT R THE CHANCES OF U WANKING URSELF TONIGHT
18andabove: lol
lady koko: 98%
18andabove:
lady koko: NAA
lady koko: THATS JUST LAIN RUDE
lady koko: FOR HIM TO BE ASKING THAT
18andabove: lol
lady koko: ONLY BOYFRIENDS
lady koko: R ALLOWED TO PLAY LIKE THAT
18andabove: lol
lady koko: LOL
lady koko: LOLOL
18andabove: so when does he go from being an acquitance to a lover...?
18andabove: ow many months...weeks...days...?
lady koko: I DNT PUT RESTRICTION IN TERMS OF TIME
lady koko: I DNT FOLLOW A RULE
18andabove: ok
lady koko: WHEN IT COMES TO THIS
lady koko: WHEN IT FEELS WE HAVE GOTTEN TO KNU
lady koko: EACHOTHER
lady koko: TO THAT LEVEL
lady koko: AND WE CANT GET TO THAT LEAVEL
lady koko: IN JUST 2 WEEKS NOW CAN WE
18andabove: ok?
lady koko: AM A COMPLEX OPEN BOOK
lady koko: U WILL NEED AT LEAST
lady koko: 2 MONTHS
18andabove: u're a complex complex book...lol
18andabove: only u understands u...lol
lady koko: AM A COMPLEX..open BOOK
18andabove: well right now...lol
lady koko: NO AM A VERY UNDESTANDBAL PEROSN
lady koko: I WEAR MY SOUL ON MY SLEEVES
lady koko: AM PROUD OF THAT BY THE WAY
18andabove: nice...
lady koko: IT ALLOWS
lady koko: #PEOLE TO KNU
lady koko: THE SIDE OF ME THAY SHUD KNU
18andabove: ok?
lady koko: IF THEY DNT LIKE IT..
lady koko: THEY HAVE EBUFF TIME
lady koko: TO MOVE ON
lady koko: LOLOLOLLO
18andabove: ow did ur 1st kiss feel?
lady koko: IT WAS RATHER LATE
lady koko: I WAS 15
lady koko: IT WAS DIVINE
lady koko: WORTH THE WAIT
lady koko: WORTH THE ANTICIPATION
18andabove: nice...
lady koko: I FELL IN LOVE WITH KISSING
lady koko: I LOVE KISSING
lady koko: AS U CAN TELL
lady koko: KISSING IS A BIG DEAL FOR ME
lady koko: LOL
18andabove: i guess it felt horrible for the guy....lol
lady koko: WHY
18andabove: as in knowing u wont do any other thing...lol
lady koko: I THINK AM GOOD KISSER OO
lady koko: LOL
lady koko: LOLOL
lady koko: THER ARE MANY OTHER THINGS
lady koko: TRUST ME
lady koko: PEOPE R JUST NOT WILLING TO EXPLORE
18andabove: got any special day dream for the main thing...
18andabove: apart from bj, watelse?
lady koko: WE WONT GO INTO THAT NOW
lady koko: LOLOL
lady koko: WE NEED TO GET TO A LEVEL
lady koko: TO DISCUSS SUCH
lady koko: AM SEXUALLY SHY
lady koko: REMEBER
18andabove: wat level????
lady koko: LOLOL
18andabove: yeah i guess...
18andabove: so no special day dream yet?
lady koko: AT LEAST WE WILL REACH
lady koko: FRIEND LEVEL FIRST NAWW
lady koko: U R MERELY AN ACCQUAINTANCE
lady koko: LOLOLOLOL
18andabove: lol...
lady koko: I'VE BEEN DAY DREAMING ABOUT
18andabove: shey...lol
lady koko: BEING KISSED PASSIONATLY
lady koko: THATS THE ONE THING I MISS
lady koko: BEING SINGLE
lady koko: I CANT BRING MYSELF TO PASSIONATELY KISS
18andabove: u're single
lady koko: JUST ANY ONE
lady koko: yea.....
lady koko: but dating
lady koko: i just got out of a 4 yr relationship
18andabove: omo all those uk guys no sharp o...lol
lady koko: lololol
18andabove: eeya...wat he do wrong????
lady koko: awwwwwwwww
18andabove: Btw, when u going to cook?
lady koko: ALLOWING ME TO FIND OUT HE CHEATED
18andabove: lol...
lady koko: IF HE CHEATED BUT DINT LET ME FIND OUT
lady koko: FAIR ENUFF
lady koko: LOLOLOLLOL
18andabove: must have felt really bad...
lady koko: WELL
lady koko: I BROKE UO WIV HIM 2 WEEKS B4 I EVEN FOUND OUT
lady koko: TO BE HNEST
18andabove: so u dumped him before he said "i'm sorry"
lady koko: I DIDNT THINK HE WUD CHEAT
18andabove: has in, in ur mind u'd broken up already...ll
18andabove: lol
lady koko: I TRIED MY BEST TO SATISFY HIM
lady koko: LOLOLOL
lady koko: sex is always the ultimate huh
lady koko: lolololol
18andabove: i guess...well for some pple...
18andabove: some other guys just want someone who'll be there for them...
lady koko: YEA..WELL..THAT WASNT THE ISSUE ANYWAY
lady koko: YEA TRUE
lady koko: I WUD THINK AT A STAGE IN UR LIFE
18andabove: yeah?
lady koko: THAT WILL BE MORE IMPORTNT
18andabove: definately....
lady koko: ANYWAY DARLING
18andabove: i think u're at that stage already
lady koko: REALLY
lady koko: YEA I THINK SO TOO
lady koko: LOLOLOL
18andabove: lol...
lady koko: THATS Y AM SINGLE U SE
lady koko: AM WAITING FOR THR MEN
lady koko: TO FULFILL THAT FANTASIES
18andabove: ok?
lady koko: WITH THE LITLE GIRLS
lady koko: THEN COME AND WIFE ME
lady koko: BUAHHAHHAHHAHA
lady koko: JUST KIDDING
18andabove: lol...
lady koko: OOO
18andabove: lol
18andabove: lol
lady koko: WHO BE MUGUUUUUUU]LOLOL
lady koko: LOLOLOL
18andabove: u really cracking me up...lol
18andabove: we dont have to stop, do we?
lady koko: YES WE DO
18andabove: when?
lady koko: BUT IT WAS GREAT
lady koko: NOW
lady koko: HEHE
lady koko: I REALLY HAD FUN THO
lady koko: TALKING TO U
lady koko: AND WE MUST DEF DO THIS AGIN
18andabove: we cld finish...whenever u're online...
lady koko: OKAY
18andabove: got a name for u...
lady koko: IF AM ON
lady koko: LATER TONIGHT
18andabove: ok?
lady koko: WOT IS IT
18andabove: no tomorrow...
lady koko: OK...BUT WOT IS THE NAME
18andabove: heard the song by kardinal and akon?
lady koko: *DRUM ROLL
lady koko: NO
18andabove: seen the video?
lady koko: NO
18andabove: ok...
18andabove: thats an assignment...lol
lady koko: LOLOLOO
18andabove: go figure...lol
lady koko: OHHHHHHHHHHHHHH I LIKE THAT
18andabove: had a nice time....
lady koko: I'LL DLEIVER MY FINDINGS
18andabove: btw, wat u cooking?
lady koko: WEN NEXT WE TALK
lady koko: FRIED RICE
lady koko: MA FRIEND IS OBSEESSED
lady koko: LOL
18andabove: dont burn it o...lol
lady koko: HEHE
18andabove: if na oyinbo, put plenty pepper...and watch him sweat ...lol
lady koko: WILL TRY
18andabove: thanks for ur time...
lady koko: LOLOLOO
lady koko: U R WICKEDDDDDDDDDDD
lady koko: BUHAHAHAHHAHAHAH
lady koko: MA PLEASURE
18andabove: u wicked too..my dear...
lady koko: #
18andabove: u're like a breath of fresh air...
lady koko: TILL NEXT TIME DARLING..XOXO
18andabove: wish i cld suck u in...
18andabove: literally o...lol
18andabove: l8r
lady koko: BUHAHAHAHAHHHHHAHHAHA
lady koko: BYEEEEEEE
18andabove: bye

Yeepa...that one was close...
hmm una go forgive me...
i got to go

04/10/08 (Guess who's back?)

2008-10-04T12:30:00.000+01:00

AAAAARRRGGGHHH...i'm back
its been a while, i know...
its the ramadan fast, and work, and runs...
the only way to move now is forward
so i'm not going to comment on stuff that happened in my abscence
or maybe its cause alot happened and i cant comprehend ow i'm going to insert them as posts
anyhoo...i'll be in in a few

sunday 31st of August 0808 (Happy Ramadan)

2008-09-05T11:36:00.004+01:00

friday 300808 (Conversation with a babe: Mz.Dee)

2008-09-05T11:29:00.002+01:00

i always wanted to interview all the Most Beautiful Girls in Nigeria since 1960, Insha Allah,i'll prolly still do it,but before then i had to start with my community, this community...i have had conversations with four of the most beautiful ladies in blogville...

now i got a fifth...mz.dee
this conversation just blew me away...
mz.dee na you biko...lol

For Conversation 1:Conversations with a Babe

For Conversation 2:conversations with a babe 2 (zephi)

For Conversations Three:Conversations With A Babe 3 (OK)

For Conversation 4:Thursday 310708 Conversations with a babe (Naija Babe)

MZ DEE: so i'm guessin this is tankojetty?
18andabove: yeah....one and only
MZ DEE: and u know who this is?
18andabove: emmm guessing...mz dee
MZ DEE: hmm.. took u long enuf! lol
18andabove: no vex....
18andabove: D.R.wat a name?
Mz dee: uh yea.. xceptional innit?
18andabove: love it....
Mz dee: thankz...but i can bet my life u;ve never heard it b4. and u'd do me a favour and keep it a secret?
18andabove: yeah i would....
18andabove: every thing we talk abt is going to be confidentiaal
Mz dee: ah ok.. good.
18andabove: R*******************....u from????
Mz dee: Take a wild guess love..
18andabove: i'm thinking....east europe...
Mz dee: hmm... some people consider my country european but I dont think it is...on the other hand... it is in the east.
18andabove: ok....
18andabove: russian, uzbekistein....georgia
Mz dee: nope....shud i help u out?
18andabove: give me a clue
Mz dee: its considered God's Country
18andabove: USA...
18andabove: wait...nigeria???
Mz dee: rreally... U.S.A was never mentioned in the bible.. as far as I know
18andabove: isreal.....
Mz dee: FINALLY!!
18andabove:
Mz dee: ok i'm from the last two countries.. Israel & Nigeria
18andabove: ow long u gonna be online for?
Mz dee: datz why my blog address is israelinaija??
Mz dee: um.. quite awhile
Mz dee: why?
18andabove: oh????....lol
18andabove: ok then so we got time to beat abt the bush????
18andabove: so u been to isreal b4???
Mz dee: lol yea.. if U have the time i mean
18andabove: i do!!!!....lots sef
Mz dee: uh yea.. i lived there 4awhile. and its isrAEl plz.. not E before A
Mz dee: lol ok
18andabove: ema binu....
18andabove: u understand yoruba dont u?
Mz dee: uh....a veryyyyyyy tiny bit. still tryna pick up 4rm mumsi and her sisters
18andabove: ok....ow long u been in nigeria?
Mz dee: since I was born...I lived in Israel for a year wen I was 4.. so its quite a long time ago
18andabove: oh ok....and u're based in ????
Mz dee: Port-Harcourt, Rivers State, Nigeria babyy
18andabove: kidnappers...lol...
Mz dee: hmm.. i hvnt been kidnapped o
18andabove: so wats it abt PH.... u guys seem to walk with a swagger nowadays...
Mz dee: we do?? Ph is prettttty dry.. but I love the city
18andabove: yeah u do....well the ones based in lagos anyways....
18andabove: ever been to lagos?
Mz dee: uh yea.,. lots of times.
Mz dee: headin there next week sef
18andabove: nice...maybe i cld meet a really cute blogger then...lol
Mz dee: ah.. who lied and said I was cute??
Mz dee:
18andabove: so apart from ur beauty and ur height,watelse did u get from ur mum?
Mz dee: got my height 4rm my dad btw.. and dont be makin fun of my height!!!!!! I'm sensitive...
18andabove: me too????...
Mz dee: Got my hair, eyez, nails... 4rm my mum. hehe
18andabove: i'm just 5 7....for a guy...thats short
18andabove: lol....
18andabove: ur mum's isreali, right....
18andabove: got me thinking, ow manage....?
Mz dee: noo
Mz dee: my dad's israeli
Mz dee: my mum is 9ja
Mz dee: 5 7... ure still taller dan me!
18andabove: ok...must be love!!!!
18andabove: ehn ehn...i'm taller?
Mz dee: trust me.. u'd feel lyk a giant around me
18andabove: yeepa...lol
Mz dee: anybody with growth juj shud hola at me abeg..
Mz dee: juju*
18andabove: lol...
18andabove: i used to eat a lot of beans...lol
18andabove: if its by that alone, i shd be as tall as shaq...lol
18andabove: lol....
18andabove: so u're dynamite then....
18andabove: any positives abt being that tall?
Mz dee: i doubt it..lol
18andabove: seriously there must be....
18andabove: okay e.g....i'm at eye level with most women....
18andabove: and most women i know want a guy to look deep into their eyes b4 that 1st kiss...lol
Mz dee: Well....u cud alwayz get her to squat??? lol
18andabove: lol....
18andabove: at wat age did u get or give ur 1st kiss
Mz dee: i got my 1st kiss...wen i was 12.. later bloomer.. thank u very much!
18andabove: 12????
Mz dee: wasnt a french or nuthin.. jst one of dem dry pecks
18andabove: oh....one on the chick???
Mz dee: no on my lipz
Mz dee: but it was still jst a peck
18andabove: bet the boy ran away to hide behind hedges afterwards
Mz dee: u wish! More like I ran away
18andabove: lol...
Mz dee: i denied kissin the dude o....i fink it was cus he wasnt xctly kissin material dat time!
18andabove: lol....
18andabove: and ow do u determine kissing material?
Mz dee: Van Vicker lipz....fresh breath...and knowin hw to work a tongue..
Mz dee: not slurpin and lickin me like sum ice-cream
18andabove: van vicker...??....get away....
18andabove: anyways ever had a guy kiss u that way????
Mz dee: slurpin and lickin??? yes.... once. not my fave memory o!
18andabove: eeeeewwww....spittle everywhere....
18andabove: met anyone who really got it right?
Mz dee: i said its nt my fave memory oooo
Mz dee: yes i hv.................a couple of dudez actually
18andabove: couple?????.tell me something....
18andabove: wat number are u on right now?
Mz dee: on dudez i've kissed or dated?
18andabove: dated
Mz dee: criously or flingish? lol
18andabove: hmm...nice question.....seriously....
18andabove: like ow many?
Mz dee: dated 3 guyz criously. flingishly... can count o. quite a number.. not to be a slut or anything. but after two weekz, i get bored.
18andabove: in a relationship or the fling....
18andabove: a fling to me is just rebound....
18andabove: after a bamz deeelationship,,,u just want to hurt someone....
18andabove: then u have a fling...
Mz dee: a fling to me is jst hvin a bit of fun nd nt gettin into anythin crious
Mz dee: no.. i hvnt rily been in a bamz deeelationship... so i dont think ive ever used someone as a rebound
18andabove: ok...
18andabove: ok...u're jewish right????
Mz dee: no i'm christain
18andabove: ok....
Mz dee: i'm israel-9ja.. but i'm christain. Judaism is the religion
Mz dee: u cud be 4rm india... and become jewish
18andabove: lol
Mz dee: but not israeli
18andabove: i know\]
18andabove: wat do u do?
Mz dee: student 4 nw
18andabove: ok???....specializing in?
Mz dee: goin to specialize in mechanical engineerin.. and later on in life.. a gospel musician.. hopefully.
18andabove: ehn ehn....
Mz dee: still waitin 4 the visa dat'll get me into uni!
18andabove: u're like born again...born again right?
18andabove: oh ok????.
Mz dee: em.. i'm born again. fullstop..letz nt strech it abeg..lol
18andabove: so wat u doing till u get into school....
Mz dee: makin d best of my time left in ph.. a huge break 4rm studies if do say so myself. more like relaxin and babysittin kids... not an ideal life.. i knw!
18andabove: ok?
18andabove: babysitting kids....
Mz dee: so why do u hv a question mark everytime u say ok?
18andabove: hope u're getting paid sha
Mz dee: of course! I wudnt xctly be changin diapers for free..
18andabove: as in ok? usually means...anythingelse...
18andabove: lol....
18andabove: wat wld u rather really be doing?
18andabove: apart from in the bahamas....on the beach...
Mz dee: workin in a music studio
18andabove: ok...
18andabove: ow do u nurtue ur voice....heard some folks drink eggs....yuck...lol
Mz dee: nasty!!!
Mz dee: i HATE eggz with a passion
Mz dee: not to talk of drinkin them...
18andabove: lol...
Mz dee: yuk
Mz dee: i've got loadz of trainin tapes.. i'm alwayz screamin in d mornin...and i drink a lot of tea
18andabove: lol....
18andabove: ever had tomatoes thrown at u, at a singing competition
Mz dee: uh not yet o!... hopefully never will
Mz dee: abi ure wishin bad luck?
18andabove: lol....
Mz dee: well sha
18andabove: i thought every artiste went through that....
18andabove: in the early stages...
Mz dee: if i ever gt a tomatoe thrown at me, i'll knw it was tankojetty
18andabove: lol...
18andabove: wat wld u really want to drum into a guy's head abt u ladies...
18andabove: as in something u wish we knew from the start...
Mz dee: dont come on strong to a lady u barely know
18andabove: okay...
Mz dee: if i met u 5 mins earlier... dont ask me 4 my number 2 mins later
18andabove: lol....
Mz dee: cos u know.. sum guyz get all person within seconds and i rily hate that
18andabove: ow will i meet u again, if i dont get ur number now
Mz dee: naw... i mean if its obvious both parties are still gona be talkin 4awhile... probably at the end of the conversatio, he wud ask
Mz dee: ohand yes.... guyz shud learn to read body language!
18andabove: ok....
Mz dee: i;ve given all the hints that ur borin me and i dont wna talk to u.. and ure still askin 4 my number?
18andabove: ehn ehn...we understand alot...lol
Mz dee: lol]
18andabove: okay a guy comes up to u...
18andabove: u get talking....
18andabove: he's making u laugh, u're having fun...etc...
18andabove: but u dont give him ur number....why wldnt u do that?
Mz dee: yea..
Mz dee: its either he has rily bad english or he's short and lanky
18andabove: lol...
18andabove: thought u'd like tall guys....lol....no other way to go...lol
Mz dee: na.. i dont mind sum1 short.. as long he isnt shorter than me. but wen he's short and thin? so nt gona cut it 4 me
18andabove: wat's that special feature that wld attract a guy to u?
Mz dee: usually its my skin colour
Mz dee: but i'd think its my lipz actually
18andabove: ur lips....gat to see them
18andabove: wat do u find attractive in guys?
Mz dee: same thing.. lipz! lol... wen i see a guy d first thing i check out are his lipz, then shoes, then arms
18andabove: lips to kiss u with, arms u can wrap around it....but shoes?
Mz dee: to look good with wen he stepz outta his car...
18andabove: his car?????
18andabove: so i dont stand a chance with u then
Mz dee: lol i dunno honestly. Its a thing i got with friends back in sec skul. i hate wen a guy is lukin all fly and u see sum canoe lukin shoez dat cud transport ppl across the atlantic on his feet
Mz dee: na.. a car isnt necssary... jst sayin!
18andabove: ok
18andabove: lol
18andabove: so who introduced u to blogging...
Mz dee: The one and only icequeen
18andabove: u do know her personally right?
Mz dee: yup
18andabove: why let all those steam out...?
Mz dee: pardon?
18andabove: as in why do u blog?
Mz dee: oh...probably cos i just love the way the whole blogville community is. i love readin... i love commentin.. and most of all.. i love gettin comments!
18andabove: ok
Mz dee: bloggin is just a whole lotta fun.
18andabove: lol....we all do...love those comments...
18andabove: even though its a chore going back to their blogs...
Mz dee: lol!
18andabove: how long wld it take for u to set ur eyes on him to get in bed with him
Mz dee: a couple of hard-workin monnths!
Mz dee: or weekz.... lol
18andabove: months???? ow long wld it take u to say yes????
18andabove: as in to the toasting and alll....
18andabove: or u still "think abt it"?
Mz dee: probably lyk 2-3 weekz if i'm feelin u immediately... on the other hand, it takez a long time 4 me to eff sum1.
Mz dee: he has to be rily crious bout an "us" kinda relationship
18andabove: eff???
Mz dee: oh please.. u cant xpect me to get all vulgarish here can u? *wide grin*
18andabove: u can....
18andabove: i use it a lot...
18andabove: when wld "love" come into the relationship
Mz dee: wen he can understand me without hearin an explanation.
18andabove: so u really have been in love before?
Mz dee: one guy. but maybe it wasnt love.
Mz dee: isnt* i mean
18andabove: oh oh....said anything to him abt it yet?
Mz dee: said a lot to him about it.
Mz dee: dsnt seem to be goin anywhere.
18andabove: i bet he's not listening...or he doesnt want to admit yet
Mz dee: the latter i think
18andabove: and u were so in "love"...well initially
Mz dee: i like to think that.
18andabove: so wat went wrong....?...
Mz dee: i think we both stopped being on the same page.. he seemed to get angry with me a lot and i didnt seem to understand wat i'd done wrong
18andabove: ok....its not that u got bored.....
18andabove: or the initial adrenalin rush declined
Mz dee: na i dont think so
Mz dee: yet
Mz dee: lol
18andabove: ok....so why use the name mz.dee?
Mz dee: cos i'm a Ms...and the first letter of my name is D
Mz dee: and well.. dee is actually my nickname.. 4 sum ppl dat cant be bothered to say the real thing
18andabove: thought so...
18andabove: i'm sure u get ur name spelt wrongly alot...lol
18andabove: any goomz deeeason why i cant see ur face in this pic?
Mz dee: well i get "pronounced" wrongly a lot
Mz dee: uh yes.. yahoo messenger cut it out.. hehe
18andabove: lol....
18andabove: heard any unique pickup lines lately?
Mz dee: hold on let me get my phone
18andabove: ok?
Mz dee: "as a lioness u shud be a bold woman of honour and virtue. ur action shows u arre afraid of me. isnt it great to be a woman chased with hunger? do u c urself small>? Stand up and make love to me"
Mz dee: criously.. i cant even begin to comment on that rubbish
18andabove: lol
18andabove: wtf?????
18andabove: lol
Mz dee: ask me o!
Mz dee: i dont know how guyz come up with such utter rubbish
18andabove: is he a zoologist....
18andabove: or into drama...lol
Mz dee: for the record.. i didnt give him my number! i totali dunno how he got it
18andabove: "Stand up and make love to me".....lol]
18andabove: lol....
18andabove: u sure got some weird guys following u abt....lol
18andabove: mz.dee abeg no kill me...lol
Mz dee: lol!
18andabove: so u ever used a dating service b4?
Mz dee: thankfully.. no
18andabove: why???...i run one...
Mz dee: yup i know. but u meet all sorts of weirds oon datin services... i'd hate to give my number out to the wrong person
18andabove: the next one'd be calling u a cheetah...lol
Mz dee: true! lol
18andabove: so mz.dee, if i asked u, are u single?....wat wld u say?
Mz dee: you could say that... we took a break... been that way for a couple of months
Mz dee: wudnt get into anythin crious with any guy tho
18andabove: ok...
18andabove: u not just ready, but u wldnt mind a fling???
18andabove: thought guys were the ones not supposed to be commited?
Mz dee: rily? i dont see it that way
18andabove: ok?
Mz dee: i'm not askin 4 anythin... i'm definitely not askin 4 a serious relationship
Mz dee: jst a bit of fun.. if it comes my way
18andabove: ok by me...lol
18andabove: ever dated anyone younger than u?
Mz dee: nope
18andabove: got any book u'd want anyone to read?
Mz dee: for the ladies(esp married or pregnant women): Shopaholic & Baby by Sophie Kinsella
18andabove: for guys?
Mz dee: The Bible jo!
18andabove: lol
18andabove: just finished john grisham...the juror....very interesting...
Mz dee: i'm readin two john grisham bookz now actually. i love his writings
18andabove: nice....btw, wld u date anyone that had a kid
18andabove: wats a fashion no no for u?
Mz dee: those stupid kanye west stunners
18andabove: lol....
Mz dee: and colour rioting..
18andabove: gave mine away...
18andabove: 1st date...movie or restuarant?
Mz dee: restaurant...i wna be able to talk to him
18andabove: ok???conversation killers
Mz dee: talkin bout himself most of d time.. or only talkin about me. it shudnt be one-sided... then again.. talkin bout love for chelsea cud burn anythin i hv 4 u to ashes!
18andabove: chealse broke my heart....lol
18andabove: now i'm in the market, looking for a club...lol
Mz dee: man utd!!!!!!
18andabove: yeah yeah...lol
18andabove: wait....u mean that cld actually determine ow long u'd date someone...lol
18andabove: wats the significance of a kiss to u?
Mz dee: na it cudnt! lol
Mz dee: um a kiss could mean nuthin or something. dependin on how its done
18andabove: ok...a kiss or a f..k?
Mz dee: ummmm
Mz dee: a kiss
18andabove: did u try out for blogville idols?
Mz dee: no... i wanted to but by the time i finally decided to auditionz had closed
18andabove: ok...u guys evr made out in your house?
Mz dee: hellll yea
Mz dee: lol
18andabove: no disturbance????...lol
Mz dee: not rily. was jst me and him.
18andabove: u, a guy and a snooker table?
18andabove: wat wld happen?
BUZZ!!!
Mz dee: could u a gime sec plz? kitchn duty
18andabove: no probs...
Mz dee: i'd "attempt" to snooker or watever u do wen u play the game.. and he's probably stand behind me and try to teach me. wont take long b4 i'm facin him and makin out with him instead....... and well then.. u knw the works!---if its a guy i'm feelin o
18andabove: lol
18andabove: if u're not feeling him nko?
18andabove: cld u date 2 guys ?
Mz dee: if i'm nto feelin him i wont be there at all!
Mz dee: i cud fling two guyz..lol
18andabove: bad girl...lol
18andabove: like ow many guys "toast" you per day?
Mz dee: if i leave my house? at least 3..
18andabove: and ow many really stand a chance for a date?
Mz dee: none!
Mz dee: lol
18andabove: yeepa....wat wld dey need to do, before dey cld?
Mz dee: uh.. look fine maybe??? talk properly?? not give me sum cheezy pick up line.. and definitely not front 4 me
18andabove: ok...
18andabove: i'm definately out cause i front a lot...lol
18andabove: anyone proposed to u yet?
Mz dee: u front???
Mz dee: hmm!
18andabove: yeah i do...
Mz dee: front it termz of talkin bout hvin dis and that o...
18andabove: i pick the women i talk to sef...
Mz dee: proposed.. no thankfully
Mz dee: lol
18andabove: no...not that kind of fronting...
18andabove: u ripe for marriage arent u???...lol
Mz dee: abeg i still hv lyk 3-4 more yerz b4 i decide to start thinkin bout that
18andabove: lol....now, wld u date a guy from a diff tribe?
Mz dee: um, if has every other quality and his family accepts me
18andabove: who in blogville wld u like to meet?
18andabove: i definately wld love to meet parakeet, naija babe, u and bella
Mz dee: lol any particular reason 4 that?
18andabove: 4 wat?
Mz dee: i wana meet invisible, afrobabe, buttercup, kay-shawn and chariiiiii. oh and LG! and sting
Mz dee: lol
18andabove: wld u date outside ur tribe?
Mz dee: i answered dat already i think...if he has all other qualities, we get along and both families are accepting--- very unlikely sha!
18andabove: so really no on both counts...lol
18andabove: can ur voice break glass...lol
Mz dee: no now... i'm not THAT gud.. or THAT bad..lol
18andabove: lol...any song u cant get enough off?
Mz dee: Hmm... mogbono feli feli, bust it baby pt 2
18andabove: i totally loving...shawty is a 10....and igwe
18andabove: wld u call a guy u liked after the 1st date?
Mz dee: he;d call me if he was feelin me..
Mz dee: hun i gtg hv my dinner.... i'll be bk in bout 30 minz
18andabove: hmmm...if.i'm here...
18andabove: if not we'll finish tomorrow?
Mz dee: sure
18andabove: no probs....
18andabove: thanks a lot...
18andabove: btw, wat u eating?
Mz dee: pounded yam & egusi.. come n join me?? hehe
18andabove: yes o....
18andabove: wait which did u prepare?
18andabove: or u just put water on fire and mum did the rest?
18andabove: lol
Mz dee: the soup.. hope it tastes gud. seein as u were distractin me!!!
18andabove: lol....
Mz dee: tah.. my mother pounded.. i'm sure the mortar weighs more than me
18andabove: wait ow many pple u cook for?
18andabove: lol
Mz dee: 3
18andabove: u mumsie and?
Mz dee: yunger sis.
Mz dee: my dad dsnt eat 9ja food..lol
18andabove: ok?u eat as a family right
Mz dee: nt rily...
Mz dee: i'm gona eat in front of d tv.. my mum will probably eat at the dinin. and my sis will hide in her room
18andabove: ok...watch u watching?
Mz dee: hey?
18andabove: u done already?
18andabove: u don belch sha?
Mz dee: lol...
18andabove: did i miss anything?
Mz dee: well yea.. an excellent soup...lol
18andabove: cooke dby mumsie
Mz dee: no nowww.... me! lol
18andabove: u....ok cause u put the pot on fire...
18andabove: doesnt mean u cooked the whole thing...lol
Mz dee: ii did! i did! i did!
18andabove: lol....
Mz dee: stirrin it is also sumthin!
18andabove: wats the evidence...lol
18andabove: lol////
18andabove: so...ow old's ur junior sis?
18andabove: if i fit be are sugar daddy?
Mz dee: hmm...letz jst say she's in her foundation yearz of sec skul
Mz dee: lol
18andabove: yeepa....
18andabove: ever dated anyone so old, they'd think he was ur dad?
Mz dee: hell naw
18andabove: ow do u wear ur hair?
Mz dee: usually natural... bout twice a year i do sum rily long braids. but i like my hair natural.. washed/blowried/straightened... i dont hv short hair so it workz 4 me
18andabove: anything u written in ur blog ever affected u in real life...
Mz dee: no....
18andabove: lucky you...lol
Mz dee: sumthing's affected u??
18andabove: yeah...lots...
18andabove: wrote abt something, someone read, told a chick,
18andabove: relationship ended..
18andabove: anyways...ow do u guys feel when mumsie and popsie start playing love...lol
Mz dee: happy actually! i love to see older ppl showin affection to eachother.. def a bit irritatin sumtimes
18andabove: eeya,,,den una two go join abi...lol
Mz dee: hmM!!!
18andabove: anyone evr told u , u had a babyface?
Mz dee: na.. i dont hv dat roundish luk i think
18andabove: a guy's been eyeing for a while....
18andabove: has the confidence to approach you....
18andabove: u're not feeling him,, ow do u let him down easily
Mz dee: tell him i'm sorry but i'm not interested.. if he dsnt understand that(and most guys dont).. tell him to fuck off
18andabove: actually tell nim, u're not intersted...u're blunt o...
18andabove: finally u used the word FUCK...lol
Mz dee: more lyk sincere?
Mz dee: lol
18andabove: as in u dont want to waste either your time or his
Mz dee: xctly
18andabove: u always online right?
Mz dee: kinda...
18andabove: why not lets finish this tomorrow...abt 10,11...if u're awake then?
Mz dee: in the mornin?
18andabove: no at night...lol
18andabove: yes in the morning...
Mz dee: at night wud be better..
18andabove: btw ...its a friday, wat u doin at home?
18andabove: lol
Mz dee: cos i may nt necesarrily be at home at dat time
18andabove: u know dey sleep?
Mz dee: hmm... were shud i go in PH?
Mz dee: plus i live quite far away 4rm the hottest spots
18andabove: dont know?...never been there sef...
18andabove: maybe one of this days
18andabove: so u stay locked in...watching movies, reading a book, and browsing...
Mz dee: na... as long as i hv friends dat are willin to chill sumwere, i;ll head out.
18andabove: ok...

18andabove: who’s more attractive between u and ur sis
18andabove: sorry abt that....its really pouring here
Mz dee: oh.. no problem
Mz dee: btween me and my sis? uh iono....lol she's yearz yunger dan me
18andabove: so whos sexier?
18andabove: if u guys were walking together,,,,why wld i go for u, rather than are?
Mz dee: bcos she so wud nt give u the attention. she'd disgrace u if u walked up to her. lol
18andabove: lol....
18andabove: so u're the more liberal one
18andabove: do u have a black book?
Mz dee: na... i'm a gud girl!
18andabove: yeah right...lol
Mz dee: ure makin me seem bad o....
18andabove: forgive me....i'm still trying to place ur personlaity...
18andabove: so wats ur personlaity?
Mz dee: undescribable i think
18andabove: lol...see?
18andabove: i have this theory that if u and ur girlfriends are out on the town,....
18andabove: the guy that comes over, usually starts a conversation with the least attractive....
18andabove: cause he doenst have the balls to talk to the really attractive ones....
18andabove: wat u think?
Mz dee: i'm a rily outgoin person.. i can get rily crazy but deep inside ppl say they think i'm compassionate and soft..
18andabove: ok
18andabove: wat u think abt my theory
Mz dee: so...rily i dunno hw to place me either.
Mz dee: um no i dont think so.. its never happend to me.. but ive seen it happen with sum ppl
Mz dee: its wrong..lol.
Mz dee: wud he want to use the least attractive one to get the the most attractive one? i think every guy knowz girls dont lyk being used
18andabove: ok?
18andabove: no not use....
18andabove: i mean he doesnt even have the balls to approach the really attractive one...
Mz dee: why?? guyz shudnt be intimidated...
18andabove: he figures he has a better chance with the less attractive ones...
18andabove: u look bloody fine by the way...well if this isnt ur sis...lol
Mz dee: low self-esteem... datz wat i think it is and it shudnt be there in d first place
Mz dee: lol thankz.. why wud i put a pic of my sis on my messenger?? lol
18andabove: ok
18andabove: prolly cause she's finer???.lol
Mz dee: lol
18andabove: so really u'll telling me guys shouldnt even think abt not getting the girl....
18andabove: they shd just start a frigging conversation....
18andabove: well if they're interested in her...
Mz dee: if he has wat it takez... yes. as long as he's not a freakin mechanic with ajegule english
18andabove: lol....
18andabove: do girls also feel nervous when we approach?
18andabove: as in to start a conversation abt the weather?...lol
Mz dee: well.... dependz on the gurl right..i wudnt feel nervous but sum of the prettiest girls are terribly shy
18andabove: lol....
18andabove: in ur mind, u're thinking....oh my God, i comes another one...lol
18andabove: but in your opinion,ow wld a guy have an edge...
Mz dee: by being funny...smart and funny
18andabove: funny????....thats a bit risky o....lol
18andabove: wat if u dont laugh...lol
Mz dee: well then u know i'm not findin u funny and u shud walk away b4 i bitch slap u.. hehe
18andabove: lol....
18andabove: ok...funny and smart guy has the nerve to walk up to u....
18andabove: cracks u up...
18andabove: ow long wld it take for u to put him in one of ur folders....
18andabove: i mean....friend, lover, acquitance, no go area...
Mz dee: a day? lol
Mz dee: oh
Mz dee: a few weekz i guess... will hv to get to knw him first
18andabove: ok....
18andabove: ok...nice convo and he doesnt ask for ur number...
18andabove: ???
Mz dee: he's stupid. fullstop.
Mz dee: lol
18andabove: lol...or u didnt wear ur fav perf...lol
Mz dee: then why did he walk up to me in d first place? hiss****
18andabove: so ultimately....if he walks up to u, while not go all the way right?
Mz dee: if its obvious i'm feelin him and there's heavy chemistry..yea!
18andabove: ok...lets say he asks, wld u consider it rude not to give him????
18andabove: or u'd give him out of pity?
Mz dee: no i wudnt conisder it rude... if i'm not interested, i'm not being rude. i'm being straightforward
18andabove: ok...
18andabove: he has ur number by rook or crook...ow long till that 1st call...
18andabove: hopefully he doesnt send a lioness text 1st...lol
Mz dee: lol! he'd probably call a few hours later if he;s got his game on.. or send me a txt sayin he rily likes my personality?
18andabove: ok....
18andabove: when wld be too late?
Mz dee: 2 dayz later
18andabove: ideally when he calls, better have a date set right?
Mz dee: not necessarily..
Mz dee: i'd prefer to get to knw him a bit on d phone.. and if i'm still rily feelin him.. set up a date
18andabove: ok...
Mz dee: i cant get all dressed up 4 nuthin na..
18andabove: lol...and u sure do dress classy...
Mz dee: how do u know that?? lol
18andabove: seen a few pics...
18andabove: wat if he skips all this...and that very 1st day....tries to convince u to go have a fun activity...
18andabove: book reading, movie,lunch....
18andabove: that wldnt be to fast for u?
Mz dee: it'd be wayyyyy to fast 4 me
18andabove: ok...u'd be praying he's not the kidnapping type...lol
18andabove: fastfood joint or restaurant....for ur 1st date i mean?
Mz dee: restaurant oo
18andabove: he's going to spend a lot more money o....lol
Mz dee: wetin concern me?
18andabove: well u're worth it sha...lol
18andabove: nothing concern u abi....well till he stylishly runs away when he sees the bill...lol
18andabove: i hope he gets a kiss after the date sha...?
BUZZ!!!
Mz dee: um... if he deservez it na
18andabove: ow long till u finish ur sis assignment?
Mz dee: yea
Mz dee: long time sha. its a whole lot of essayz anmz deeeports she did over the summer that i have to type
18andabove: well u're being ur sis keeper....shd do the same for u, i guess...
Mz dee: i'm gettin paid o.... dunno wich sister keepin u on about
Mz dee: lol
18andabove: LOL....
18andabove: wld u date someone u're close to....cousin, friend, bestfriend?
Mz dee: friend yea.. bestfriend yea.. cousin hell naw
18andabove: ur opinion abt sex b4 marriage?
Mz dee: up to every individual
18andabove: urs?
Mz dee: as long as its the right person. b4 or after rily dsnt matter
Mz dee: i'd hate to go thru all dat pain on my weddin night tho..
18andabove: ok
18andabove: heard u guys lost yesterday *big grin*
Mz dee: pity yea.....there'll be more matches
18andabove: dont worry...atleast u guys will be 5th...lol
Mz dee: *hater*!
18andabove: lol
Mz dee: are u a chelsea fan or wich one?
18andabove: not sure yet *grin*....chelsea or inter.....my heart still with mourinho
Mz dee: na wow o... u sound xctly like icequeen
18andabove: i like the guys personlaity....
18andabove: ehn ehn....she isnt sure either abi....happens...
18andabove: so wat are ur hobbies
Mz dee: writin... dancin.. singin.. bloggin.. readin..hangin with friends.. clubbin if i had d chance!
18andabove: finished a book yet...?....started mine in 2005, not done yet...lol
18andabove: when's ur curfew?
Mz dee: i dnt xctly hv one. parents jst wana knw where i am all the time, who i'm with and why i'm with them
Mz dee: lol.. ive started a couple. never gone past chapter 3
Mz dee: u there>
BUZZ!!!
18andabove: yeah i am....
18andabove: just got a call from a friend...
18andabove: i missed an exam last week...lol
18andabove: prolly gonna write mine today or tomorrow
Mz dee: wat are u studyin?
18andabove: studying for a cert in MCSE...
18andabove: its a computer course
Mz dee: ok..\
18andabove: anyways...u wear stilettos alot i guess...
18andabove: btw, whos taller, u or ur sis?
Mz dee: lol yea i do.. uh we';re the same height actually. but she;s def gna be taller than me
18andabove: lol...
18andabove: u guys share a room?
Mz dee: nope
18andabove: ok...shared a guy
Mz dee: she's not even in her teen yearz!
18andabove: lol....
18andabove: ever had a pregnancy scare?
Mz dee: twice
18andabove: yeepa...lol
18andabove: you spoke to mumsie abt it, or dealt with ti ur sef
Mz dee: why in god's name wud i tell my mother.... i dont want to die early
18andabove: LOL....
Mz dee: dealt with it myself.. thank god i wasnt preggerz
18andabove: so to her u're still daddy's little girl
Mz dee: yup
18andabove: ever been caught in an embarrassing position b4?
Mz dee: lotz... dnt ask me to recall cos i wont!!
18andabove: LOL...
18andabove: did u know that...the average single person goes on 22 dates, has 3 one-night-stands and three serious relationships before "settling down with The One."
Mz dee: i heard it was 5 serious relationshipz not 3
18andabove: LOL...
18andabove: OW DO U RATE?
Mz dee: rate wat?
18andabove: AS IN 22 DATES, 3 ONE NIGHT STANDS, 3 SERIOUS RELATIONSIPS?
Mz dee: uh stupid..lol. every1 is different
18andabove: dats wat i thought abt it too...lol
18andabove: cause i'm past 3 one night stands already..lol
Mz dee: hun i have to be on my way o....lunch needz servin and nid to finish typin..
18andabove: no probs....
18andabove: thanks so much for ur time...
18andabove: btw, u look really beautiful
18andabove: lipgloss.....and all..lol
Mz dee: lol.. thank u!
18andabove: u use little jewelry right?
Mz dee: na.. i use a lot.. but i was dressd up for a formal outin
18andabove: ok...hope u not broken ur neck yet sha..lol
Mz dee: lol.. not thattttttt excessive!
18andabove: lol...wat u taking for lunch?
Mz dee: spaghetti
Mz dee: gota run
Mz dee: later!
18andabove: ok...bye

sunday 24/08/08 (women want)

2008-08-28T16:52:00.001+01:00

What do women want? many men have wondered. Who knows. But figuring out what women want in men is crucial to becoming effective not only in dealing with women, but developing the kind of Dating Life you really want.

So what do women want from men? What traits do they look for? And why -- what's the reason behind it?

There are three specific traits. And naturally there are also three corresponding reasons why women want these traits in men.

Let's take some time to explore them in detail...

Ultimately, what women want in men is to have their needs and desires fulfilled. To understand what traits women look for in men, we have to understand just what those needs and desires are...

... and then we can make the connections to these character traits, and how you can develop them in yourself.

Need #1: Security. Women want to feel safe. In today's civilized world however, safety isn't really that big of an issue anymore.

Need #2: Pleasure. Women want to feel pure sensual stimulation. What do men talk about? Business, sports, and women. But what do women talk about? Sex, men, sex, relationships, and sex -- did I mention sex?

Need #3: Adventure Women want to feel excitement and anticipation. They have a strong desire to trust in someone who will lead them into emotionally charged experiences that they wouldn't have the courage to go alone.

saturday 23/08/08 (lil Black book)

2008-08-27T17:18:00.000+01:00

Lately i havent been going out much, yeah thats
one of the minuses of running your own biz, anyways
i come across a ad in the paper about The Black
Book Of Success Seminar...and i just had to go listen,
maybe network with other startups...

Anyways i get there and we're like 700 individuals there.
i start trying to make contacts consiously checking
if i could see a competitor...hopefully i didnt meet anyone...

the various talks, were invigorating...
mrs Johnson really tried in making this stuff free...but off
course i knew it wasnt free...it was just running on "freemium"
there were really 2 speakers...
niyi spoke about his business, the challenges he encountered
and how he was able to solve them...Niyi is a freaking salesman,
he ought to be cause he sells cars...lol
he really made everyone feel good about starting a business
The next speaker was really more practical, he literally burst alot
of bubbles...lol

anyways, the only thing i took away from the seminar was that...
in nigeria, everyone's always in the process of starting a business...
less than 10% really hard a workable plan...
only a few have funds...

Thursday 21/08/08 (ugly duckling)

2008-08-27T17:10:00.000+01:00

i have a "ugly duckling theory" and you dont have
to subscribe to it...in a group of ladies, lets say
at the club, a party, whereever...there's going to
be one thats a 3 while there's going to be a 10...i.e
one will look drab while one's going to look outstanding
the others will be in between, right...

3 consciously knows she's 3, while 10 also knows...but the
others dont know where they fall in between...the thing is,
in this group, who do you think will get asked out the most?
most of you would have said,the 10 right?...
you're all wrong...lol
3 gets asked out the most...
thats the "ugly duckling theory"

to prove it ehn, you try it yourself...in the next group of ladies
you meet, which of them would you want to hit on....
i'm preety sure a 3,is the one u think you stand a chance with...

thing is, she gets asked out so often that it gets into her head,
she starts to form, what she doesnt know is that most guys really
want a 10 but dont have the balls to talk to her, so in effect we
manage the 3...lol

Guys only need to realise that if you go for the 10, dont make all
those remarks o, as in really go for her intelligiently, you'll get
her...because guys really dont ask her out...no they're scared...
they go for 3...lol

go for 10,when you get her...all her friends that fall in between
want a piece of the action too, yeah cause they'll be thinking that
if you got 10, you must have done something right...

so my guy, shoot for a 10, at most you'll get the chicks in between
never go for a 3,well unless you have no balls...

wednesday 20-08-08 (10 seconds)

2008-08-20T18:13:00.001+01:00

it takes just 10 seconds...approximately 10 seconds to break a world record...
it takes just 10 seconds...approximately 10 seconds to be the fastest man on earth...
it takes just 10 seconds...appoximately 10 seconds to make a first impression
it takes just 10 seconds...approximately 10 seconds to change my mind
it takes just 10 seconds...approximately 10 seconds to decide if i want you or not
it takes just 10 seconds...approximately 10 seconds to your 1st smile at me
it takes just 10 seconds...approximately 10 seconds to walk to you (well, i think...lol)
it takes just 10 seconds...approximately 10 seconds to say my piece (well u've prolly heard all my lines before...lol)
it takes just 10 seconds...approximately 10 seconds to then hear you say no and burst my bubble...lol

Dedicated to the one, who said NO

friday 15-08-08 (repeat)

2008-08-18T18:22:00.000+01:00

in the past few days, i have gotten lots of repeat
customers using my services...i keep wondering if
its good for business...anyways thats what you usually
get for running a free service shey...lol

wats surprising the most is that even though i request
for just your AGE,SEX and LOCATION, i get texts that include
tribe, religion etc...which got me asking whats tribe
and religion got to do with it...
why cant we just go out there, start a relationship with
any individual,regardless of tribe (we're one nigeria, shey)
and religion (what happened to the "we serve the same God mantra)

anyways...i'd like users to strictly stick to the script...just
your AGE,SEX and LOCATION...

thurs 14/8/2008 (permutations)

2008-08-18T18:19:00.000+01:00

stop doing the f..king permutations in your head...
when it comes to meeting women, you cant predict
all the scenarios...your head will just explode...
all you can do is have a win-win mentality and
attitude, so you are always prepared for any eventuality

also you've got to make your decision within 10 seconds
and stick to it,dont go "i'll get the next opportunity",
you wouldnt,well not this way anyways...

okay okay, you still didnt have the balls to say something
dont put yourself down cause you didnt...put your head up
high and walk away...dont beat yourself up...yeah yeah,
you didnt win this time...they'll be another girl, another time...
dont just make it an habit....
cause the girl of your dreams might just walk away again...
cause you were doing those f..king permutations in your head again...lol

wednesday 13th 08 2008 (shoot)

2008-08-18T18:12:00.000+01:00

Guys out there, i got one small advise for you...
Go for the one that's prolly out of reach...Heard
that thing about shooting for the moon and landing
among the stars...yes go for it...go for her

The one that's taller than you,
the one that looks smarter,
the one that steals the spotlight,
the one thats defiantely richer,

and please dont treat her like a demi-god...in other
words, dont suck up to her....thats how she's been
treated all day and frankly she's been waiting for you,
someone confident enough to blow her off her feet...

Just be original, cause even being a photocopy is not
easy...lol

Worst case scenerio,if she blows you off, i'm betting
one of her friends would be captivated by this guy thats
so unlike the others...

tuesday august 11 08 (university)

2008-08-15T20:26:00.000+01:00

Yeah i also had this idea for selling university
merchandise...you know...
all this while, you see all those Harvard and
Cambridge University insigned T-Shirts...but
never one that has Unilag or University of Ibadan
or something....
I havent seen any o...and if you have, please contact me...
i wouldnt mind rocking a University of Ibadan Blazer...

anyways...as an Ijebu Boi, i'm looking at this scarcity
and i'm seeing money to be made...lots of money...
sha, i organise a meet with my lawyer cause i'm guessing
that if i want to go into this business, they'll surely
be copyright and legal issues shey?...
anyways, talking to my lawyer, he says we'll find a legal
loophole and work around it...cause i'm not thinking of
involving the schools at all...

then i speak to this one blogger based in the uk...you know
yoursef o...lol
she's a lawyer too...she ;literally burst my bubble...
she goes preaching its morally wrong...so and so...
sha,since i was also a bit doubtful already...i changed my mind...

the best i could do...(or you, if u are interested) is involve
the schools and go the really legal route...

thats ow my escort business idea went too...(i just aint morally bankrupt...lol

monday 10/aug/08 (crazy)

2008-08-15T20:17:00.000+01:00

had this crazy idea yesterday....yeah i have a
lot of them...

okay, i learnt yesterday that, it costs far more
to fuel a car than to actually buy it....

i've been reading a lot of books recently just finished
"The Long Tail" by Chris Anderson and he's blog...
and i'm all for free stuff....i run a free mobile
dating service by the way...lol
ok, i had this idea, why not make cars free...
yes,car makers and dealers shouldnt sell cars to
customers, but give it out...yes, you heard me,
give it out...

how would they make money you ask,i feel that
car makers should work in conjunction with our
petroleum dealers...the petroleum marketer
just charges more at the petrol station...or some
superfuel for this free cars or somethings....

that way i'm guessing i'll get a car real easy...lol
instead of forking out a lot of money for my dream car...lol

Thursday 07+08+08 (stAnd oUt)

2008-08-13T11:34:00.003+01:00

Go as a pilgrim and seek out danger
Far from comfort and the well lit-avenues of life.
Pit your very soul against the unknown
And seek stimulation in the company of the brave.
Experience cold and hunger, heat and thirst
And survive to see another challenge and another dawn.
Only then will you be at peace with yourself
And able to know and to say:
“I looked down on the farthest side of the mountain
And, fulfilled and understanding all, I am truly content
That I lived a full life
And one that was of my own choice”.

I got this quote from a book a long time ago, and its one of the quotes that drives me ....hope it does for u too

REally Standout
http://18andabove.blogspot.com/2008/01/sunday-6th-jan-08.html

Wednesday 6th of August 2008 (Misconceptions)

2008-08-13T11:31:00.001+01:00

Tell me if you agree with any of these statements about men:

-Men like a challenge. They like the chase. If you're too "easy" or approachable, they'll get bored or lose interest.

-Men are dominant in relationships and women therefore are unable to express
themselves.

-Men cheat and are incapable of being monogamous.

-Men would secretly love to date and sleep with different women the rest of their life rather than just have to stay with one serious committed relationship.

-Men just want to have fun and "freedom" and no responsibility.

Did you find yourself nodding at any of these?

Unfortunately you’re wrong….

TRUTH #1: Men Don't Need To Chase

It's been said many times by many people that men need to be made to chase a woman in order to want her and commit wholeheartedly.

Not true.

If you are not running, why do I need to chase you?

Rather than wanting to "chase" a woman, men are humans first.

I want and need to feel a deep, emotional level of attraction for a woman if i want you in my life.

"Physical Attraction" i can feel for any chick who walks by is not enough, and will never be enough to make me want something more than a casual fling.
and i get easily "bored" and lazy about a relationship or any kind of commitment if I’m not feeling this Emotional Attraction for you.

Emotional attraction goes way beyond what a babe looks like, what she says or how successful she is.

If i sense that a woman knows what she wants and isn't afraid to go after it, and that
she has certain "standards" of what she will or won't put up with from a man, then i will feel incredibly drawn to her.

It has nothing to do with playing GAMES or pretending to be "hard to get."
If you continue to do that you miss all the good guys….like me…lol

If you think that men just want to "chase" a woman and that acting or being "unavailable" is a turn-on for him, then I have to tell you right now, you're not going to get far with a man.

Cause if the guy’s like me, I spend my money, time and resources “chasing” you, when I get you what do you think will happen? I’ll have just have sex with you and most definitely break your heart…

TRUTH #2: Men Feel Emotions Just Like Women

Believe it not, men are pretty sensitive….yes I cry too…lol

It's just how we handle our feelings that makes us hard to connect with about it, and
hard to understand -

Men have a hard time dealing with strong emotions from women. Why do you think we try to leave the room during arguments…lol

in a recent groundbreaking study of how couples interact when in conflict, it was discovered that men often LOOK detached or withdrawn because we feel intensely STRESSED by the argument.

It's not that we're more "in control."

On the contrary - we feel LESS in control.

So we withdraw in order to try and cope.

TRUTH #3: Men Want Relationships

Not all men love the single life of Parties, Girls , Sex…
Men want to be in a relationship, and they have a strong desire to feel recognized as a great partner by their women.

Have you ever accused a man of being "not ready" for a relationship?

Here's a mind-blowing statistic: WOMEN (not men) break off relationships or file for divorce 70% of the time.

If that surprises you, you may also be surprised to know that a man enjoys being in
committed, loving relationships as much as a woman does.

AS LONG AS IT DOESN'T FEEL HARD TO HIM.

If you give a man the impression that he can't please you no matter WHAT he does, or that everything he does is pointless because he can'tdo ANYTHING right, then guess what?

He's going to wonder if he's the right partnerfor you, and he's going to begin to doubt whether or not he should even continue the relationship.

Maybe you're saying, "but I don't do that!"

It's true. You may not even be aware that you're doing this.

But there are certain words and phrases thatcommunicate this to a man whether you're aware of it or not.

Instead, when you show a man that you trust him to be a good partner to you, you will actually inspire him and trigger his devotion and attraction for you.

More Misconceptions
http://18andabove.blogspot.com/2008/03/facinating-twin-factsalice-payne.html

Thursday 310708 Conversations with a babe (Naija Babe)

2008-08-01T17:26:00.002+01:00

My fourth Conversations with a babe features Naijababe...
Very Insightful...
Make una sit down with pen and paper...yes u've got to keep notes...

For Conversation 1:
Conversations with a Babe

For Conversation 2:
conversations with a babe 2 (zephi)

For Conversations Three:
Conversations With A Babe 3 (OK)

18andabove: so naija babe....why use that name?
NB: No Idea....I just chose it randomly!

18andabove: why do you blog?
NB: I read a few blogs, and seeing as I hardly talk to people about stuff, I thought It'd be a good option for me. Here people only judge you by what they know unlike out there where people's judgements about you are infiltrated with things they see and hear about you, that they choose to misconstrue and thus make wrong judgements about you.

18andabove: what motivates you to want to get that message out?
NB: Hmmm...no idea....I guess its something I just do

18andabove: Okay...i personally think "LOVE" is overrated, what do you think abt that...
NB: Naa, I dont think Love is overrated, I just think its a matter of good things coming to those who wait.

18andabove: I have a view that most of the women in blogville are like radio station presenters...good voices but not really fine...well with exceptions...wld u be one?
NB: Beauty is in the eye of the beholder..some voices take your breath away but then the faces bring you back, but some, once you are taken away..the looks dont matter. Am I an exception? I believe so, but I'll leave that to the person judging.

18andabove: What are your views about sex before marriage?
NB: I believe in no sex before marriage, but then again, circumstances might change...if the marriage is looking like a sure deal, then why not?

18andabove: and whats the worst pickup line you heard in a while?....lol
NB: Arrogant as it may sound, I havent had pick up lines used on me....or they were just too sublte for me to notice.

18andabove: you never noticed them use pickup lines, they must be really suave...
NB: would want to keep your maiden name even after getting married?
Yes I'd love to kep my maiden name....lol I'll then become the double barreled 'Mrs'

18andabove: ever used a dating service b4?
NB: Nope, never used a dating site

18andabove: so is it safe to say...u date guys according to your mood?
NB: No it is not safe to say that o.

18andabove: then are u single?
NB: Yes I am..

18andabove: if yes, why?
NB: Because there isnt any one out there. Everyone seems to have this pre requisites thing, honestly I dont have one. I guess its just a matter of I see something in someone that even though all others may have it, it is complemented with smething else that thus makes him unique.If I had a list of criteria...no one would be suitable for me.

18andabove: wat do u think i shd do?
18andabove: theres this chick really tripping for me but doent no ow to tell me...
NB: How can you tell that she is till tripping for you?

18andabove: and she has a 8yr old son
NB: Right?

18andabove: u see we used to date....b4 she became pregnant years ago...
NB: So did she get pregnant for someone else whilst you guys were dating?

18andabove: Yeah and I’m sure he isn’t mine cause I didn’t do it then…lol …I was too naïve.Anyways,how do i tell her or show her that am not interested
NB: Can I ask why you’re not interested? Is it that you’ve moved on for other reasons or because she has a child.

18andabove:wld u date someone that has a 8 yr old son?
NB: Well it depends. I cant say its easy, but if its worth my while, then why not. However selfish of me, I think I can only go into it if the child’s mother isn’t in the picture anymore. If she is, even if she is married to another person, I still think too many people in the circle causes too many issues.

18andabove: ow do I tell a gal off?
NB: Lol…this is a funny one. Depends on if she’s a biatch…If she is…put her in her place…no story.

18andabove: one of u called me a small boy yesterday when i said i wanted to ask her out
NB: Erm ask who out?

18andabove: One Chick like that… so how do u change that impression when thats already ow she thinks?
NB: When someone thinks you are a small boy? Well again, it depends on where she sees you as a small boy. Some girls think its cos you still hop the train and not have a ride that makes you a small boy. Some others think its on maturity level. If it’s the former, please, jabo the babe sharpish, and if it’s the latter, then you might wanna work on that.

18andabove: ok...ve u called someone a small boy b4? or looked at them that way?
NB: Yeah, quite a lot. Usually its to do with their way of thinking…maturity on their end must have been veryyy low.

18andabove: BUT ITS REALLY NOT EASY FOR US WORKING CLASS TO MEET SOMEONE ABI?
NB: Who says?

18andabove: APART FROM WEDDINGS WHERE IS IT SURE BANKER THAT U CAN GET A SINGLE BABE.
NB: I guess other gatherings. BBQ’s, church, mosque, the gym…you never know!

18andabove: so apart from watching tv, what does a girl...sorry lady like u do, when u come back from work.
NB: I read lightly, eat and SLEEP!

18andabove: i thought u'd say "start getting ready for a date"
NB: Lol…how I wish.

18andabove: so lets say u were going for one, what preparations wld u make?
NB: Shower, get dressed and go. What else?

18andabove: ok...so wld u want to go where he likes, or where u like?
NB: I hardly go out, so I would be crap at choosing a place, so I’d leave it to him.

18andabove: where wld ur own ideal location be?
NB: No idea! If its dinner, then obviously a nice restaurant.

18andabove: ok..so he's car,a cab,a bus or u guys trek...lol
NB: Honestly, I guess the ‘ideal’ girl’s date is he either has a car or you guys take a cab. I won’t do bus, sorry. But I would love to walk…I think its nice.

18andabove: emm...okay so in what direction wld u want the conversation to go...when u guys are talking.
NB: Anywhere, we start with the obvious, work, life, maybe relationships…anything goes

18andabove: SO WHAT WLD BE A CONVERSATION KILLER
NB: I think talking about your ex, especially if you guys don’t know each other that well.

18andabove: SO WLD A KISS ON THE 1ST NIGHT BE IN ORDER?
NB: Once again, depends on how long you’ve known each other. If you’ve been talking for quite a while and the date was just something to make it official then, why not, otherwise, I don’t think its in order.

18andabove: OKAY SO IF HE MADE AN ATTEMPT,HE'D PROBABLY GET A SLAP...LOL
NB: Ah ah, unless you never want to see him again. If you do, then you turn him down nicely.

18andabove: OK...BUT YOU'LL BE EXPECTING HIS CALL AFTER THE DATE ABI?
NB: Yeah! Big time.

18andabove: SO WHEN IS THE CALLING TO EARLY OR TOO LATE...
NB: Too early would be when he gets back into his car, and too late would probably be if I’m getting ready for work the next morning.

18andabove: WLD U EVER CALL A GUY U LIKE AS IN AFTER THE DATE?
NB: Yeah.

18andabove: I THOUGHT IF HE WAS INTERESTED IN A FOLLOW UP DATE HE'D CALL?
NB: Well you can clarify that when you call abi? Whats the point of waiting to find out.

18andabove: come to think of it...what do u look out for when a guy approaches u...
NB: Lol…you don’t prememditate those kind of things, do you?

18andabove: so if its a short person like me...u'll just give me ur best snubish look...lol
NB: Hehe…no we’d be friends in a way that I’d hint I don’t want anything more…LOL.. thats jokes though. but how short are you?

18andabove: I’m 5 7 ok, and don’t go rubbing it in…lol ...wld u go out on a date with anyone that asks u?
NB: Ermm no.

18andabove: why?
NB: If I don’t feel like it or if I know there is no point wasting my time.

18andabove: the question wld be..u're looking at this tall,dark and handsome guy...speaking good english....comfortable...
18andabove: he asks u for a date & u say no....somethings definately wrong...lol
NB: Yes, talk dark, handsome guy can be STUPID too.

18andabove: lol...so like ow many guys ask u out everyday...dont exagerate o...
NB: Everyday? Approximately zero.

18andabove: okay lets say a week...
NB: Same as above.

18andabove: That’s serious o…lol
18andabove: did u know that...the average single person goes on 22 dates, has 3 one-night-stands and three serious relationships before "settling down with The One."
NB: Lol, none of those have applied to me yet….when it does, I’ll let you know.

18andabove: wld u ask someone to marry u...
NB: Hmmm that’s a bit tricky o! I think it’s the other way round, and I think I’d leave it that way.

18andabove: that wld be too much abi...lol
18andabove: the height of desperation.
NB: Ermmm yeah…something like that.

18andabove: whats the significance of a kiss to u...?
NB: Ermmm, no clue!

18andabove: which is more intimate...the kiss or the other thing...lol
NB: See above…lol
I’m being serious o!

18andabove: NB…hey…you’re scaring me…lol ,well thats u or most women...
NB: I think that’s just me

18andabove: wld u say thats it for most women too...
NB: nope

18andabove: so what 1st comes to ur mind when a guy invites u to his place
NB: Hehe…I’ve been warned…I’d rather invite him to mine. Even if in both cases, we’d still be alone. Theres still some sort of security and regard for me, when we’re at mine.

18andabove: Does the age factor play a role in your relationship?
NB: Well, it bothers me, I wont lie.

18andabove: How do you know your guy loves you?
NB: He is willing to apologise when he’s wrong and he tells me when he’s upset about something, rather than keep a grudge. Cos if he keeps a grudge, that means he’s not talking to me, and if he’s not talking to me, then he doesn’t miss me…need I say more?

18andabove: Could you attend you Ex-boyfriend wedding?
NB: Because why?

18andabove: Is it possible to love two guys?
NB: Hmmm, I don’t think so

18andabove: Wld you date a guy shorter than you?
NB: Depends on how short. One inch, not bad…when its reaching 5 or 6, then erm..

18andabove: What about one with a different religion?
NB: Not really

18andabove: What about one in a different tribe?
NB: Nope. I can deal with hausa…def not ibo tho

18andabove: NB, that’s abt it….thanks so much for your time…and we’ll definitely be doing this again…you said you were single right….lol….

18andabove: you know who to call when you’re lonely and in need of some hmmm TLC…lol..

monday 28/07/08 (trying)

2008-07-29T19:08:00.000+01:00

trying
trying to remove the clutter in my lifet
rying seriously hard to organise it
trying hard to make sense out of everything that happens
trying to understand why i just cant expect everyone to be truthhfu
ltrying but knowing i couldnt possibly get the perfect lady
trying not to be wanting
trying not to fall in love
trying really hard to be a success in business
trying to be confident and bold in the face of adversity

suNdAy 27/07/08 (Naeto C)

2008-07-29T18:45:00.003+01:00

I've only bought two nigerian albums this year...
the 1st was Sasha's first lady: she's the queen of nigerian rap...
and she's got an album...and i like female mcs
and the 2nd's Naeto C's You Know My P: i had listened to Sitting on top
and rocked to Kini Big Deal...and i'm like ...what wld the album be like...lol

and by the way, its not a coincidence that they're both storm artists...
they seem to be doing something right.

I would like to proclaim Naeto my own Nigerian version of Jay Z...
The Swagger, Repertoire and Confidence in Lyrics

Here's what i think abt each track:

Lagos City Hustler: its infused with Afrobeats, a joint you could always bump your head to....Naeto's a proud Ibo boi and attributes his success to been business savvy...
fav line:i rep the 2% but i identify with the 98
6/10

I've Been:Its Low tempoed well for me...Just telling us Naeto's been thru it all
fav line:Hard times turn a man to a mover...
5/10

You Know my P: This song oozes confidence...and the beats okay Could he have done it without Ikechukwu? By the way, what's the P?
Fav Line:They got something to prove, i got nothing to prove.
7/10

This is what i do:Didnt just dig this one... The 1st verse was "building", "building", "building"
fav line:I'm like f..k you,i'm go hit the next spot,take all of my girls and go party at the next spot.
5/10

Kini Big Deal:The beat is infectious...and the song just grows on you... I totally love the chorus...and when you think abt everything in life... you've like Whats the big deal i can listen to the song back to back...
Fav line:my fav view you in lacy draws...i know u're not like the other girls i met ...u made me use condom but other girls i left...
8/10

Sitting on top: When i 1st heard this song, i didnt understand it... honest, it was...different...unlike all the trash we hear everyday... the song made u think...as in u actually wanted to here all the lyrics...
fav line:I used to work on jobs...but no matter how u add em up u never fatten up.
6/10

One 4 Me feat Wande Coal: Naeto C...RnB?...he needed help and he got it from wande coal...
Fav line...and if he ever does u wrong dont hesistate to call,i'll be there for u, u'll be there for me... (i use that line alot...lol )
6/10

Ringtone:i like the techno beat and whats the thing with this voice and piano thing....ehn ehn this is RnB Naeto C style...lol (BTW, Ur Ringtone is the sound u make when u guys are in the mood)
Fav line:every single show i do, i split my money in 2, so i can put some in the bank and purchase something for u...
7/10

Made in Lagos: Just wondering why Naeto would put this on his album, thought it was another storm all stars song...sha nice song its just a tush version of eko ile by jazzman...
Fav line:you know i set the standard so they watch me like silverbird cinema cause i'm number one in nigeria
6/10

Bami lo feat Morell:too slow for me o, the regular "i apologise i messed up" song the song has a sober tone to it,,,a persona behind Naeto...lol ,someone who could have any girl,almost turning mushy for this one..lol...come on
Fav line:I know you like Naeto you dont care about the C
6/10

E mara mma feat Saro Wiwa: hAs the highlife feel and is it me but naeto cant speak pidgin to save his life...lol....i like the song sha...even mumsie swayed to it...so they must have gotten something right
fav line:aka na ni mi pocket,everything cool, ego na ni mi wallet, everything smooth (dont know what it means sha..lol )
6/10

Superman: i like the busta rhymes beat...its the same naeto c "women cant get enough of me" music. BTW i wouldnt mind being called Superman...lol
fav line;25/7 i'm about new money,if i like the fast lane its because i'm in a hurry.
6/10

Gidi: i like the small kid intro...i like the beat too...i had a lot of fav lines o ,had trouble picking one....omo the chorus is tight...listen to this one and u'll feel like a million naira...has a way of making u feel more confident.
Fav line:i raise the bar up and watch you fall below
8/10

Ashewo feat Wande Coal: if its got don Jazzy...its a hit...what can i say... bloody good beat...nice lyrics...u just keep bumping ur head..i totally relate to this one... if she dresses better than u, shows more charisma, confidence touching the sky... and shes in a music video doesnt mean shes an ashi...right back at u, THE GAME
fav line:...she used be yours but now she say she be mine...
8/10

Facebook:slow for me again...the sound of the piano was drowning his voice... the chorus and hook took a large part of the song...
fav line:girlfriend u like my swagger and i know this, but it aint choosing someone like me like a boyfriend
5/10

Dont Judge/Outro:isnt really a song...prolly just freestyle.nice end to the album.
Fav line:dont judge what u cant love,u shd leave it alone or let pass it to someone who appreciate it.
6/10

The Devil Is A liar:A nice start to the Naeto C story/Album...Dont know why...maybe cause we're a bit spiritual here...i kept saying amen sha...lol
fav line:when people dont what u doing,that is the window to exceed expectation.
7/10

Total Score= 6.4/10

I keep listening to the album, for me...you want ur confidence to be elevated, listen
prolly at the end, u'll watch with a swagger.
one word to describe the album, CONFIDENCE...
and Naeto's got a lot

Friday 25+07+08 (200)

2008-07-29T18:35:00.001+01:00

i got the 200th user of my mobile dating service over the weekend...

you should think that i should be popping champagne and go out and party...

but in less than a year of business, i think thats dismal...

i could do better abi...lol

actually i marked it by wearing my 1st 18andabove tshirts...lol

anyways i'll thank all that have used my service till date

hopefully i have helped some lifes positively and helped in building
some relationships...

Thank you so much all...

BTW...i'm hoping to get to a thousand users before december 31st, so tell
your friends o....

Tuesday 22nd July 2008 (1st Dates)

2008-07-29T17:48:00.001+01:00

The Big Two

Okay so you finally got her number and you invited her out on a date...she just said yes and then what?

Every one knows about "The Big Two". These are the normal/safe dates. They aren't very creative, but they are universally accepted:

A Movie - Inviting someone to a movie is definitely safe. It is probably the #1 first date. One good way to make it a little interesting is to let your date choose the film, or put a bunch of movie names in a hat and pick one at random when you get together. If you choose a movie you won't have to say anything once the movie starts. That can be a real relief if you find you are both tongue-tied.And going to the movies costs an arm.lol

A nice dinner - Another classic. As mentioned above, dinner out means that you are going to have to think of something to talk about for an hour or two. Sometimes that can be hard, especially on the first date. One way to lessen that problem is to go on a double date. If you go out to dinner you will have to carry a conversation all night long. That can be tough sometimes, especially on the first date.

Every one knows i do my things differently...i’d want the event to be memorable...
So my own dates are usually:

Getting ice cream together, shey i told u i had a sweet tooth.

Travelling on very short notice.

I love going to the museum too, if she’s interested means she’ll prolly be intellectual.

Also going on volunteer activities together shows she’ll care for more than my money.

Once we went kart racing, i practically injured an instructor...it was great we cheering each other on.

If you cant think of anythingelse, just do THE BIG TWO

Friday 18july08 (added)

2008-07-21T17:41:00.001+01:00

I have added a few more modifications to the service and this site
well thats if you noticed them sha...
For a period of time, i am going to be granting fellow bloggers
the opportunity to advertise their products and services on my site
(see examples on the right) and on my mobile dating service...
and yes its going to be free for a while...all you do is send a text
message with your blogger Id and the product or service you want to
advertise to me at kehindebadejo@yahoo.com or 08052472837...

Okay, the "18andabove"tshirts are going to be out soon...its only going
to be worn by folks that are single, so you can walk up to those people
and start a conversation cause,they are single lol...on each tshirt, you'll
also find the individuals's number...so if you're still shy enough to walk
up to them...u can copy their mobile phone numbers and call them later..
nice or not...BTW if u want the tshirts, u know who to cal...lol

Also i've gotten reports from users of the service that, their are folks
that are no longer active on the service...meaning

1. you're past 30 years...sorry,i've got an upgrade for you though

2. you're no longer single now...which is so so cool

3. You just dont want to use the service anymore...which is a pity
then you send "STOP" to 08052472837 and I'll bother you no more...

Cross my heart...lol

Thursday 080717 (blues)

2008-07-21T17:33:00.001+01:00

Out of the blues, i receive an IM from bola...
i also met her online about 3 to 4 years ago and after a few dates
well if you call, she coming to my house 2 or 3 times, a date sha...
she just wanted to know how things are with me and stuff...

although i dont like that...as in when women from your past
that are still single check up on you...almost giving them a
"Gold digger" status...its the questions they ask...
Where do you work now?, Do you still leave with your parents?...etc

sha Bola,was or is different...she's blunt and usually says what she
means...

so what am i going to do, see if shes still interested in a relationship...
cause i think she's mentally prepared for one now...she was so shy,
always made me feel as if i was kidnapping her...lol
Or should i just let sleeping dogs lie?

Tuesday 15%07%08 (inconciveable)

2008-07-21T17:22:00.001+01:00

it was really inconciveable that we could sell our service
we were suppossed to go out of business in the 1st few years
text/sms/mobile dating is a foreign thing and nigerians wouldnt key in
no one was suppossed to use our service...lol

funny thing is, if we had not tried, we wouldnt have known...
and we were crazy enough to try...lol

we are in nigeria, made up of more than a hundred million people...
and even using the 20/80 rule or my personal fav...the 1% rule...
we had a market...

anyways, in the early days, we advertised on Music Africa...
yeah that scrolling thing just beneath the videos,actually you're
suppossed to send shoutouts but we used it for adverts...lol

sha it helped alot.

Monday 14/7/8 ( Business)

2008-07-21T17:16:00.001+01:00

as someone in business is it a good to send business to your
competitors?...i think about that almost everytime...cause i
do it...
i figure there's enough competition already...my number one
competitor is you...yes, you...you introduce the babe to your
friend, or your uncle, or to a friend of a friend...or you
introduce the guy to your colleague in the office...eveyones
favourite pasttime apart from gossip...is matchmaking...if you're
not single...you're consciously matchmaking everyone u know...lol

sha i'm talking abt colleagues in this business...i send business
to people in other niches that my service doesnt provide for...
i realised from my start that i couldnt be the master of all,
thats why i cut out a very small niche for myself...

thats why i recommend that if you're above 30 and you dont believe
my service will cater for you....Go to Romeo&Juliet...its a good
albeit traditional way of matchmaking...

If you want to go for a speed dating event , there's that guy
on new dawn cant remember he's name now....I dont do speeddating...

If you want a flirting service, there are numerous ones in nigera now
tavia tech, think they got one at vibe downloads too...and you'll
just send a keyword to a shortcode...etc...and you pay

then there're also websites like...cant remember also but they're on
the blog too...just look to your right...

But if you want a free mobile/text/sms dating service for individuals
between 18 and 30...no forms, want instant matches, no complications
, no hassles
then there's 18andabove...lol

Friday 11th july 2008 (Good News)

2008-07-21T16:45:00.002+01:00

Good news for you if you're Still Single and above 30...
"In Whispers" dont tell anyone yet o...lol
We have decided to relaunch PerfectMatch...yipee...
dont tell me you dont know how that works...

Anyways here goes...if you're a lady, you've got to be above 27
and if you're a guy, above 30...be based in Lagos and be ready to
Pay...yes so you know 1st hand o...its not free...
Yes...you've got to pay to meet this individuals cause they're
always so "busy" as "Ok" would say...lol and you've also got
to pay me for helping you to meet the man or woman of you dreams...

that said, all you do is call me on 016629614,
we meet over lunch or dinner...
and i set you up on 3 dates in 4 months...simple abi
if you dont like the guy on the 1st date...we give you another chance
with him on the next date...which technically still counts as one...
then you go on the next....guaranteed you'll meet someone you can
start a relationship with within that period...
Trust me....

Thursday 10/07/08 (Pacifist)

2008-07-21T16:41:00.001+01:00

i am a pacifist in the mould of Ghandi, Martin Luther King, Mandela...
we'd rather be hurt rather than go to war....even when the bombs
drop close to home, we still give the militants another chance to
change for their sakes...

i'd go to prison rather than fight...
i'd stage protests rather than fight...
cause i believe in jaw jaw rather than war war...

but sometimes wouldnt be a peace maker pass for cawordice...
wouldnt be a gentle giant pass for fear...
wouldnt turning the other cheek be regarded as stupidity...
or maybe what we fear most is that if we erupt it would be more
disastrous?
and we know that after the war has be won or loss,
after all the lives have been lost...
after all properties have been destroyed...
it would still be back to the conference room...

I could count all the fights i have gotten into on one hand,
but i noticed that i was always more afraid of what i would do
to the guy than what he would do to me...
I was afraid i could kill and i'd be on the run for life...
and i count what a few more seconds of sanity would lead to.

there's always a tipping point though and i hope we has a country
would understand that...if you push us to the wall...if you hurt
my family, my friends, my colleagues...i will not cower in fear...
i will destroy all you hold dear...
i will wipe you off the face of the earth, if its the last thing i do...
You're not man enough thats why you hit me when i turn my back...
I will hunt you down like rats that you are...
This is isnt a threath, its a guarantee...
that said...."deep breaths"...
really Pacifist am I...

Monday 778 (Possible)

2008-07-09T18:28:00.001+01:00

I sit at the Large Desk, Mum and my twin by myside... my other siblings,my wife and my kids are also at the table... well there's one in the baby walker too..lol
so we're here to discuss my trip to Asia...i'll be spending a total of 2 days per country...
I get up and look in the distance...i can just make out ships at the Lagos Port...which was now one of the busiest in the country... we were having this meeting at the tallest building complex in Nigeria Nicknamed "The Center Of Lagos"...Its a 70 floor masterpiece, which had luxury Apartments, Offices, and i had built it with my apartment at the very top...so i could get to my helipad on a short notice...i waved back at tourists, i had opened a lounge for tourists from allover the world which was fitted with binoculars and u could see landmarks from neighbouring Ogun State too...

This was going to be the Tallest Building in Nigeria for only a few years cause the bruce brothers were also building one that had 75 floors...and i was building one at the Nation's capital that had 100 floors...lol Mum was supervising that, My half brother's bank was funding the project...
I had surrounded myself with the best in business and they were Family...lol

I finally married a babe who was indian,jamaican,ethopian and had Ijebu Blood too...lol
When this building was being built,i watched with trepidation..."how was i going to fill this with people" mum said "build it 1st, people will come"...lol

To believe that i could wakeup in lagos, have lunch in my wife restaurant in newyork, and sleep on my own private island... yeah i bought necker from sir Richard Branson a few years ago...all i have, from a brand started less than 15 years ago...18andabove has now grown from an event management company, to include 3 magazines, a radio station, one tv station...i've gone into real estate, telecoms...

kehinde!!! kehinde!!!, i better get back to the meeting, mum's calling me...

Kehinde!!!! its 736am, you're going to be late again...
Damn,what a dream...i quickly kneel down to claim all i can remember...
God's just reminding me, i've got to work harder...

tHURSDAY 3-7-8 (10 Ways 2 Treat A Lady

2008-07-03T15:43:00.001+01:00

Just like you are here reading my blog, I too take the time out to scan the blog scene. Some I tend to frequent more than others. Like I am over @ Blogxilla and I see an article too good not to post. Enough of me talking, read on!!

10. Oral sex is your get out of jail free card. Nice shoes & jewelry also work.

Going Down can change her mood… But make sure you give her the royal treatment I will be writing another how to eat p*ssy blog soon

9. If you f*cked things up and she seems cool with it. She’s not. (See directly above.)

get back to eating the coochie!!! Nuff Said. but be careful she might start faking being mad if your good enough at it… and that might not be a bad thing

8. She loves it when you tell her what on your mind, even if you don’t understand what you’re thinking.

Tell her what’s on your mind, we men like to feel like we can do it all ourselves but females are programmed to be supporters, listeners, etc let her know your master plan she may be able to help you get there quicker.

7. Surprises & gifts for Her = more loving.

Instead of giving your Extra dollars to TA-TA-LALISCOUS at Strokers stop by the mall and pick out something nice for your shorty. You might want to consult either her female Friends or your Female Friends before doing this. There are a lot of good sites out there that are not paying me to give them free promotion

6. You’re not her daddy so don’t tell her what to do.

Ask her if she can, or if she would mind instead of demanding she do something. Make her feel like it’s a democracy… wait our gov’t is a democracy right? Well scratch that!!! But give her an option.

5. If she is not feeling needed, she will start looking for love else where.

Tell her you love her, better yet prove it to her. You need to make sure she knows how you feel, and sometimes saying it isn’t enough walk up on her one day while she is doing something, washing dishes, cleaning the room, walking in the door, and just hug then drop to your knees.

4. Discussion of ex-gf’s and ex-bf’s should be avoided at all times.

Don’t talk about your past, and don’t ask her about hers. No one wants to be constantly reminded or feel like they have to be better than someone.

3. She likes loves porn.

Not trashy porn but good porn… SO BIG BUTT BROOKLYN B!TCHES WIT BOOGERS GETTING BACKSHOTS may be out the question. Buy her a toy, Butterflies, ladybugs, and Dolphins will do the trick.

2. She owns a MARY J Blige CD, and is not afraid to use it.

You know you did something Questionable, and you hear I’m not going CRY. [Or Rihanna's Take A Bow] Go for a walk… or see number 10

1. She loves it when you hug her from behind and whisper in her ear.

Hold a whole conversation in this position. The heat could hinder this so make sure the air is on.

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Contentment In Life

2008-07-02T17:51:00.001+01:00

Being happy is equated to been contented, pleased and been fortunate according to the Oxford Dictionary. Been Happy in the Nigerian context- well to the average Nigerian is having his basic needs met i.e Food, Shelter, and Clothing. Also been happy is correlated to wealth, friends, spiritual consciousness and having a good job. But we know that been happy is dependent on the individual because what might satisfy you the reader might not even have any effect on me.

Nigeria has often been described as one of the happiest country in the world i.e the country with the most contented individuals.But we know this is at face value, the average Nigerian is "suffering and smiling" going about "jejeli" on his own with an "e go better" attitude. The worse the economy gets, the more we adapt to the situation.

Scientists have stated 10 parameters for Happiness.

1. Make the most of your genes...
Happiness has been adjudged to be influenced by half what is happening now and half set point
determined by our grandparents, meaning that if your grandparents were relatively happy "ceteris paribus" your parents would be relatively happy and you also would be happy.
Then it was found that Extroverts tend to be happier than introverts. that is, a socially interested indivisual is usually happier than a person who lives a solitary, lonely life. Hence there is really no harm in going to clubs, joining groups and even going to mama put joints to interact.

2.Get Married...
Although the economic situation might not allow marriages cause it has been estimated that even a small marriage costs about N1.5 million, more than what some individuals earn in 5 years. Hence this might not really work, but it has been discovered that happy people are more likely to get married and stay married especially if there is trust, love and sharing. The closest to this is been engaged or live-in-lovers.

3.Make Friends and Value Them...
Relating to people makes an individual happy because sharing some amount of trust is a factor.
Almost every person needs a shoulder to rely on and a listening ear.Been malicious usually makes us sad. Been appreciated is what we all crave.

4.Desire Less...
It is an economic fact that not all our needs can be met with our meagre resources hence been happy requires us to desire less. The essential needs i.e Shelter, Clothing and Food bring a large amount of happiness. Coveting what you dont have is bad for your peace of mind and the more people have, the more they want.

5.Find God (or a belief system)...
Most nigerians are religious especially when it comes to football, i remember how many people
prophesied that we would win the just concluded African Cup Of Nations.It has been found out that believing in God or an Afterlife can give people meaning and purpose and reduce the feeling of being in the world. The most fearful of death ( like all Nigerians are) are those who are unspecific, or uncommitted to any specific belief system.
It also brings social interaction and support.

6.Do Someone A Good Turn...
The bible says it is more blessed to give than to receive. The more voluntary work you do, the happier you get. People who provide support to others are better off themselves.
They even live longer.

7.Stop Comparing Your Looks With Others...
Everybody is beautifully and wonderfully created. We are all beautiful in our own little way.
Most of us are envious of our friends bodies,the guys want bigger biceps and triceps while the gals want fuller breasts.(i watch dr 90210,so i know) Studies have found out that Good looking people are much happier. Health and happiness go hand in hand and influence each other. It is
also said that a good laugh a day keeps the doctor and sorrow away. The remedy to appreciating your looks more is "believing you look great" and "appreciating your body for what it does rather tha how it looks". For example, Great defender Taribo West and prolific actor Segun Arinze.

8.Earn More Money (up to a point)...
As we all know,wealthier people are much happier. Although a good paying job doesnt necessarily lead to been happy. Moeny buys status and status makes you better off. Studies have shown that it would take #70,000 a year (about 14 million naira) to make a person happy!!! Enough said.

9.Grow Old Gracefully...
Elderly People are just as happy as the young but are more satisfied with their life. The secret to this is to focus on things that make you happy and let go of those that dont. The old also remember the "good old days" and try as much to forget the present times. why songs now dont make sense to them...lol

10.Dont Worry If You Arent A Genius...
From experience, Know-it-alls are not appreciated. Been very brilliant is not a criteria for happiness. Yo dont have to be Einstien, rather, been a little above average is okay. Social intelligience rather than "bookish" intelligience is the key to happiness.

Happiness is a state of mind shown on your face. So smile everytime cause it takes abot 15 muscles to smile while about 37 to frown.Frowning also discourages appreciation. As Lagbaja would say "Put a smile on your face, no matter condition, feyin e"

Conversations With A Babe 3 (OK)

2008-06-30T17:12:00.004+01:00

Yeah i had to get this into this month...my third in the series...Conversations with a babe...
This conversation is with a female blogger, cant tell you who she is, cause her identity had been COMPROMISED awhile ago...anyways enjoy this

For Conversation 1:
Conversations with a Babe

For Conversation 2:
conversations with a babe 2 (zephi)

18andabove: am back...sorry abt that...
18andabove: am sure u're tired of hearing me say sorry..lol
18andabove: cld we continue?
OK: lol
OK: not quite
OK: my PC played up too
18andabove: dont like using the word so much...it reduces its significance
18andabove: like love...i think we use both words too much...witrhout meaning it
OK: i guess
OK: dont they say love makes the world go round?
18andabove: yeah right...lol
18andabove: do u know the opposite of love?
OK: I know its not necessarily hate
OK: but really I dont know
18andabove: its indifference...
18andabove: have u ever been in love?
OK: yes
18andabove: ow does it feel?
OK: great when all is going well
OK: but pain cant qualify what you feel when it goes wrong
18andabove: have u ever loved someone who didnt love u back?
OK: Hmm
OK: am not sure
OK: cant remember now
OK: no
OK: I actually haven't
OK: I've been infatuated with someone who didnt feel the same
18andabove: and ow did that make u feel
OK: ah...problem is I always get my way
OK: I had sex with him and got him out of my system
OK: I learnt a lot from that brief encounter
OK: so now when I feel a strong attraction for a guy
OK: I wait it out to make sure its the real thing
OK: its so easy to think infatuation is love
OK: once I had sex with him he was just another bloke I didnt give a toss about
OK: so at the end of the day I was not hurt
18andabove: yeah i guess so...
18andabove: and got it out of ur system...that easily?
OK: yup
OK: I was shocked too
OK: may be cos the sex was bad
18andabove: well, maybe u just wanted sex with the bloke?
18andabove: get out of here
18andabove: ow can u determine that by the way?
OK: Its hard
OK: I dont ever see a guy and feel i wanna have sex with him
OK: its never happened to me
18andabove: heaven didnt shake...lol
18andabove: ok there's always a first time...
OK: I guess
OK: still waiting
18andabove: wat wld attract a guy to u?
OK: a guy to me
OK: I really dont know
OK: I get a lot of admirers
OK: they all say different things
OK: but mostly say cos am beautiful and intelligent
18andabove: like what?...okay if thats difficult...
18andabove: cld u describe ur sef physically...ur hobbies, role models etc
OK: oh i think I answered ur question the other way round
18andabove: intelligient but not smart...hmm
OK: am average size
OK: I'd like to believe I've got everything proportionally
OK: I dont have any role models unfortunately
18andabove: lepa or orobo?
OK: neither
18andabove: okay then wat do u enjoy doing...
OK: reading when I get a chance to
18andabove: coke bottle, maltina, sprit
OK: writing
OK: obviously which covers blogging
OK: and internet forums
18andabove: yeah...
OK: cinemas
OK: swimming
OK: talking
18andabove: oh u' shd really be fit then...
OK: travelling
OK: but I hate flying
18andabove: talking...i love talking to...
18andabove: wats the last movie u saw?
OK: SATC
OK: going to see wanted this weekend
18andabove: ok so in SATC, which of the characters wld best describe u
OK: SJP
18andabove: ok then...so i have an idea now...
18andabove: staying there grants a sense of freedom...as in no really cultural indirance
OK: I guess
OK: here I can be who or what I wanna be
18andabove: u're sexy,intelligient...an academic but loves taking risks...\
18andabove: brb
OK: I take a lot of risk...too many for my own good
18andabove: like wat was the last one?
OK: some guy I knew was rubbish for me
OK: but somehow I was hanging on thinking what if I was wrong about him
OK: it was a huge risk cos i was still hurting from a relationship that had marriage on the horizon
18andabove: okay?
OK: turned out it was a bad risk
OK: but I woke up before things went too far though
OK: the guy is back on my case now but I've moved on
18andabove: isnt it funny that we usually ask u guys out immediately after a heartbreak...lol
18andabove: almost as if we're praying for it to happen?
OK: yea
OK: I know
OK: but i guess we are conditioned to be like dat
18andabove: yea...so have u ever had someone love u(well thats what they say) but u OK: Loads of times
OK: its sickening
OK: and at the same time disheartening
18andabove: yeah, tell me abt it...lol
18andabove: i get that a bit...lol
OK: because they are a lot more better than the sort of guys I fall for
18andabove: happens...
OK: but unfortunately they dont do it for me
18andabove: cause there's just not attraction
OK: exactly
OK: and we dont have much in common
18andabove: okay then
OK: but i did try to overlook that on one occasion
OK: thinking I could just work on myself
OK: but it turned out to be the biggest mistake ever
OK: after 6 months I was still struggling
18andabove: lol...ow long has ur longest relationship being?
OK: 3 years
18andabove: u try o...my longest was a year...
18andabove: wat abt shortest
OK: 2 weeks
18andabove: beat u...lol mine was a day...and it wasnt a one night stand o...
18andabove: she said yes in the morning....sex...we broke up amicabbly in the evening
18andabove: wat do u think i shd do?
18andabove: theres this chick really tripping for me but doent no ow to tell me...
OK: do you like her?
18andabove: and she has a 8yr old son
18andabove: u see we used to date....b4 she became pregnant years ago...
OK: what do u feel for her now?
18andabove: indifferenc
18andabove: so how do i tell her or show her that am not interested
OK: how does she show you that she still likes you?
18andabove: she comes around...
18andabove: she calls a lot...
18andabove: trys to be friendly with the family
OK: well stop picking her calls often
OK: when she comes around dont give her audience
18andabove: okay...
18andabove: wld u date someone that has a 8 yr old son?
OK: yup
18andabove: u wld...even though he belongs to another woman...\
18andabove: thats serious o
18andabove: anyways me i cant sha
OK: he doesnt belong to another woman
18andabove: the son i mean
OK: he will be fully divorced from her or whatever
OK: of cos
OK: that doesnt matter
18andabove: ehn ehn...as long as he loves u abi...
18andabove: one of u called me a small boy yesterday when i said i wanted to ask her out
OK: lol
OK: well you probably are not what she goes for
18andabove: okay i'm 5 6, fine boy,and all the adjectives u used for ursef earlier...
18andabove: why wldnt u want me...
18andabove: not u in this case, but ladies
OK: there's more to a guy than his physically attribute
OK: and 56" is not tall for a man
OK: most women like tall men
18andabove: yeah i know...ehn thank you...lol...
18andabove: funny that the women i've dated were always taller
18andabove: capable?
OK: of cos
OK: capable yes
OK: earns enough money to take care of their material needs like i said
18andabove: i hope u're not thinking wat am thinking?
18andabove: ok...money,money,money
OK: of cos
OK: its tradition in Nigeria
OK: men are brought up to work for the money
OK: women are brought up to spend the money
18andabove: so to be a big boi...u've got to be capable..
18andabove: although i dont know wat u mean by that...
18andabove: then u've got to have more...in short be comfortable...
18andabove: spend all the money?
OK: for most girls
OK: but I dont give a toss about a guy’s money
OK: as long as he can pay his own way
18andabove: u sure...lol
OK: we're cool
18andabove: abi o...
OK: although i wont deny it does help if he has a bit more to spare
18andabove: lol...so she's called me a small boi, abi
18andabove: so how do u change that impression when thats already ow she thinks?
OK: Use a different tactics
OK: act like u not interested in her
OK: become a friend first
OK: do stuff together
OK: just as friends
OK: and hopefully she may start to warm up to you
OK: but this is not a guarantee
18andabove: friends...ah...she'll just think u want to stay friends...
18andabove: okay...u already said its not a guarantee...but wld work for u i guess
OK: possibly
OK: not in all cases
18andabove: ok...i,ve u called someone a small boy b4? or looked at them that way?
OK: I have
OK: but that was then
OK: if i call someone a small boy now, it would be because I think he's too young to want the sort of commitment I want
18andabove: ehn ehn...
18andabove: thought age was nothing but a number?
18andabove: u cld date someone younger cldnt u?
OK: i could date someone younger
OK: only if we are on the same page
OK: if he wants the same things i want
OK: and he understands my thinking
OK: otherwise there's no point
18andabove: ok...like 8 yrs younger?
18andabove: just pray he doesnt call u aunty one day...lol
18andabove: BUT ITS REALLY NOT EASY FOR US WORKING CLASS TO MEET SOMEONE ABI?
OK: 8 years?
OK: humm no
OK: I can only do maximum of 3
18andabove: okay then
OK: so is the interview over?
OK: lol
18andabove: no we're just getting started...
18andabove: u tired already?...if u want to stop no problem...
18andabove: but i think the major questions are next
OK: ok
OK: i got the next 40 mins before i leave work
18andabove: shd we rush this or we'll talk tomorrow or monday?
OK: rush it
18andabove: ok then
18andabove: APART FROM WEDDINGS WERE IS IT SURE BANKER THAT U CAN GET A SINGLE BABE
OK: Anywhere
OK: church
OK: uni
OK: work
OK: parties
OK: on the street
OK: car wash
OK: library
OK: thru a friend
OK: on the internet
18andabove: by sms dating...
18andabove: by using my service...
18andabove: so apart from watching tv, what does a girl...sorry lady like u do, when u come back from work
OK: internet and talking on the telephone
OK: i dont do much after work unless of cos am meeting a friend
18andabove: i thought u'd say "start getting ready for a date"
18andabove: lets say u were going for one, what preparations wld u make?
OK: same ol
OK: am not vain
OK: as long as i smell nice and my nails look pretty
OK: am good
18andabove: lol...ok...so wld u want to go where he likes, or where u like?
OK: I can go anywhere
OK: cos am so indecisive I normally let him make the decision
18andabove: so in what direction wld u want the conversation to go...when u guys are talking
OK: I dont like to feel restricted
OK: we shud talk abt everything and anything
OK: but nothing too intimate
18andabove: SO WHAT WLD BE A CONVERSATION KILLER
OK: Am a very liberal person
OK: nothing could kill a conversation
OK: i want to know as much as possible so that I can place the person
18andabove: SO WLD A KISS ON THE 1ST NIGHT BE IN ORDER?
OK: if i like him, yes
OK: if i don’t, no
18andabove: OKAY SO IF HE MADE AN ATTEMPT,HE'D PROBABLY GET A SLAP...LOL
OK: nope
OK: am not a rude person
OK: I'll probably let him kiss me chastely on the cheek
OK: just not to bruise his ego
18andabove: BUT YOU'LL BE EXPECTING HE'S CALL AFTER THE DATE ABI?
OK: if i like him yes
OK: if i dont no
18andabove: SO WHEN IS THE CALLING TO EARLY OR TOO LATE...
OK: it doesnt matter
OK: things like dat dont bother me
OK: if he doesnt call by the third day i'd assume he's not interested in me
18andabove: WLD U EVER CALL A GUY U LIKE AS IN AFTER THE DATE?
OK: of cos
OK: its not all down to guys
OK: if you like a guy u've got to make an effort
OK: if he doesnt call me by the following day I'd call him
OK: if he doesnt return my call two days later then I'd move on
18andabove: want to paint a picture here...u're looking at this tall,dark and handsome guy...speaking good english....comfortable...
18andabove: he asks u for a date & u say no....somethings definately wrong...lol
OK: not necessarily
OK: do I like wot I see?
OK: if I dont, then it doesnt matter if he's tall and handsome
18andabove: so like ow many guys ask u out everyday...dont exagerate o...
OK: It doesnt work that way
OK: I mean am a very busy woman
OK: I dont come across guys who can stop me all the time
18andabove: okay lets say a week...
OK: but lets just say there are usually up to 3 men on my case at any one time
OK: I've never been toaster-less
18andabove: did u know that...the average single person goes on 22 dates, has 3 one-night-stands and three serious relationships before "settling down with The One."
18andabove: so ow do u rate...?
OK: Never had a one night stand
OK: I cant count how may dates I go one
OK: loads I guess
OK: and I've had 3 serious relationships so far
18andabove: lol...so they're almost right...
18andabove: wld u ask someone to marry u...
OK: I guess if we've been together a while
18andabove: wldnt that be the height of desperation
OK: nope
18andabove: okay then
OK: desperation doesnt come into it
OK: its cos u love someone and u guys are good together
18andabove: it wld be "love" as i guessed
OK: if he says no, tough
18andabove: u just go on living life shey?
OK: of cos
18andabove: whats the significance of a kiss to u...?
OK: it shows intimacy
OK: such that you dont get from sex
18andabove: so which wld u prefer...the kiss or sex
OK: it depends
OK: they cant exactly be compared
18andabove: guess it depends on ur mood and the fellow involved
18andabove: so what 1st comes to ur mind when a guy invites u to his place
OK: before nothing
OK: just to hang out and have a chat
OK: but these days I believe he wants to have sex
18andabove: ehn ehn...really...thats
OK: so unless am prepared to have sex with him, I dont go
18andabove: lol\
18andabove: What wld you and your partner argue about?
OK: timeliness and orderliness
18andabove: his abi...lol
OK: yes his
18andabove: How do you know your guy loves you?
OK: you never really know when a guy loves u
OK: love means different things to them
OK: but if he's there for me always am ok with that
18andabove: i guess so...
18andabove: Could you attend you Ex-boyfriend wedding?
OK: yup
OK: most of my split ups have always been amicable
OK: except for the most recent one
18andabove: mine too...
OK: so perhaps i wont go to his
18andabove: wldnt go to there weddings though
18andabove: Is it possible to love two guys?
OK: yes...but you will definitely prefer one to the other
OK: but the thing is the one u prefer may not necessarily have a trait that the other person have which you really need
18andabove: possibly...the question really wld be...cld u doubledate?
OK: so its still a dilemma whichever way u look at it
OK: I cant double date
OK: not because am trying to be moral
18andabove: okay?...
OK: but because my emotions do overtake me sometimes
18andabove: ow?
OK: so it can only be one man at a time
OK: which really sucks
OK: I wish i could
OK: lol
OK: i get pretty emotional
OK: wanna see him
OK: spend time with him
OK: bla bla
OK: cant feel/want that for two peeps at the same time
18andabove:
with both or either one...
OK: too much to handle
18andabove: Wld you date a guy shorter than you?
What about one with a different religion?
What about one in a different tribe?

OK: one at a time
OK: I'd rather date a xtian cos i want to remain a xtian
18andabove: ok?
OK: but i never say never
OK: i'd rather date a yoruba man
OK: but i could consider other tribes
18andabove: ok thats abt it...
18andabove: there's just this segment that i like a lot...i say a word and u reply with the 1st word that comes to ur mind...
18andabove: ready?
OK: got just 3 mins
OK: can we do it in that time?
18andabove: we''ll be thru by then...
18andabove: takes abt one min
OK: start
18andabove: love
OK: seldom
18andabove: blue
OK: red
18andabove: sex
OK: heaven
18andabove: attraction
OK: important
18andabove: guys
OK: trash
18andabove: blogging
OK: therapeautic
18andabove: Insecurity
OK: sucks
18andabove: Obsession
OK: danger
18andabove: Relationships
OK: great
18andabove: capable
OK: excellence
18andabove: Commitment
OK: great
OK: got to go now
OK: am out
OK: later
18andabove: okay bye
18andabove: thanks alot...

monday 16-06-08 (finally)

2008-06-16T13:49:00.002+01:00

yeah i 've been around...had a lot of things to talk about but was just to lazy to blog...
i still want to continue with this diary though and i'll find time to fill in the days i missed...
i just didnt want to blog,i have a very short attention span and if i've been blogging for this long, i probably will be able to get to the end of the year Insha Allah...yes my attention span is 6 months at the most and if i get past that it'll be 3 years...its helped me in business,relationship and life as a whole...i'm just looking for the next thing...

i've been a couple of delimma's in the last few days...starting from that trip to owu falls,

i didnt know that keeping a daily diary was this difficult at least i tried sha, my paper diaries are just filled with tips, quotes, my jottings from classes and the books i read...yes i dont write stuff in my paper diary...i just use it to keep notes...yeah yeah i'm just rambling abi...i'm letting my thoughts out for the 1st time in a while...

i have role models, mr Richard branson and Mr donald trump, wonderful individuals, successes in business, billionaires and...have divorced atleast once...shey u understand where i'm coming from...anyways i'm like if i wasnt to be like this individuals, does that mean i'm going to marry more than one wife?and if yes,who 1st?

anyways...i get to ilorin and call sexy, i got all the info about owu falls from her...she's so surprised that i'm in ilorin,i'm surprised too...soemthing in me's telling me that i took this trip just because of her and not cause of owu falls...well thats a part of it...i do this kind of crazy things for the women in my life...lol...

and thats the point,i'm i living the life i want or living this life because of the way a woman is dictating it,i'm i basing my decisions based on wanting to be a success in my relationship 1st or a success in life...because ultimately if its about the woman...i'm going to lose...

sha, i finally get to meet sexy, a lot bigger than her picture, and we end up getting close to having sex...i couldnt because i'm thinking, distance is going to be a major factor in this relationship and she isnt what i want,honestly, i too have a list for my ideal woman and 1st and foremost i want a woman that i can share stuff with, then she must also be near...near enough for us to go on a date in an hour...not one that lives 5 or 6 hours away...i also didnt want to take her for granted cause she loved me...she did, and okay she was a virgin...i couldnt bring myself to have sex with her when i knew i wouldnt want to have a relationship with her...and no its not about std's or aids, its just that this stuff that people do lackadisically, i see as a convenant...yeah think me weird but u just dont have sex with any and everyone...period...

anyways, i get back to Lagos,after risking my life on the Ibadan to Ilorin one lane road...and i call her...my dear, we just have to break up...this couldnt possibly work...she sees reasons with me and that was it...she's now in the past although i miss her so much now...miss her big nose,small breasts,musk perfume...most of all i miss her smile and squeaky voice...i also miss her long natural hair...yes o no bi attachement...anyways as i said she's in the past and unlike others i dont make friends withe exes...when its done its done...i'll only hear from u when u call...
dont go out of ur way to call people that'll just endure talking to u and u bring memories...

thats that...i let that out...

thsi got me thinking about the other women in my life...those i could possibly marry...thing is i dont really think this women care about me...well apart from one...lets call her d, shey i told u that my brother's birthday was saturday in ibadan and yes he's having his 5th wedding annervarsary...oppurtunity to see the family again, to here the latest gist and to present D to the family...yes Other memebers have to meet her 1st before my mum...anyways, D shows up late...in a suit for this kind of party?...and i have to practically force her to meet the folks...and the judgement i got wasnt good...in short, i couldnt present her to mum unless, i feel in love with her,she uses jazz on me or , i really damn what they all say...

i ask myself why i'm i doing this to myself,why do i want to go out with someone who i might not marry?...why do i think marriage will solve a major challenge which i have which is practically becoming a success in business...

and dont go saying, shebi u run a mobile dating service, u could get another one.....
know my dear it doesnt work that way...there always has to be a connection...even if i meet 20 babes in a day,i'll only hope and pray she's the right one...

i'm already tired again although i have lots of other stuff to add maybe later...

let me just read this information about getting a visa to the us, i want to go on a short visit to see a friend...

thats another thing i want to reduce, i want to stop this my information overload...i read everything,books,magazines,blogs... listen to different kind of music,jazz,hip hop,soul,i'm really into pasuma now even though my colleagues at the office think i'm too tush to listen to fuji; watch all the programs on tv...aargh...maybe i shd take a break from all this stuff sef i'll just miss watching salvadore in the second chance...the uefa championship matches...hip tv...prime time jamz...well i have to stop one way or the other sha...

shey i've written abou tmy business yet, well okay...i will be removing a few stuff from my blog although earlier in the week i wanted to close it down...hopefully what'll be left will be original content...and i'm procastinating a lot when it comes to my business...i'm always trying to move it to the next level...always...always...well one day with the help and patronage of u guys it'll be possible...

i've been thinking abt all what is happening in my life right now...did i tell u that the event on saturday was at my brother's house...he's almost completed it...and then i learnt that my friend had moved to his own flat and now has a car...i'm happy for them, but the question that came to my mind was Olohun, when will it be my turn?...he answered in various ways before the end of the weekend...he's like Omo mi,In the marathon called life, you're not racing against opponents, you're in this race against yourself...
Later,He's like Patience,Patience...

and finally he's like what do u really want in life...
what steps are u taking to get what you want...
what wld u give up to get what you want...
thats the koko o...

i know what i wld give up sha,that thing that we guys usually do to or without ourselves when we are aroused...its a bad thing, often develops into a habit and ruins stuff...i didnt use any word o...
i wld also be willing to give up having sex till a later date...
i wld give up taking in all this information...
i wld be willing to give up chocolate..."sob"
i'd even be willing to give up asking the ladies (i probably wouldnt marry) on a date...

why is it that we often plan a lot when we dont have money,,,,then when the money comes we just discard them and go do wat we like with the money...i bet it takes self discipline abi,well i have to take time out to really develop that...

yeah, i havent updated the singles corner for a while and i will be for the end of the day...i have lots of exciting people i'd like u guys to meet...and i'll be adding a small questionaire on how to improve on the service on the side of my blog and will also be sending it to your mobile numbers...your answers and observations will be appreciated...i'm also working on a 18andabove t-shirt, working on other trips to tourist attractions...also putting in place a system by which you could advertise your products or services on 18andabove and its affiliates...

didnt know it costs this much to want to go to the us o...

work sef hasnt been really lively for me...i'm tired of still working here...its 3 years already and u wldnt beleive that i said i wasnt going to use more than months...the whole work i do at work isnt up to 3 hours out of 8 and i spend the rest of the day chatting with pple i'm not feeling at all or browsing stuff that i wouldnt probably remember tomorrow...damn

Why More Than 75% of Men Can't Attract Women

2008-06-13T17:41:00.001+01:00

So many guys think you can improve your sexual quality by learning
all sorts of special techniques. Sure, those are nice - but they're
closer to window dressing than the heart of the matter. What you
REALLY need to do is engage her brain, activate her fantasies - and
become that which TRULY turns her on.

You'll like this exercise

I want you to close your eyes. I want you to close your eyes and
continue reading through squinty eyelids that you shut whenever you
get enough info to run with it.

Now, I want you to think of the HOTTEST image you can.

It can be something you've done, something you've seen done, or
just something you've dreamt of doing.

Paint the full picture. Really let yourself go, get randy, get to
the point where it's tough to just sit there without doing
something ABOUT this amazing fantasy.

Once you've gotten the picture firmly in your head and you've, uh,
concluded it, take a few moments to reflect.

What was it about the fantasy that turned you on?

It's not the size of the wave, OR the motion of the ocean?

Now I don't claim to have ANY idea what you personally find
exciting, but I'm prepared to make a few generalities that will
almost CERTAINLY apply.

It might have been location-specific, or person-specific, or
attitude-specific.

But it wasn't technique-specific.

What I mean by this is, you might have been on a secluded beach
with three other ladies lapping at you - but you weren't concerned
with the exact motion of the flicks of their tongues (even if you
know it through vivid imagination).

If you were making out, it might have been the EXCITEMENT of doing
it in a hotel pool with lots of balconies around - but not the
pattern of suction she applied to your lips.

Or if you were eating sushi off some naked Asian beauty, it was the
fact that you were EATING SUSHI OFF SOME NAKED ASIAN BEAUTY, and
didn't have much to do with how you held the chopsticks.

Where are we going here?

Technique isn't important. Ok, it's important - but only in a
secondary kind of way.

You've been duped too long!

'Wait,' you think, 'What about Susie Q. who did this thing it drove
me wild, that was technique!'

Yeah, that can happen. But only when you already LIKE someone, for
the most part. Susie Q. already got you excited - so you were
LOOKING for something to turn you wild. You were just helping her
along.

Now, there are rare instances of a woman who has such AMAZING
technique that she'll keep her men around just for that.

But trust me, those are EXTREMELY rare instances, both because of
the skill necessary and because, well, most men need something MORE
than the pure physical pleasure of pleasing touches.

Don't get me wrong, the pleasing touches are wonderful - they just
can't do the job alone.

Now, bearing in mind what it is that REALLY turns men on, remember
this - for women, it's even MORE about the fantasy and LESS the
physicality.

Up to ten times more, in some cases.

And what is it that most books or programs try to teach a man to
help his sex life?

Yep, techniques.

Hey, it can be handy to know the 1 o'clock hot spot or the Frisbee
hold... in the same way it can be handy to know where the salad fork
goes.

These things can help make an event that much more special, but if
you can't COOK, they don't mean much.

So, sexually, how do you COOK?

Simple. You've got to plug into your lady's brain.

Engage her mind, find out and then ACT OUT her fantasies. Don't
worry so much about stroke order until you've mastered the more
ephemeral parts of sex.

And how do you do that?

If I had to sum it up in two words, I'd say Inner Confidence.

You need to be so COMFORTABLE in your sexual skin that you RELAX
her. So OPEN and at ease that you bypass her nerves and shyness
(and most women - even gregarious ones - are shy when you get to
sexual fantasies).

You need to make her feel ok being open and vulnerable with you.
And you do that not through cooing and being a girlie-man - but by
being open and confident and completely natural about everything.

And then you need to LEAD her.

If her comfort and trust are what open the door, you've gotta take
her hand and help her through it.

Think about it - you can NEVER achieve this sort of openness and
freedom with another spontaneously or just because you WANT to - it
MUST be actively brought out by your partner.

And then, once you've got access to her fantasies, start making
them come TRUE. Trust me, if you truly get in her head, you can
make a woman orgasm without even TOUCHING her.

And if you've got a lady having that much fun, she's going to
INSIST on sharing the pleasure.

So now you know WHAT to do - the question is HOW?

Where's that recipe?

The answer is from WITHIN yourself. This is entirely an
inside-to-outside enterprise.

How Ugly Men Attract Women...

2008-06-11T17:56:00.001+01:00

It's a sad fact of life that everyone out
there has some type of insecurity that makes
them feel "unattractive." Even the most
beautiful women in the world have stuff about
them that makes them feel ugly at times.

For men - their visual nature can often times
make them very critical of their own appearance.
There is always something that makes us
feel as though we are ugly.

Maybe it's the fact that we are too short,
or fat, or bald, or old? There are any
number of factors that make us feel "unworthy"
of the attentions of beautiful women.

But if that was the case - no one would ever be
able to attract a woman at all!

In fact, the next time you're out, take a mental
note of every guy you see with an attractive girl,
and try and appraise whether or not you think that
guy's looks are worthy of the girl he's with.

Sure, sometimes you'll find a guy who's with a
girl and they are both fine credits to their
species. But most of the time, what you'll
find is the guys with really hot and appealing
women range from "average" to "ugly" in the
looks department.

That's because beauty - in men - is the exception,
not the standard.

But more than that, men rely on factors OTHER
than their looks to help attract the kinds of
women they want to them.

There are three major factors that most men try
and utilize to the best of their ability when
attracting new and exciting women to them.
They are:

1. Wealth

2. Social Status

3. Personality

Let's go through these one at a time...

The first factor men use to attract the opposite
sex is their wealth, or finances. Proving one's
"provider" status to women is a sure fire
way to get female attention. After all, what woman
DOESN'T want to be pampered?

However, there is a big problem with this tactic.
First of all, not everyone is rich or wealthy, so
this factor is reserved for the few that are.
More than that, women often feel like you're
trying to "bribe" or "impress" them with your
wealth, and because of that, they will treat you
more like an ATM machine with feet, rather than a
loving, caring, mate.

Keep in mind that there is nothing wrong with
using financial success to draw women into you.
But unless you have the money in the bank to
do so, you can't rely on this method to get you
a good woman.

The second factor is social status. Women are very
attuned to the social hierarchy of things, so having
a "high status" around women definitely makes any
man more attractive.

This status comes from holding a certain position
of power. It could be an important job, some type
of fame, or just the esteem of your peers.

However, one of the difficulties with this is
that you need to be able to display social status.
You can't just tell someone "I'm a very important
person" and have them believe it. They have to
get a sense of it themselves, and sometimes your
situation is not conducive to communicating this
(like meeting a woman on the street for instance.
She has no idea who you are!).

Also - not everyone has a high social status. Some
people are content with maintaining a medium to low
level status. Where does that leave these people?

With the THIRD factor - that of Personality.
The thing I like about personality is that it's
something EVERYONE can use to attract the kind
of women they desire, and it doesn't matter
how much money you make or what your social
situation is like.

Having an attractive personality is the best
way for "average" or "unattractive" men to get
women interested in them. Being able to make
a woman laugh will turn her on more than a guy
with big muscles and a full head of hair.

Understand that women are slaves to their emotions,
and your personality is the method by which you
trigger emotions inside a woman!

The better your personality, the better you're
able to make a woman feel.

And your personality is something that can be
changed and cultivated over time. You can make
yourself into anything you want to be! It's
truly amazing how some "losers" can become
"rockstars" in the eyes of their friends and the
women they like just by tweaking their personality
a little bit.

So how do you do this?

The first step is to really work on your confidence.
The more confident you are, the better you're able
to display your personality.

Working on your social skills will also help you
to be relaxed and have fun around women. This
will create new opportunities for attraction.

And learning how to create strong emotional bonds
is also the best way there is to get a woman
emotionally attached to you.

What if?

2008-06-10T18:18:00.003+01:00

1. When you looked at yourself in the mirror today, what was the first thing you
thought? Damn, i'm a fine boy

2. How much cash do you have on you? About 3k

3. Whats a word that rhymes with door? Small

4. Favorite planet? Earth

5. Who is the 4th person on your missed call list on your mobile? A client

6. What is your favorite ring on your phone? Beep

7. What shirt are you wearing right now? Checkered shirt

8. Do you "label" yourself? Yeah i do

9. Name the brand of shoes you're currently wearing? Pc's

10. Bright or Dark Room? Dark

11. What do you think about the person who took this survey? Dont even know the person who took the survey

13. What were you doing at midnight? Watching a movie

14. What did your last text message you received on your mobile say? My GTB bank statement

15. Where is your mail box? Dont have one

17. Who told you he/she loved you last? Sexy

18. Last furry thing you touched? Pillow

19. How many drugs have you done in the last three days? Fansidar,Paractemol

20. How many rolls of film do you need to get developed? pass!!!

21. Favorite age you have been so far? 27

22. Your worst enemy? Procasination

23. What is your current desktop picture? The company Logo

24. What was the last thing you said to someone? Thought you had gone home

25. If you had to choose between a million bucks or to be able to fly? give me the money

26. Do you like someone? Yeah i do

27. The last song you listened to? 4 minutes by madonna

28. If the last person you spoke to was getting shot at, would you run? Yea

29. If you could punch one person right now, who would it be? I'd punch me

30. What is the closest object to your left foot? cables

thursday 05/06/08 (Virtual Reality)

2008-06-10T17:37:00.002+01:00

Its a weekend and if you're like me,you've already made plans or you would of done by the end of the day.
Plans,who you're going to spend the weekend with mr who'll be spending it with you.
If you're a guy,you're assuming she's coming for the sex right,wrong,
she's coming to be mentally stimulated.
She's coming because she wants to be assured she made the right choice.

I dont know the cost of dating anywhere else in the world but i do know that in nigeria,you'd spend enough to build a house:-)lol
cost of dates:atleast one per month=N10,000
cost of gifts on birthdays:N30,000
cost of gifts on val's day:N50,000
transportation to her house:transportation to events:N20,000
condoms:N25,000
trip to the movies,zoo,etc:N50,000

The One Real Way To Get a Woman's Number

2008-06-03T18:52:00.000+01:00

Derek, I met this hottie at a bar and we chatted
for a few minutes. Things were going well and we
were really clicking fast so I asked her for her
phone number.

She gave it to me...

Two days later I called her back, but no answer.
The next day I called her again and she picked
up... but her end of the conversation was stiff
and it seemed like she was blowing me off.

Derek, what happened? At the bar she seemed
interested. Where did I do wrong?

Raz

A lot of guys think that once they have a girl's
number, success!

Not so.

Just because you have a woman's number, it
doesn't necessarily mean much.

It's quite possible that the girl took a liking
to you, and you came across as cool dude. But a
RANDOM dude nonetheless.

Sometimes women are flattered when they are asked
for their number. So she gives it to you.

Sometimes women feel too guilty and bad to say
"no" because you seem like a cool guy and they
don't want you to think they're a bitch.

Even if, in the moment, she gives you her number
and she would like you to call her, it doesn't
mean that two days later when you DO call, that
she'll be in same headspace. The fire of the
moment is gone and now she starts to rationalize
reasons not to take your call.

That's why most of the phone numbers that men get
may be good for feeding their egos, but in
reality are worthless pieces of paper.

You could go up to dozens of women, give them a
compliment or ask for their opinion on something,
and then get their number - but 90% of the
numbers you would get this way would lead to dead
ends and message machines.

So what's the key to getting QUALITY phone
numbers and not just quantity?

Most throwaway phone numbers are a result of the
man getting the number too fast.

First of all, if you're at a bar and meet a girl,
don't talk to her for only five minutes and then
jump for the phone number and leave thinking
you're going to score. After all, what's the
point of getting a phone number in the first
place... to meet up later and continue the
seduction, right?

But you had her right there at the bar, right
THEN. You could have used that opportunity to
seduce her right THEN. You were on a "date" with
her right THEN. So getting a number so that you
can meet up with her later, and walking away from
the interaction in the moment is totally
counterproductive and nonsensical.

Also, if you get her phone number without going
through the proper preliminary steps, then yes,
the girl might be digging you, but in reality you
didn't have enough social value to her for her to
want to start an ongoing, dating relationship
with you.

A girl who with a social value of 8 might give
her number to you if she perceives you to have a
social value of 6... but that doesn't mean she'll
follow up with you.

Phone numbers are only solid when you both have
the same social value.

If you both have the same social value, she'll be
WAITING and HOPING for you to call.

So BEFORE you get a woman's phone number, you
want to make sure that you have at least equal,
if not more social value than her.

That means having social proof if possible, using
the nonverbal sexual cues, entertaining and
leading her peer group, lowering her social value
by temporarily ignoring her or teasing her,
dressing well, ignoring social pressure, and so
on... all the methods that build social value in
a woman's eyes.

Then, once she's given you a few green lights,
start screening her. If she passes your
screening, accept her. Then isolate her if she's
not alone with you already.

NOW you can get her number.

Basically, if you want a SOLID phone number that
will have the girl waiting and hoping that you'll
call, don't even both getting it until the girl
has shown you a number of green lights and you've
screened her and she's tried to pass your
screening.

WHAT WORKS BETTER THAN PHONE NUMBERS

Instead of getting a woman's phone number,
propose an "instant date" right on the spot.

After all, why would you meet up with her up
later for a date when you could go on a date with
her RIGHT NOW?

If you're on a campus, invite her to go to the
bookstore with you and have coffee.

If you're at a bar, invite her to go to Denny's
restaurant for nacho chips with you.

If you're at the mall, tell her you need some
help picking out a shirt.

Or you can even instant date her to her apartment
if it's nearby - because you just have to show
her your aquarium and the pirate crab with only
one claw (or use whatever other excuse you can
come up with).

When you score an instant date you're no longer
just "some guy she met at a bar" but rather you
become "a guy she's been on a date with". To a
woman's mind, it's a much stronger position for
you to be in.

If she declines the instant date, instead of
getting a number, schedule your first date right
then.

Say to her, "Well Thursday I'm busy because I
promised my friend Jennifer I'd help her move...
but Friday I'm going to be hitting the beach with
some friends. You can come too, it'll be a
blast."

Or tell her, "You like comedy don't you. I'm
thinking of going to this comedy show Friday
night... I've been wanting to see it for weeks
now and I hear the guy is hilarious. You'll bust
your ass laughing."

Have a cool date idea prepared and ready to go
BEFORE you go out so that you have something to
fall back on in case nothing comes to your mind
in the heat of the moment.

Also, try to couch it like you're inviting her to
something you were going to do ANYWAY, even if
she wasn't going to go with you. Couch it like
you're doing it is not dependent on her showing
up. You ALREADY have a cool and exciting life and
you're just inviting her along for the ride.

Once you've scheduled the first date right there,
THEN swap numbers.

Then it's natural to get her number so you can
keep in touch with her if your plans to change.
You're no longer getting her number to "date
her". You're already dating!

Also feel free to call her up later and CHANGE
the date plans on her. If you feel like it, call
her up and change the day or what you'll be
doing. After all, you're not tied to what you
already specified by some mysterious law of the
universe. Girls do this all the time to guys. And
it just makes it look even more like what you're
doing isn't dependent on her.

IF she resists going on an instant date with you,
AND she won't commit to setting up a date right
there and then, then fall back on swapping
numbers. However, this probably means that you
didn't build enough social value to her in the
first place and most likely the number will not
be worth the paper it's written on.

In fact, if you played the seduction right, SHE
should be volunteering HER number. You shouldn't
even have to ask for it.

Sometimes, just small tweaks in your methods can
seriously UP the success of your game almost
overnight.

thursday 290508 (Listen)

2008-06-02T18:16:00.001+01:00

...it's just that very few people ever
learn to rely on it and properly listen to it.

What is this???

It's your intuition or "gut feeling" about something. Using your
"visceral thinking".

Everyone has an intuition... but some people's intuition and knack
for "visceral thinking" is far more developed because they don't
allow other urges or impulses to get in the way.

When you're dating, meeting people, or in a relationship, your
intuition is highly important.

Last night, on Sunday evening, a good male friend of mine stopped
by for a glass of wine. This man is personally successful, though
not necessarily financially successful-- but he is a character,
fun, and extremely self-aware and emotionally developed.

He was telling me about a woman he'd met and been on a couple of
dates with. They had gone out the night before, on Saturday. He
described her as being highly attractive, tall, thin, bubbly,
enthusiastic, with a loud, obnoxious laugh. He said that she owns a
small clothing boutique for women & children. But he said that from
the very first time he met her that something "just wasn't right".

Here is what he said: "I just couldn't help but think her need to
always present herself and be over the top, and her loud obnoxious
laugh is covering up for something. I just kept thinking that
something wasn't right. I had an awkward feeling around her."

Sure enough, when they went out on Saturday, she admitted several
things to him... She's been married twice, though she originally told
him she'd never been married. She cheated on her first husband--
and the man she cheated on him with she ended up marrying and that
was her second husband. She has a child with the first husband--
she originally told my friend that she didn't have any children.
Her husband has full custody of the child. She is running a decent
business, but her life is in shambles... it's apparent she drinks too
much, spends above her means, and parties too often and hasn't
gotten her life together.

She admitted these things to my friend when she had far too much to
drink and was crying and spilling her guts about how "awful her
life is".

None of these things came as that great of a shock to my friend.
Why? Because he already knew something wasn't right. Because he
knew something wasn't right, he had NOT been intimate with her, he
hadn't gotten his hopes up, and he already knew that she wasn't the
one for him.

He was going out with her to have fun, enjoy life, and have a few
laughs. He wasn't expecting anything or wanting anything... And this
revelation didn't come as any surprise.

He made sure she got home safely, told her goodbye, and knew he
wouldn't ever go out with her again.

He wasn't discouraged, because he knows that there are great women
out there and he will find one.

He wasn't disappointed because he already knew "something wasn't
right" and because of that he hadn't gotten his hopes up or thought
something might work out between them.

He hadn't been intimate with her or had done anything that he (or
she) would regret.

He could walk away from her calmly, rationally, optimistically, and
in a positive frame of mind because he listened to his intuition
from the get-go and he didn't let his desires, sexual impulses or
wishes, or hopes get in the way. He also is confident enough to
know that he can attract a great woman, that there are wonderful
women on this planet, and that he will find his special someone.

When you listen to your "gut feeling" and you have the confidence
and security to walk away from someone who "just isn't right"...
dating and relationships become a lot easier.

Shelley

Where The Millionaires Date Online

2008-05-28T17:49:00.004+01:00

visited this sites too...omo the networth of the folks here...

whew...

Wendy Tanaka

MillionaireMatch.com
San Jose, Calif.

A Silicon Valley entrepreneur founded this site based on his own life: He spent so much time working, he had no free time to hang out in clubs and bars to meet other singles. The site currently has 1 million members. To prove they have a high net worth, some members send the site their W2 forms. CEOs, celebrities and major sports figures are members. Actor Charlie Sheen was a member in 2006.

Sugardaddie.com
Miami

A former Wall Street commodities trader founded this site in 2002. It has 250,000 members, which include CEOs and Playboy models. Men generally have incomes of $100,000 or more. Women outnumber men 8-to-1 on the site.

True.com
Dallas, Texas

If you're concerned about safety in online dating, True.com might be the service for you. The site screens members and kicks out folks with criminal backgrounds and married people pretending to be single. To "keep out scammers," the site only accepts members with e-mail addresses in the U.S., Canada, the United Kingdom, Australia, New Zealand and Mexico. True.com says it has more than 20 million members with a median age of 35.

PlentyofFish.com
Vancouver, Canada

Founder Markus Frind operates this dating site out of his house, and membership is free. "The PlentyofFish mission is to cut the crap and do the work for singles who want to meet without shelling out hundreds of dollars for services that should be free," according to the site's fact sheet. The site also says 250,000 to 300,000 users log in daily.

Spark Networks
Beverly Hills, Calif.

Spark owns 30 special-interest dating sites, including JDate.com, BlackSingles.com and ChristianMingle.com. The U.S. sites averaged 2.8 million unique visitors per month in 2006. Spark, founded in 1997, went public in 2006 under the ticker symbol LOV.

Gay.com
San Francisco, Calif.

Gay.com is the dating site of PlanetOut, a media and entertainment company that focuses on interests and issues in the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender community. Gay.com says 1.8 million people visited the site in December.

Meetic
Paris, France

Founded in 2001, Meetic says "tens of millions of singles from more than 20 countries have created profiles on our Web site." Countries covered include Austria, Belgium, the Netherlands, Poland, Portugal and Sweden. Meetic began listing on the Euronext exchange in 2005.

Be2
Hunenburg, Switzerland

Be2 is the European equivalent to eHarmony in the U.S. Like eHarmony, be2 administers online personality tests to match singles. Be2 says it has 5 million users in 20 countries, including Finland, France, Germany, Italy, Russia, Spain, the U.K and the U.S.

tuesday 27/05-08 (more about me)

2008-05-27T17:11:00.003+01:00

ONE WORD ANSWERS: PLEASE STICK TO ONE WORD OR HYPHENATED ONES... IT'S THE WHOLE IDEA. :-)

1. Yourself: Nice

2. Your partner: None

3. Your hair: Low

4. Your mother: Worry

5. Your father: Soilder

6. Your favorite item: Laptop

7. Your dream last night: Wealth

8. Your favorite drink: Viju

9. Your dream car: Freelander

10. The room you are in: Quiet

11. Your ex: Crazy

12. Your fear: dying

13. What you want to be in 10 years: Successful

14. Who you hung out with last night: Nobody

15. What you're not: Racist

16. Muffins: what?

17: One of your wish list items: Apartment

18: Time: Racing

19. The last thing you did: Typed

20. What you are wearing: Trousers

21. Your favorite weather: Sunny

22. Your favorite book: Quran

23. The last thing you ate: Eba

24. Your life: Exciting

25. Your mood: Thoughtful

26. Your best friend: None

27. What you're thinking about right now: Post

28. Your car: None

29. What you are doing at the moment: Typing

30. Your summer: Next

31. Your relationship status: Single

32. What is on your TV: Next

33. What is the weather like: Cloudy

34. When was the last time you laughed: Earlier

LITTLE KNOWN FACTS:

1. WERE YOU NAMED AFTER ANYONE?
Customarily in Yorubaland,if you're a twin, you're kehinde...if you're the guy that comes screaming out after the first one...ironically i sent her out to the world to see hows it at....lol

2. WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME YOU CRIED?
Been a while,i felt i wasnt making headway in my life and i cried...

3. DO YOU LIKE YOUR HANDWRITING
Yeah

4. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE LUNCH MEAT
I like Snails

5. DO YOU HAVE KIDS?
Yeah...in my other life...i exist in another galaxy where i'm the president...lol

6. IF YOU WERE ANOTHER PERSON WOULD YOU BE FRIENDS WITH YOU?
Definately...if not, your loss...

7. DO YOU USE SARCASM ALOT?
Yeah...often with a smile

8. DO YOU STILL HAVE YOUR TONSILS
Whats that?

9. WOULD YOU BUNGEE JUMP?
In a second...its on my bucket list

10. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE CEREAL?
Golden morn...i crunch it...its tastless with water

11. DO YOU UNTIE YOUR SHOES WHEN YOU TAKE THEM OFF?
Yeah

12. DO YOU THINK YOU ARE STRONG?
Yeah...not physically though...i've got the brains...and i dare alot

13. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE ICE CREAM?
Chocolate

14. WHAT IS THE FIRST THING YOU NOTICE ABOUT PEOPLE?
The fingernails

15. RED OR PINK?
Pink

16. WHAT IS THE LEAST FAVORITE THING ABOUT YOURSELF?
My teeth...often aches me...its also the most sensitive part of my body

17. WHO DO YOU MISS THE MOST
Cant remember her name now

18. WHAT COLOR PANTS AND SHOES ARE YOU WEARING?
Stripped blackand white pants and black boots

19. WHAT WAS THE LAST THING YOU ATE?
I said eba...kilode

20. WHAT ARE YOU LISTENING TO RIGHT NOW ?
With you...by Chris Brown

21. IF YOU WHERE A CRAYON, WHAT COLOR WOULD YOU BE?
Pink

22. FAVORITE SMELLS ?
Body of my favourite

23. WHO WAS THE LAST PERSON YOU TALKED TO ON THE PHONE?
Guy in computer village

24. FAVORITE SPORTS TO WATCH?
Used to be soccer...but now formula one

25. HAIR COLOR?
Black

26. EYE COLOR?
Black

27. DO YOU WEAR CONTACTS?
N...o....No

28. FAVORITE FOOD ?
Beans with dodo and fried eggs

29. SCARY MOVIES OR HAPPY ENDINGS?
Scary movies

30. LAST MOVIE YOU WATCHED?
Alvin and the chipmunks

31. WHAT COLOR SHIRT ARE YOU WEARING?
White

32. SUMMER OR WINTER?
Summer

33. HUGS OR KISSES?
Definately kisses

34. FAVORITE DESSERT?
Chocolate Cake

35. WHAT BOOK ARE YOU READING NOW?
The four hour work week by tim ferris

36. WHAT IS ON YOUR MOUSE PAD?
I'm using a book

37. WHAT DID YOU WATCH ON T.V. LAST NIGHT?
The second chance

38. FAVORITE SOUND?
Close of work siren

39. ROLLING STONES OR BEATLES?
Beatles

40. WHAT IS THE FURTHEST YOU HAVE BEEN FROM HOME
Idanre

41. DO YOU HAVE A SPECIAL TALENT
Yeah

42. WHERE WERE YOU BORN?
Ijebu ode

conversations with a babe 2 (zephi)

2008-05-27T17:02:00.005+01:00

this is the second in the series...and i humbly present Zephi

For Conversations one:
Conversations with a Babe

For Conversations Three:
Conversations With A Babe 3 (OK)

[13:29] 18andabove: wat do u think i shd do?
[13:29] 18andabove: theres this chick really tripping for me but doent no ow to tell me...
[13:29] 18andabove: and she has a 8yr old son
[13:30] 18andabove: u see we used to date....b4 she became pregnant years ago...
[13:31] 18andabove: so how do i tell her or show her that am not interested
Zephi: hey single mothers need love too..lol…I am kidding..Well I suggest you tell her upfront..like “hey, I suggest we just stay friends’…Its better you tell her earlier before he feeling get stronger and stronger…She will get over the hurt after a while
[13:36] 18andabove:wld u date someone that has a 8 yr old son?
Zephi: I highly doubt that..but hey, you know what they say about “love”…whatever that means
[13:41] 18andabove: ow do I tell a gal off?
Zephi: off now..lol
[13:46] 18andabove: one of u called me a small boy yesterday when i said i wanted to ask her out
[13:47] 18andabove: so how do u change that impression when thats already how she thinks?
Zephi: um..I am not aware of thi story
[13:53] 18andabove: ok...i,ve u called someone a small boy b4? or looked at them that way?
Zephi: I prolly have especially since they were acting like one

[14:24] 18andabove: BUT ITS REALLY NOT EASY FOR US WORKING CLASS TO MEET SOMEONE ABI?
Zephi: not my views..well maybe..im not a working class so I wont know
[14:40] 18andabove: APART FROM WEDDINGS WERE IS IT SURE BANKER THAT U CAN GET A SINGLE BABE
Zephi: in the mall, on the street..anywhere…there are babes everywhere…ones has to have enough “game” to approach a girl anywhere…confidence as well

[10:34] 18andabove: so apart from watching tv, what does a girl...sorry lady like u do, when u come back from work
Zephi: browse the internet, eat and be depressed
[10:39] 18andabove: i thought u'd say "start getting ready for a date"
Zephi: Na, I don’t do dates
[10:44] 18andabove: so lets say u were going for one, what preparations wld u make?
Zephi: Iguess, I’ll make sure I look presentable and not to scruffy
[10:57] 18andabove: ok...so wld u want to go where he likes, or where u like
Zeph:Hell, I am self centered so it’ll have to be where I want
[11:00] 18andabove: where wld ur own ideal location be?
Zephi: Bowling, in the park or nice resturant
[11:01] 18andabove: ok..so he's car,a cab,a bus or u guys trek...lol
Zephi: lmao…..I have a car, so if he does not we can use my ride….he’ll just be my bitch
[12:28] 18andabove: lol...sha where were we b4....emm...okay so in what direction wld u want the conversation to go...when u guys are talking
Zephi: Whatever we are talking about, I hope he does not bore me out..thats all..I pretty versatile.. so I’ll talk about any and every
[12:30] 18andabove: SO WHAT WLD BE A CONVERSATION KILLER
Zephi: talk about sex with me especially if I am not that sexually attracted to my date…I’ll feel offended that he could not read that, I wont even touch his lips with a nine inch pole
[12:39] 18andabove: SO WLD A KISS ON THE 1ST NIGHT BE IN ORDER?
Zephi: depends on how horny I am and how sexy this fella is
[12:44] 18andabove: OKAY SO IF HE MADE AN ATTEMPT,HE'D PROBABLY GET A SLAP...LOL
Zephi: well not reallly, depends on if the chemistry is at its peak…If he tries and there is no chemistry, best belive he will get a slap…lol
[12:48] 18andabove: OK...BUT YOU'LL BE EXPECTING HE'S CALL AFTER THE DATE ABI?
Zephi: I could care less….
[12:54] 18andabove: SO WHEN IS THE CALLING TO EARLY OR TOO LATE...
Zephi: If I like the person and they don’t call me, I prolly will calll..If they act cold, I’ll stop calling and move on
[13:01] 18andabove: WLD U EVER CALL A GUY U LIKE AS IN AFTER THE
DATE?
Zephi: refer to above answe
[13:03] 18andabove: I THOUGHT IF HE WAS INTERESTED IN A FOLLOW UP DATE HE'D CALL?
Zephi: you know theses day guys are becoming pussy and girls are slowly taking over their roles

[14:54] 18andabove: come to think of it...what do u look out for when a guy approaches u...
Zephi: he has to dress daper and lawd his lips beter be sexy
[14:57] 18andabove: so if its a short person like me...u'll just give me ur best snubish look...lol
Zephi: you just have to be taller than me
[15:10] 18andabove: ok...wld u go out on a date with anyone that asks u?
Zephi: err no
[15:11] 18andabove: why?
Zephi: cos I cant go out with everyone who asks me..If I do that, I wont be home every nite…lol
[15:13] 18andabove: sorry am getting ahead of myself...
[15:14] 18andabove: the question wld be..u're looking at this tall,dark and handsome guy...speaking good english....comfortable...
[15:14] 18andabove: he asks u for a date & u say no....somethings definately wrong...lol
Zephi: his breathe prolly stinks
[15:38] 18andabove: lol...so like ow many guys ask u out everyday...dont exagerate o...
[15:42] 18andabove: okay lets say a week...
Zephi: it depends…some days no body looks at my face…..and some weeks there on me like ants on sugar…and the days when I get such attentiion, im usually in my laid back mood not trying to impress anybody
[16:34] 18andabove: did u know that...the average single person goes on 22 dates, has 3 one-night-stands and three serious relationships before "settling down with The One."
Zephi: I am definitely not part of that statistic
[16:38] 18andabove: wld u ask someone to marry u...
Zephi: I don’t think I wanna get married
[16:39] 18andabove: that wld be too much abi...lol
[16:39] 18andabove: the height of desperation
[16:40] 18andabove: whats the significance of a kiss to u...?
Zephi: its just a kiss..exchange os saliva..it has no significance
[16:41] 18andabove: oh u told me b4...which is more intimate...the kiss or the other thing...lol
Zephi: None
[16:46] 18andabove: so what 1st comes to ur mind when a guy invites u to his place
Zephi: if it’s the first date..I prolly think he wants to fuck…well then it might be a good thing if I want to fuck too

Don't Be Gay

2008-05-22T18:55:00.000+01:00

Today, I am going to talk about something that
I consider to be a serious problem when it
comes to succeeding with women.

GAYNESS.

Now, don't get me wrong. I have nothing against
gay people.

However - I do have a problem with normal guys
resorting to being something they're not just
because they think it will help them get girls.

Why?

Because usually, this type of behavior does more
HARM than anything else.

There are guys out there who make these
types of mistakes with girls...

1. Through no fault of their own, they
come off as "gay" around women, and find
it difficult to convince girls they are
actually straight.

2. They purposefully act gay, because they
for some reason they think that girls will
respond better to them this way.

3. They are afraid they might be gay because
they can't seem to get girls to feel attracted
to them and are confused and frustrated because
of it.

4. They have no idea how to get girls
interested in them, so they basically "give up"
and allow themselves to be alone and lonely
instead of taking the time to learn the right
way to get women. (ie: they forsake their
manhood)

Believe it or not, I have even counciled some
students who wished they WERE gay, because they
have had such a difficult time meeting girls,
they would rather face the social stigma of
being a homosexual than deal with women.

But all this can be boiled down to one simple
problem...

Men have NO IDEA how to pick up women!!!!

Really - it's that simple.

Face it - no one ever bothers to train men
in the proper way to meet and pick up on
women.

There are no classes for it.

There is no degree for it.

There is no training for it.

Most guys have to depend on their friends, their
family, and the media for tips on how to get
girls.

And this advice is almost always WRONG.

From this wrong advice comes failure, and
frustration.

And that leads to even more mistakes.

Let me be clear - there is NO SHAME in seeking
help with women. If you're not happy with your
success with the ladies, it's because you are
trying to do it on your own.

Most guys are EMBARRASSED to admit they need help
with girls.

They think if they seek help with their love
life, they are LOSERS.

Because it's supposed to "happen naturally,"
right? It's something your supposed to
automatically know what to do since BIRTH.

Nope. Uh-uh.

Sure, some guys figure it out on their own,
but they are few and far in-between.

Most guys get "lucky," or they rely on good
looks and a fat bank account to get women.

Yet we see them as having some type of "secret
information" about women that we don't.

We think there must be something WRONG with us
because we have a hard time getting a girl.

But there is NOTHING wrong with us, other than
the fact that we haven't yet acquired the
knowledge and experience we need to be successful
with women.

Once I began to really apply myself to learning
everything I could about how to meet, date, and
seduce the fairer sex, what once seemed impossible
to me became much easier.

And it can become easy for you too - IF you allow
yourself to flexibility to learn.

WHAT IS SHE THINKING?

2008-05-22T18:43:00.000+01:00

***QUESTION FROM A READER***

Hi Christian,

I wondered if you could help. I was going out
with a guy for 10 years. At the start we were
madly in love, there was passion, security,
everything, although intellectually we were
incompatible. I needed friends and other
contacts which he resented. He became
increasingly jealous and controlling. We lived
together but in February of this year I
moved out. I couldn't stop seeing him entirely.
I was still attached to him. However this
August he came round to my house and after
a particularly ugly display of emotion he
kicked my door. I said I no longer wanted any
contact and kept that up for nearly 3 months.
He was broken hearted and begged me back many
many times. I was as cold as ice and still
resentful as to his behavior previously. Over
time I softened and thought it might be time
to meet up. At the last minute I cancelled
and he went out on a pub crawl. Overnight his
attitude changed!!!! He met someone else who
he has been seeing for the last 3 weekends
(even though he hates to admit it). I
knew straight away. Now it is me who is
heartbroken. I feel that life has come back
and kicked me in the teeth and I want
him back. I miss him. However after trying
to see him and getting replies like he needs
'space' I have decided to cut all contact
again. What can I do? Will he come back? Or
has he just met a newer model and in fact his
feelings for me were superficial?

***MY RESPONSE***

I've got to be honest with you.

I cringed as I read several things here...
and the only thing running through my head was,
"WHAT IS SHE THINKING!?!?"

Do me a favor-

Take a deep breath... center yourself for
a minute... make sure you're sitting up straight
and paying attention... and go ahead and give
yourself a good hard SLAP!

OK. Now that you know how much this hurts
and how dumb this is to do to yourself... I want
you to go ahead and do it again.

Seriously.

Give yourself one more good hard SLAP across
the face.

Now, in case you don't get it yet, this is
exactly what you're doing to yourself in your
love life right now.

By slapping yourself, you've just PHYSICALLY
experienced what it is that you're doing to
yourself EMOTIONALLY in your love life.

Get it!?

Good.

Hopefully now you'll start to wake up to
what you're doing to yourself here.

But let's get on to WHAT TO DO.

There's a very complex and sophisticated
"technique" I'm going to show you that you need
to use in your situation...

Pay close attention here, because this one
is tricky. Too tricky for lots of women.

Ready?

Here's the complex technique I want you to
use in your situation-

MOVE ON!

For anyone else who was seeing things clearly
and thinking about what would actually work in
their love life... moving on would be pretty
simple and straightforward.

But not for you.

And yeah, I get that breakups and moving
on isn't as easy as 1, 2, 3. It can take time
for you to move past your old feelings.

But clinging to your old feelings and your
false ideals of how things were in the past, and
trying to get back there is only leading to your
own SUFFERING, and taking you back to a place that
you honestly don't want to be.

Here's the thing...

It's painfully obvious, and any old "pop
psychologist" could tell you, that as soon as
this guy stopped pursuing you, you wanted him
back.

But that's actually NOT the REAL TRUTH here.

The real truth is that as soon as a man isn't
pursuing you, you of course want the ATTENTION
back.

But more importantly, you want the strange
comfort that comes from having ANY MAN around that
you believe has the POTENTIAL to be a good man
and "make you happy" (instead of insisting on a
man who is actually a good man).

I'm getting pretty deep here, so I'll get to
the point.

If you were honest with yourself, you'd
realize that you're NOT concerned with wanting
this particular guy back.

No. Instead, you want him back at your
doorstep in the hopes of AVOIDING something else
you know in the back of your mind would be far
worse for you than being back in your old
relationship that didn't work in the first place.

Something that makes you feel 50 times more
fearful and uncomfortable than not getting this
particular man back into your life.

And that certain something is BEING ALONE.

Think about it for a minute...

I want you to step back from everything going
on around you and in your love life right now.

And I want you to get in touch with what's
going on for YOU, instead of what's going on
with the man in your life.

Now answer a simple question for me-

Answering honestly, how many of the things
that you do, or the things that you've chosen
for yourself when it comes to men and
relationships, stems from your own personal
fear of being alone?

Take a minute to think this through.

This could be a huge moment for you right
now... so open your mind up and take a good
hard look.

I'll give you a few minutes to think about
this.

...

...

Ok, good.

Now, did you see anything new that you didn't
recognize about yourself before?

Take out a pen and a piece of paper right
now and write down what you just learned or
identified about yourself.

To compare notes now, let me share some
common things women do to avoid their fear of
being single or alone...

-Dating "Unavailable Men": This one is common
but counterintuitive to understand. Lots of women
who are afraid of being alone end up picking the
same kind of men over and over who just don't
"get it" and don't show up emotionally in
relationships. Of course, if you do this, at
the root of the problem is YOU. You don't believe
in your ability to meet a REAL MAN, or to have
a REAL relationship... so you take what comes
along (anything) and try to make the situation,
and the man, into something more than it is.

-Accepting "Unacceptable" Behavior From Men: If
you're a woman who's afraid of being alone more
than you are of being in a BAD, NEGATIVE, HURTFUL
RELATIONSHIP... then guess what you're likely to
end up with? That's right... a bad relationship.

-Acting "Needy": When you are afraid of being
alone, or living independently, men can quickly
sense this inside you... even if you don't ever
say it. You send off a kind of "vibe" or "energy"
when you get close to a man. Usually this looks,
in part, like clingy or needy behavior. And guess
what? This is 100% Grade A Man-Repellent if
you are looking to ATTRACT a man and build the
foundation for a lasting relationship.

be what she says

2008-05-22T18:18:00.000+01:00

We've been talking a good deal lately about being an "attractive
character". Not too long ago I also discussed the importance of
presenting an "interesting lifestyle" to women, verses an "ordinary
lifestyle". In that discussion, I pointed out these key aspects you
want to demonstrate to a woman:

Be intriguing-- not boring.
Be interesting-- not typical.
Be lighthearted-- not stressed.
Be relaxed-- not uptight.
Dress with a unique, personal style-- not like every other man.
Talk cheerfully & optimistically-- not like you should be on
suicide watch.
Be funny-- not depressing.

Enjoy life. When you enjoy life, you will be more relaxed,
confident, secure, and happy... and those are some of the TOP things
a woman looks for in a man & will attract women to YOU!

This morning I am going to add something to this list.... Something
very important. And that is:

Be open to what a woman says- not closed-off.

I'm going to demonstrate this by telling a quick story... This is one
of those "pathetically funny" stories...

You know the old joke that women say is that "men never listen".
And, unfortunately, sometimes it holds true. Not only does it
occasionally hold true... but sometimes it also comes as the demise
to the man who's attracted to the woman he's speaking with-- but
won't truly listen to.

The reason he can't listen? Because he doesn't know what to listen
for. It goes right over his head.

Here's the story I want to tell...

A few years ago I was at a fundraiser. There was a nice, formal,
sit down dinner, followed by cocktails, music, and dancing. Me and
several friends (a mix of men & women) had a table at the event.

One of my male friends introduced me to a man, that he used to do
some commercial real estate projects with. The man was tall,
muscular, good looking, and as I spoke to him... I realized he was
intelligent, interesting, had traveled the world, had a great mind
for business, and we ended up talking one-on-one for about 30
minutes... we traded stories, laughed, joked around, etc...

I was extremely attracted to him! During our conversation I made
every attempt possible to show my interest & attraction towards
him... even things that I, knowing what I know, never do!! I made
some sexually based jokes, talked about what I do with this "First
in Her Mind" web-site and business, and made every attempt possible
to show that I was open to conversation, interested, and attracted
to him.

Of course.... I wouldn't have gone home and slept with him that
night, no way.... But I was interested in going out with him sometime
and getting to know him better.

Eventually another man came over and needed to discuss something
with the man I had been speaking with, so I drifted away and went
back to the table. I got involved in some other conversations,
enjoyed the music, did some dancing, and then left as the event
winded down.

I figured since the man I had spoken with never came back to find
me, that either he wasn't interested in me or he must have had a
girlfriend or other interest in his life (he didn't have a wedding
band). I had done everything possible to show my openness to talk
and my interest in him.

I didn't think much of it, and soon forgot about the conversation--
and him.

About 4 months after, my male friend who introduced us at the
event gave me a call. He had just finished having a lunch meeting
with this man. He said, "Shelley, he kept asking me about you... He
thinks you're beautiful, but didn't think he would have a shot with
you! He said he never has met a funnier and more personable and
interesting woman... and he hasn't been able to get you out of his
head for 4 months, since he met you!"

I was shaking my head as he told me this.... Why? Because even though
this man had everything going in his favor, he still didn't have
the confidence to think I might be attracted to him-- and he failed
to listen to all of the direct signs I was handing him in our
conversation. I think I could have worn a big, neon sign above my
head that said: "Hey bozo- I'm attracted to you!" and he still
wouldn't have gotten it!

This is the sad part... By the time he had lunch with my male friend
who had introduced us (4 months later), and my friend figured out
how much he liked me, I had already met another man and had been
dating him for about 2 months.

See, this man had 2 big obstacles standing in his way....

1. A lack of confidence-- he literally told my friend that he
didn't think he would have had a shot at me! How pathetic is that???

2. He didn't listen-- I was basically telling him that I was
interested in him, but because he didn't know what to listen for--
he couldn't truly "hear" what I was saying.

So, be open to what a woman says-- not closed off. She may be
standing right in front of you, telling you exactly what you hope
to hear-- but if you aren't open to it and don't know what to
listen for... then you won't hear her!

If you missed yesterday's email discussion, go here:
http://firstinhermind.com/the_interesting_man.htm

monday 19/05/08 (i know i can)

2008-05-22T18:01:00.001+01:00

i start my sage pastel training today...but i got to quickly add this

Act, look, dress, and smell like a man-- and attract women because of it!
Good morning...

I want to discuss a subject that I haven't concentrated on much,
but something funny happened yesterday evening & I want to share
it. This isn't the type of subject I usually talk about, but I want
to focus on it this morning...

I ended up going to dinner with several people, it was totally
unplanned. It was with the man that I've been dating, a young
couple that he knows, and 2 other male friends of his. We were all
eating dinner, enjoying some wine, laughing, sharing stories, and
having a great time. We were sitting outside, on this restaurant's
patio, overlooking a sidewalk in a trendier part of town that is
surrounded by hike & bike trails, parks, and restaurants.

There were all sorts of people going up and down the sidewalk.
Before long, a man came by riding his bike and didn't have a shirt
on. He appeared to be fairly good looking in the face and tall,
from what we could tell.... But his back was FULL of thick, dark
brown, hair.

The young woman sitting at the table said, "Oh my gosh... disgusting!
Look at that man's back-- he looks like an animal! Yuck! I'm all
for a little hair on a man, but if a man has that much he should do
something about it!"

In recent years the subject of "manscaping" has been up for debate.
It seems that many modern women (no matter their age) do like SOME
body hair on a man. After all, that is part of being a man... and
women like men who look like, and act like, men.

But it does seem that "too much" body hair turns many women off--
completely.

I've talked to several of my female friends about men who shave
their bodies (a trend that started a few years back). I,
personally, have NEVER heard one woman say that they like a man
completely shaven. Why? Because that takes some of the manliness
away.

Some men seem to forget that they're men... and women who are
searching for a man are searching for just that-- a MAN... and part
of being a "man" is looking like, dressing like, smelling like, and
acting like a man.

At the same time, an influx of body hair (especially a hairy chest
or back) seems to also turn some women off. You do want to remind
her of a man-- and not an animal.

So here's my suggestion... If you're a man who finds himself with
"too much" body hair, some light "manscaping" may be in order. You
do NOT want to go off the deep end though and Nair your body or
make yourself shiny and glossy. There's just something about "shiny
& glossy" that doesn't suggest manliness.... You know... :-)

As a single man trying to attract women or sustain attraction in
that special someone, remember that it's important to be a man.
This includes:
The way you smell.
The way you look.
The way you talk.
The way you groom yourself.
The way you dress.
The way you act.

Sunday 17th may 2008 (A to Z)

2008-05-22T17:13:00.002+01:00

Accent – Ijebu
Booze – Stout
Chore I hate – Washing my clothes
Dogs/Cats –Cats that dont shit...lol
Essential electronics – Laptop...connected to the internet
Favourite perfume - Cant remember the name
Gold/silver – None...prefer platinuim
Hometown – ijebu ode
Insomnia – Yeah, wheni have lots of ideas
Job title – Accounts officer/Data Administrator
Kids - Not yet
Living arrangements – Share with my mum
Most admired trait - my smile could melt ice.
Number of sexual partners – Not sure
Overnight hospital stays – Yeah for up to a month...
Phobia - Poverty
Quote – cant remember anyone now.
Religion - Islam
Siblings - 2 half brothers,2 half sisters,2 sisters and a brother
Time I usually awake – 5am,pray,sleep again,then wake fully by 7am...applies only to weekdays
Unusual talent – i can speed read
Vegetable I refuse to eat – none i can think of
Worst habit - surfing d net at work
X-rays – a few....
Yummy foods I make – indomie,dodo,eggsand beef
Zodiac sign – Libra

Caught on camera: our changing world

2008-05-17T12:09:00.003+01:00

A planet in flux, due largely to the actions of its dominant species, Earth has, apparently, reached a tipping point. Some of the hitherto most enchanting spots on the globe are today barely recognisable from what they once were, marred – perhaps permanently – by the recklessness of the human race. Others, where the damage may be less immediately obvious, are balanced precariously atop an environmental time bomb.

Sometimes enlightening, sometimes shocking, snapshots of our rapidly changing world have been captured by some of the world’s most talented press photographers. From toxic rubbish mountains to flooded rice fields, they illustrate what we have lost to climate change – and highlight what it still at stake. To find out more, click on the images in the gallery below.

Children play in a flooded rice field near Jakarta.

In early February 2007, unprecedented rainfall combined with widespread deforestation and inadequate flood defences to create the most devastating floods to swamp the Indonesian capital in more than 300 years. During the deluge, at least 54 people were killed, 70,000 homes were flooded and more than 200,000 people were displaced. Now, more than a year later, some 5,729 people are yet to return – and the legacy of water-borne disease continues to take its human toll.

A bird glides gracefully through the polluted skies above Tehran.

Air pollution in the Iranian capital killed more than 3,600 people in just one month in 2006, an environmental situation described by local officials as “collective suicide.” Considered one of the world’s most polluted places, Tehran’s air is so toxic it triggers lethal respiratory and cardiac problems, with 80% of fatal heart attacks believed to be directly attributable to the noxious smog smothering the city. Half of the six million cars clogging Iran’s streets fail to meet global emissions standards and burn twice as much fuel as their European equivalents, spewing vast quantities of carbon monoxide into residents’ lungs.

A boy plays in a water fountain in Hyderabad, India.

Indian glaciers are among the least studied anywhere, but recent studies show they are melting at an alarming rate. Last year, the Intergovernmental Panel on Climate Change warned that if steps were not taken, incidences of inland droughts and coastal flooding would increase significantly. Glaciologist D P Dobhal, who has been studying Chorabari and Dokriani glaciers in the Garhwal Himalayas since 2003, said they are receding at the rate of 1.5-2 metres every year. “What is worrying is that the glaciers are losing density... largely due to global warming; the snow is melting faster than it can accumulate as ice, thereby thinning the glacier,” he said.

A gumboot sits atop a fencepost on the site of the submerged town of Old Adaminaby in Australia.

The longest “big dry” the country has seen in a century has reduced one of its largest manmade lakes to a dustbowl, exposing the skeletal remains of a town that was deliberately flooded 50 years ago. The savage drought, believed to be caused by climate change, has shrivelled Lake Eucumbene – between Victoria and New South Wales – to a tenth of its normal size. The receding waters have exposed what little is left of the Snowy Mountains farming town evacuated in 1957 to make way for a massive hydro-electricity project promising... near-limitless water.

South Korean soldiers attempt to scrape clean an 11-mile stretch of oil-drenched sand.

A slick black sea engulfed South Korea’s scenic and ecologically rich western coastline in December 2007, when a stricken supertanker sent 10,500 tons of crude oil spewing from its hull. Thick, reeking waves of oil spilled onto the famed Mallipo beach, blackening seagulls and fouling fish farms in the worst environmental disaster in the country’s history.

An environmental activist hands a seedling to a car driver in Surabaya ahead of the UN-led climate change talks in Bali.

A scavenger picks through a sprawling 60ft high rubbish dump – nestled against schools and hospitals – on the Sidon seafront in South Lebanon, south of Beirut.

Ancient Sidouna, one of the most famous names in ancient history, counted among its cultural influences the Egyptian Pharoahs and Ancient Greece. The city’s god, Eshmoun, was associated with the Greek god of healing. Today, Sidon lives in the shadow of this 600,000 cubic metre toxic mountain comprising garbage, soil, concrete debris, hospital waste and the occasional dead animal.

An airbus A380, the world's largest passenger aircraft, skims the roofs of a shantytown as it prepares to land at Mumbai airport.

Daravai is the largest slum in Asia, a sprawling maze of tin huts and open drains that is home to more than 600,000 people. India has announced that the so-called eyesore, which generates £1bn a year through craft workshops, is to be razed and replaced with a new township in a bid to harness the area’s business potential.

A young man drifts lazily in a pond on the outskirts of Jammu in Indian Kashmir.

Choking levels of airborne pollutants forced the state government’s hand two years ago, via a court order to remove thousands of 15-year-old commercial vehicles from the roads. The “herculean task” involved decommissioning 4,814 trucks, 1,152 buses, 580 mini buses, 180 taxis and 613 auto-rickshaws in a bid to cut the amount of toxic emissions being belched into the atmosphere by the region’s ageing vehicles.

Heavy morning fog coils loosely around the soaring skyscrapers in Dubai Marina, one of the world’s largest man-made waterfronts in the heart of the United Arab Emirates.

Accelerating expansion in the UAE has prompted concern about the region’s wildlife: although traditional nature reserves – ‘hema’ – are long-established in the Arabian Peninsula, there is little in the way of legislation to protect areas rich in native flora and fauna, including turtle colonies, from fast-paced commercial development.

Do You End Up As "The Friend?"

2008-05-14T16:32:00.000+01:00

Does this situation sound familiar to you?

You meet a girl, and she's really great.
You get to know her, hang out with her,
and try and figure out the right time
to tell her how you feel.

Finally, you work up the courage to do so,
and she responds:

"I like you, but let's just be friends."

D'oh.

Why does this happen? Why does the girl
decide you're not "boyfriend material?"

Well, there are a couple of reasons why
this happens.

The first of which is that you did not set
the stage properly when you first met the
girl.

Instead of flirting and showing interest
in her, you decided to "play it safe" and
"fly under the radar" by pretending you
weren't interested in her so you wouldn't
scare her off.

Lack of any sexual tension will result in
the girl pegging you as a "friend" and
nothing more.

The second is that you most likely adopt
the friend role yourself!

You do things a friend would do - listen
to her problems, be the shoulder to cry
on, be there to support her when she needs
it...

And on, and on, and on.

And guess what? Because of this, she gets
USED to you being this way!

And people do not like to change things.
So when you want to become more than just
a friend, she's afraid to allow that to
happen.

Why?

Well, the first reason is that it's to her
benefit to do so. She gets all she needs
without having to put up with "relationship"
stuff.

She might also be afraid that if she allows
things to change, she might LOSE YOU as a
friend, so she decides to play it safe.

Finally, the biggest reason a guy gets stuck
in the friend zone is because the girl thinks
he's cool, but there's no ATTRACTION there.

There's no desire. No magnetism. No sexual
energy.

So from the girl's point of view, there's no
REASON to change things!

But you have to understand - attraction is
something that can be created. If you have
not attracted the girl, then you're dooming
yourself to just being a friend.

FOREVER.

If you want to make sure you don't get stuck
as the friend, you need to do three things...

1. Be honest about your intentions from the
start.

2. Adopt the "boyfriend" role, not the "friend"
role.

3. Create attraction.

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MONDAY 2008 05 13 (MARY)

2008-05-12T18:09:00.001+01:00

arent you going to pray?...that scream brought me back from dreamland...cant remember what it was anyways...the thing about my dreams is that i always win sha...well today, like most mondays, am just to lazy to get off the bed,yes even to pray, she said something that shoke me to my bones sha...my son,in this world, are more people that want you to fail, than those that want you to suceed...does people could even include members of your own family...oro..then go for my prayers then cause i slept back,but i can assure you i was thinking about it in my subconcious,woke up abt an hour or after,she comes in again and she's like,"what if you didnt wake up",dragged myself to the bath...then said my prayers and was on my way to work....

MY FRIENDS,THE PICTURES OF Nkiru Anumudu, the Globe Motors boss, is NOT A GOOD WAY TO START THE DAY O...I WONT SAY MORE THAN THATYES SHE IS A fashionISTA statement. ADMITTEDLY, SHES GOT THE HEIGHT AND THE SHAPE,BUT A LADY CANT HAVE IT ALL,ME THINKS SHE CAN DO BETTER SHA...HER FRIENDS SHOULD DO SOMETHING...AARGH

my oga went on training and am suppossed to go for mine next week,its on our accounting package,we use sage pastel evolution by the way...work, work,work...i would so much like it if my performance or success didnt depend on someone else's activity abi is it possible?

GOT TO GO NOW

not consiously

2008-05-08T18:54:00.002+01:00

to me she'll always be a diva and a non comformist, not like all you chickens and wanna bees out there.

them to resemble dem papa...ah...

kills...literally

Nice Guys vs. Bad Boys: Who Do You Love?

2008-05-06T11:06:00.001+01:00

Whoa... that's pretty intense - I'll tone it
down for a sec and give you something to take your
mind to off this....

Did you see the final Sex and the City episode where
Carrie went to Paris with her lover?

Carrie's in Paris with her boyfriend and begins
to wonder if she made the right decision to move away
with this man who, deep down inside, she know's doesn't
want the same type of life and relationship she does.

As she makes this realization, her ex, "Big",
has flown to Paris from New York looking to reconcile
with his lost love after realizing his undying love
for Carrie.

And of course, as with all good TV, the two find
each other by luck and fate, and Big finally professes
his love.

Talk about romantic, intense, suspenseful and full
of great drama!

Ok, I thought that might do the trick to warm you
back up.

So what does the story of Carrie's love life have to
do with YOUR love life?

More than you might think - but we'll get to that.

That's why this week I'm giving you a short homework
assignment - and this is what could be the most valuable
5 minutes you'll ever spend on your love life:

I need you to think about one of the first things
I recognized about women way back in junior high -
it's something I still see it today in our "grown-up"
dating world.

Why don't women pick the right guys?

Or even more to the point - why do women pick all
the wrong guys?

If you've had your heart broken, been cheated on,
or find yourself giving everything you've got inside,
to get little or nothing in return, then you know what
I'm talking about.

****Right Now****

Take 5 minutes of time to yourself.

Tune the rest of the world out for just these 5 minutes.

Now, think about each of these questions for a minute
or two each:

1. What is it about "bad boys" or men that aren't
"available" that is attractive to w0men? And to you?

2. Have you ever dated a guy even though you knew
he was a "bad boy" - or found out soon into things?

3. Is there a "nice guy" in your life who would make a
great companion but you're not attracted to or share a
"connection" with?

Don't cheat yourself....

Stop, go back, make sure you take at least 5
minutes of time and think about just these questions....

(Trust me - it's AMAZING what you can actually learn
about the world and yourself if you take a few minutes
of silence to think just about ONE THING at a time. It's
maybe the BEST thing I ever started doing for myself!)

I'll give you some more time....

Ok, so you've thought about it. Let's share our
thoughts and compare notes.

*As a quick inside reminder:

This exercise is all about actively improving
your ability to know what a good man looks like
for YOU and to help you pick ONLY the right men now
and in the future.

Picking the wrong men can get you in all kinds of
painful trouble it's hard to get free of.

But for some reason, women don't want the guys who
are probably better relationship and love companions.

I'm not going to give you ALL the answers right now,
but I'm going to lead you to finding the answers for
yourself - as it's a much more effective way of learning.

So.... I'm gonna address the last question first
about "nice guys".

A friend of mine sent me an article that was on AOL
entitled "What's Wrong With Nice Guys?". Here's a little
quote from the article:

"...Do Women Date Naughty Guys but Marry Nice Ones?

This notion sounds an awful lot like the irritating
good-girl/bad-girl distinction that men continue to
make. Still, it does contain a nugget of sense. Since
women truly are conditioned to be "good girls," sometimes
we feel uncomfortable with or guilty about that pure
burning "I must have him!" feeling. That's why we
sometimes seek out a bad boy to serve as the object
of these desires, says Cleveland psychotherapist
Belleruth Naparstek, creator of the Health Journeys
series of guided imagery tapes. "In order for the
deliciousness of pure lust to be 'okay,' it has to be
for the symbolic bad boy who has nothing to do with
the rest of your life. With him, you can crank up your
animal impulses, worry-free," she says...."

Interesting, huh?

My friend who sent it to me disagrees with the
idea that women seek out "bad boys" because they
need somewhere to project their guilty lust, and I agree.

I disagree that there's something "wrong" with
the fact that women are attracted to "bad boys"...

My friend also made the point that the "mainstream"
psychology and behavior world is starting to accept
the idea that women are attracted to "bad boys".

There's something to the idea that woman don't
feel that powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for "nice guys"
who chase after them, dote on them and kiss up to them.

A woman might LIKE the experience of the "nice guy"
doing nice things, but it doesn't CREATE attraction
or a connection with the woman.

Ever.

Trust me, I know men who are the "nice guy" all
the time and they get so frustrated trying so hard
to please a woman and get her interested.

But it's like trying to chew bubble gum to solve
calculus problems.... It's hopeless.

And wouldn't you know it - it works the same
way for "nice women". Being a "nice girl" can't
"convince" a guy to like you just because you do
sweet things....

It just doesn't work like that.

I've had women be the "nice girl" with me in the
past. There's two women I can remember from acting
overly nice and sweet to try and attract me.

Any attraction that was there started falling away.

THE TRUTH of the matter is - kissing up, convincing
and being too "sweet" can kill attraction.

Why?

Our subconscious reacts in ways you often can't
control and aren't very aware of.

Being too "nice" sends a signal to the "deep"
part of the mind that tells you "this person isn't
desirable and is lower status".

I know, this might sound kind of dark, power-hungry
or weird to you, but it's what happens with us humans.

People don't value what they can have too easily,
whether they admit it or not.

Ultimately, when women are around "nice guys",
they end up unconsciously thinking, "This man isn't
desirable, I shouldn't date or pursue this guy".

(Ok, there can be another reason, but I won't
disuss it here but it has to do with people who
develop the "nice" persona due to what they feel
they personally lack, and thus "nice" people are
self-selecting and are actually and less confident
and less attractive.)

In the nice guys defense - they might actually
have something better to offer a woman in terms of
what she SAYS she wants (love, trust, companionship,
passion), but the women aren't able to see it - or
see it as something they want.

Why?

Women don't develop a connection to the nice guy
and the "connection" is the MAGIC ingredient for
attraction with most women.

Which leads us to the "bad boy"!

You might not agree with me, but women DO feel
that magical emotion called ATTRACTION for "bad boys".

Of course, I don't believe that men have to be
jerks, or abuse women in order to make them feel
attracted to them.

But women have a deep attraction mechanism that's
triggered by men who behave indifferent, superior,
cocky, the list goes of "bad" behavior. You've seen it.

"Bad boys" often create inviting and intoxicating
forms of drama - often perceived as playfulness,
sexuality and fun.

When I first talk to women about the bad boy
subject, they jump ALL OVER me and completely disagree.

Then I ask them about some of the relationships
they've had in the past.

And guess what?

Most women realize in the course of the conversation
that they've dated men they knew fit the "bad boy"
profile.

What makes me laugh is that the realization makes
them argue with me even more!

So why do women date and continue on with "bad boys"?

The answer to this question when I ask it to
women is almost UNIVERSAL.

"We had a great connection".

Some women call it "chemistry".

The magic of a connection with a man can be
extremely powerful. Often powerful enough to undo
all sorts of reasoning abilities and ways of perceiving
things.

Women picking and staying with the wrong men is
the single biggest mistake I see women make. It's the
most common reason why the thousands of women I hear
from can't find the love and fulfillment they're
looking for.

may 1 2008 (feel your stylee)

2008-05-01T12:59:00.004+01:00

Ope o,...we won yesterday...but liverpool put up a display,
couldnt even stand from my seat...lol

And i started this month by saying my prayers...Good

happy may day, hope you're at the stadium marching...
used to be lots of fun then but nowadays dont even know if it is celebrated
yeah am suppossed to be out and about abi,
but we had a very sudden call to work today for stock taking,
but as soon as i leave am going to grab a bite at mr biggs...
and my dear friend that counts....in this first five days, we're going to take a big step...we're going to places we dont regularly visit...
you dont have to talk to anyone, just have a good time,even if its like 30mins...honestly you need it...try not to go to a friend's place cause the possibilty that you'll meet new people is very low,and you'll just do the same old things...
and my friend it beats staying at home...

So i leave the office and i get to sweet sensations ilupeju...and i have to wait for 15mins for my bowl of icecream...yes i also have a sweet tooth...lol...15mins,20mins,30mins...no icecream...

met my guy on the anthony bridge that sells books,he's going to holla at me when he gets the four hour work week...s calls and asks if am at home...am to meet him later in the day about the shoes i want to buy....they're 9000 by the way, he says they are italian...thats the highest i,ve ever paid for a pair of shoes...hope they're worth it...

decided against going home, i still want my icecream...lol...so i decide to go to the sweet sensations outlet on opebi...this time around, i dont wait..thank God...so i sit and devour a litre of chocolate flavoured icecream...received a few calls...sexy and f,she says she'll see me at the office tomorrow...hope things work out atleast with her...

so today,i'm outdoors,breaking the mold,changing my habits...but today its easy,i dont have to chat anyone up...my dressing sef wld discourage that...lol...look unkempt,i guess i'd be thrown out if it was a real restaurant...lol...so i sit and observe,there's that lady there...been at the table alone for atleast 30mins now,there's that couple saying sweet nonsence to eash other...a group over their being very loud...did she just look at me,...again...our eyes meet...but i cant move...am not scared or anything...well been an experiment or lab rat for other shy guys out there,i have rules...its the 1st day...am just here to have a good time...if she likes me she'll drop her number in my lap...lol...wishful thinking abi...i stay for about 30 more minutes then leave...

get to them s's place and he wants to see his babe in unilag...been a while since i been there o...

well we get to unilag all the while praying that he's car doesnt stop and we'd need to push it again...something about the carburattor,said a prayer each time,he started the car...he did most of the talking sha...me i was just looking...well till her friend nugded me...sha i had a nice time...and after about 3 hours in unilag i'll tell u that 90% of the girls are fake and dont know what they're in school for;and that women dont like to be passed around by friends or being asked out by the same friends;if you're to close to a guy,i'll say and we'll believe he's going out with you.

thats when i receive the message from sexy,she had lied about two things, how could i believe her again...she says she likes me so much, so into me...yada yada yada...that she feels she shd tell me truth now...well me thinks, i've just been handled a life line...get annoyed, and stay annoyed, ignore her,she'll get the message...this wouldnt work before,would it?

anyways get home and mum's not back...get the ps from s's house and we play in my house...

j, my cousin visits and s cant just stop looking at her...dude,not my cousin...u cant hit on ladies in my family...

wednesday 30/04/2008 (no more yahoozee)

2008-04-30T17:38:00.001+01:00

Mon Gbona Feli Feli
Bi Amala to ji na gan gan
Dont hate me cause am hotter than you...

just realised that my melancholic attitude was due to the fact that i
was comparing myself again...yes it does happen abi...but if you do it
too much you tend to put yourself down...think about it,no matter what
you've got (material position) someone has got more...something keeps
everyone in the ranks and thats our brain,we use very little of it...
and i tend to improve on that atleast if i dont have the car yet i have
lofty ideas that could move the earth...

i was so happy when i realised that this was it...the secret that all
frustrated people out there dont know...like f said a while ago, in
this race,we are in competition against ourselves and more so its a
marathon not a hundred meter dash...yeah there's the God factor but even
i think its in The book somewhere that if you just SAY to this mountain
MOVE,giving the realization that you think,you say and you act...simple...
so its all about you...figuratively...and dont say its my selfish self
thats speaking cause i know u understand...

Also just realised that i quote a lot from the bible, not a bad thin abi,
well to you, cause i can only recite about 1% of the quran...pathetic for an
alhaji to be...this i definately have to work on.yeah yeah i know my strenghts
and my perceived weaknesses,couldnt possible list them here could i?
okay lets see, there i weaknesses i couldnt possibly do anything about like
my height and there are strenghts that you think are trivial like my grey hair \
at 28yrs old o....lol,all of brand me abi?

just realised that its all about me,if its going to work,i'll have to make
it work...no more tears,yeah am guilty too,i cry...ehn am a big baby...lol
i cry to when things arent just going my way,they also help in realising my
pent up frustration with anything and everything, i also sulk too...which angers
mum alot...

just realised that i only have the map to my life although i havent figured
the "X" yet put am making discoveries...i have tried to bully people into
joining me on this treasure search and it has been disastrous...like s said
if people need you they'll do anything to find you...so dont go out of your way
to make them like you...nobody could ever see the map of your life and understand
it except you...so i wont live my life for you...so if you're interested in what
you see join the band wagon...

just realised that to make it in my life you've got to break all the rules,and there
are lots more i want to break,the gist of all this is that i just have to believe in
myself,my map, i might tweak it if i want to but only me can sell the brand new me...
i've got to stay really positive also,and keep persevering,just think about it...macy
gray doesnt have a good voice,but she's got a grammy or two...lol

so how did i do this month ending hopefully on a high note...my beloved chelsea's
champions league final qualifications...amin o...

This month i felt the disconect with God and it was as powerful as ever,cause i dont have
any excuse for saying my 5 dailies,going to asalatu,tahajjud,zakat...infact i should be caned...lol
i spent a lot of time on things that wont increase my market value in any way..so my spirituality
quotient is way low.
Almighty Allah, i,ve got great plans for May...please let them be fulfilled and i'll serve you
as best as i will...amin o

so to the next goal, i went for only one or two classes out of a possible 8 in the month,i fail wolefully
and i'll probably fail at this rate and a lot of people will be pissed, just that like in some instances
in life,when you're doing something new,the excitement curve just rises steeply, pans out...thats when we
become bored, and now rises slowly..thats when persistence comes in...just wish we could start mysql cause
of my business...

talking about my business, i think i did a lot more better this month,i bet a lot more people know about my
mobile dating service now,quite a few people have used the cbox,even though i've still not gotten round to
advertising again...thanks all,but obviously i'll still have to work more,use every opportunity to promote my
business...believe in what i do more

"so May,your path be rough"...said mr tai solarin of blessed memory...i would add if you wldnt mind sir,"so it can
bring out the best in you".so what do i have for may,apart from being positive,try to promote my business more,live
my life for me...
i'll also be adding the second "conversation with a babe", i got to chat with zephi this time...
very insightful and funny...

i'm also having a small one month self help/boot camp for all dem shy guys out there cause
as patra said "i dont want a shy guy, i just want a fly guy", so am going to help you expand your possiblities in
meeting the woman of your dreams,she could just be right beside u...u know what we'll go through it together, as i'll
be writing my own experiences here...
all you have to do is simple...u just have to talk...just say something to the next babe you see...
and we'll do it in bits,you sha didnt start walking one day,lol...so i'll write the timetable on the left..you can join the
class anytime...and u'll be paying...in kind, just tell someone about the blog

for the ladies out there,since i dont want to run a site that sees women as the lesser sex, i'll also be running series of
articles about attracting Mr right to you, and no juju is involved...lol

whew,i've written a lot abi,tomorrow's May Day o,lets all go to the stadium and march...or watch it on the tv...lol

just got back from a sendforth...
heard am coming to work tomorrow

Billionaire Bachelors

2008-04-28T17:50:00.004+01:00

So you think am still a small boy abi, see the dudes i roll with...
by the way,we're all still single...lol

Roustam Tariko, Russia
Net worth: $3.5 billion
Age 46. Single. 3 children
Tariko made his first fortune creating Russia's first up-market vodka, called Russian Standard. He then moved into consumer credit. But it is less how he makes his money and more how he spends it that we find appealing. He was the first in Russia to buy a $500,000 Maybach automobile, has a house in Sardinia and a private Boeing 737 to jet him there. Plus, he loves to throw a good party.

Ronald Burkle, U.S.
Net worth: $3.5 billion
Age 55. Divorced. 3 children
Supermarket mogul with baggage. Separated from wife Janet in 1992 and reunited with her five years later, when they signed a settlement that granted her $30 million if they ever parted ways again. She left him in 2002 and later sued for $1 billion. He won the suit but lost his privacy, as 5,000-page divorce record was unsealed. Burkle runs with an A list crowd, including good friend Bill Clinton and actress Kate Hudson, whom he brought to a Forbes-sponsored poker game last year.

Prince Albert von Thurn und Taxis, Germany
Net worth: $2.3 billion
Age 24. Single.
The world's third-youngest billionaire, the prince lives in a family castle with his mother and older sister. A race car driver, he tours with a German auto-racing league.

Fahd Hariri, Lebanon
Net worth: $2.3 billion
Age 27. Single.
Youngest son of slain Lebanese Prime Minister Rafik Al-Hariri, Fahd runs a fledgling design business in Paris where he, his mother and sister Hind live. Older brother Saad is the Lebanese parliamentary majority leader.

Charles Dunstone, U.K.
Net worth: $1.8 billion
Age 44. Single.
The British entrepreneur who runs $8 billion (sales) mobile-phone retailer Carphone Warehouse seems to have a soft side. Dunstone is said to give every employee the day off on birthdays and sends a cake. That is probably one reason why the company has been named one of Britain's best workplaces for the past two years. An avid yachtsman, Dunstone recently won the New York Challenge sailing cup.

Mark Zuckerberg, U.S.
Net worth: $1.5 billion
Age 23. Single.
Tech's newest golden boy is the youngest billionaire on the planet, as well as a bit of a philosopher. He founded social-networking site Facebook in February 2004 from his Harvard dorm room. Today Facebook boasts 66 million active users. According to his own Facebook profile, some of Zuckerberg's interests include "breaking things, revolutions and eliminating desire for all that really doesn't matter." Favorite band: Green Day.

David Ross, U.K.
Net worth: $1.4 billion
Age 42. Divorced. 1 child.
Ross co-founded Carphone Warehouse, the European mobile-phone retailer, with school friend Charles Dunstone in 1989. An arts lover, he stages operas at his weekend home in the country. In fact, he built a concert hall on his front lawn for these occasions. In his London home, he has studios for three portrait painters to use

Richard Li, Hong Kong
Net worth: $1.4 billion
Age 41. Single.
Youngest son of Hong Kong's richest man, Li Ka-shing. Li borrowed money from his father and managed to amass his own 10-figure fortune. To find out more about him, click on his personal Web site at richardli.com, which details Li's business successes as well as his interests, which include diving and flying.

Sergei Polonsky, Russia
Net worth: $1.2 billion
Age 35. Single. 2 children.
A former architecture student, Polonsky is now one of the highest-profile real estate developers in Moscow. (His Mirax Group built the 1,300-foot Moscow City tower.) An extreme-sports lover, he hoped to fly on the International Space Station but was rejected because of his height. At 6 feet 4 inches, he is too tall.

Peter Thiel, U.S.
Net worth: $1.2 billion
Age 40. Single.
Thiel has been at the fore of some of Silicon Valley's biggest phenomena. He co-founded PayPal, which he sold to eBay in 2002 for $1.5 billion. Two years later, he became Facebook's first outside investor, putting in $500,000. He enjoys running, hiking and surfing. A chess prodigy, he was ranked seventh in the U.S. at age 12.

Actions Speak Louder Than Words

2008-04-25T17:07:00.002+01:00

5 Sure-Fire Ways to Spark Her Interest

By David Wygant

Most men think that they need a clever line to approach a woman. But through all my years of coaching men and women, I have found that it is not what you say that's important, but how you approach.

Most women put more importance on visual clues to assess a man's character. They don't care what you say, as long as you say it without hesitation and with authority. Unfortunately, most men don't know this, so they walk over to a woman like a wounded animal expecting to be rejected. When you approach like a wounded animal, you will be rejected every single time -- no matter how clever a remark you may have.

With 80 percent of human interaction based on nonverbal body language, what is a man to do? The key to impressing her right off the bat is to be different from all the other men who are approaching her that evening.

Here a few sure-fire ways to make your approach more powerful and convincing, even
if you are not sure what you are going to say:

Walk with confidence. When you see a woman that you are attracted to, walk right over. Stand up straight and walk over slowly but with confidence. Make sure your chest is puffed out and your posture is looking strong and not slumped over. Keep eye contact as you approach. Do not hesitate. Most men linger in the background before they approach, then, when you finally do approach, she is quick to turn her back on you. The reason is that you did not exude confidence. Most women notice who is observing them.

When you do not approach within seconds of spotting her, you might as well go home.

avoid being seen with the drunken testosterone pack of males. One of the biggest turn-offs for women is the "male pack" -- you with five of your buddies high-fiving each other, drinking and checking out other women. When you approach a woman with your buddies waiting on the sideline, she will impulsively reject you in front of the pack to avoid being scrutinized later. Break away from the male pack and find one other guy to go out on the town with. Save the male bonding for a sports bar.

Dress for a strong appearance. Make sure you're not sabotaging your efforts with your attire. If you look like a slob, it will not matter what your body language says, because you will look like every other man who put no thought into what he was going to wear that night to attract women. Buy clothing that makes you stand out from the rest of the men. Find a cool pair of jeans and some great shirts that give you an edge, so when you walk in with the right body language, women will see you. Keep in mind that shoes are really important too, so find a few pairs that look great on you.
Create a spark within her. Most men's conversation will center on being agreeable and non-confrontational in the hopes that she likes you.

In the mind of a woman, playing it safe equals boring! You need to spark her interest by being a bit disagreeable. For example, you get into a conversation about summer movies and she says that "Spiderman III" was her favorite Spidey movie so far. Instead of being agreeable,look her right in the eye with confidence and tell her that she is so wrong -- the first Spiderman was superior. Then proceed to tell her why you think so. This will create a fun, friendly, flirtatious verbal sparring, which will create a spark in her brain. She will realize that you are not a pushover like most men and attraction will start to form in her head.
Maintain some tension.

Flirting with women is all about gathering information, so the better listener you are, the better your chances. When you call her, you will have more things to talk about. Before calling a woman, I think about everything she said and then I pick the most juicy topic or opinion and challenge her with it. For example, going back to the example of "Spiderman III," I would text her the next day: "I was thinking U + I need 2 re-watch Spiderman. U R so wrong. Name the time + place + I'll bring the DVD."
She will immediately respond to the challenge and text you back. You have just learned the secret of re-creating the tension that you shared with her. Plus, you are being totally unlike every other guy who waits three days to call her and schedule a predictable dinner date.

Dating Coach, Blogger and Author David Wygant has been featured on more than 2,000 radio and television shows including Dateline, CBS Good Morning, and MTV. Get more sex and dating tips on David's interactive blog at davidwygant.com

10 Tips for Approaching Women

2008-04-23T18:47:00.000+01:00

Most guys get caught up in guessing what to say; here's what they really should do

By David Wygant

What do you do when you see a woman you are attracted to? Do you run and hide? Do you use some canned line that you read on the Internet? Do you stand there in fear trying to think of the right thing to say? What is the right thing to do?
When approaching a woman, most guys make the mistake of thinking too much about what to say. They believe there's one magic line that will work in all situations. They rehearse this magic line, and when they deliver it, they hope the woman will become instantly attracted to them.
Unfortunately, rarely does this approach work -- because most of what you say is irrelevant. To catch a woman's attention, it is all about the confidence you display when approaching her.
Here are 10 surefire ways to intrigue her every time:
1. Observe something. Make a comment about something you observe in the environment. This is especially effective at the grocery store. For example, if she is ordering a turkey sandwich, ask her if the turkey is good here.
Make your comment immediate to the situation
Make your comment immediate to the situation and it will seem perfectly natural. No matter where you are, there is always something interesting to comment on.
2. Smile. This shows her that you are friendly and confident. A genuine smile not only feels good to you, but will put her at ease while creating openness in the interaction -- a requirement for building rapport.
3. Do not hesitate. If you hesitate in your approach, this tells her that you are not feeling confident -- an immediate turn-off. When you see her, walk over to her within a short period of time (the three-second rule). Show her you are a man who knows what he wants and goes after it.
4. Positive body language. If you approach hunched over with your head down, you are sending negative information about yourself, which makes you dead in the water before you begin. Stand up straight, with shoulders back and chest out, and use a firm yet relaxed walk.
5. Not too fast. If you walk over too fast, you could likely trigger her internal alarm. A calm, casual approach is usually the best way to make her feel at ease with you.
6. Keep eye contact. Never be the first to break eye contact when you approach. If you do, this sends the message that you are not feeling good about approaching. When you use strong eye contact, she will feel more drawn to you. With practice, you can master this.
7. Listen up. Make sure you pay careful attention to what she says. Do not have your response pre-thought out. Women love a man who pays attention to the details of what she says. If you start throwing out random words, she will lose interest fast.
8. Do not fidget. Fidgeting after you approach is distracting and shows you are uncomfortable. If you communicate that you are uncomfortable, she will feel uncomfortable, too, and will close up. Practice being aware of your movements. Pay attention to those movements, or lack of movements, that communicate comfort and confidence.
9. Lighten your tone of voice. The tone of your voice is a very powerful tool. Approaching her in a light and playful tone is one of the best ways to start. You could also begin in a serious tone, accusing her of something like "
I hope you saved some turkey for me
I hope you saved some turkey for me," followed by a quick smile to let her know you are joking. Practice playing with your vocal tone with your friends -- notice the different reactions you get when you say the exact same thing using varied tones and fluctuations.
10. Lean away from her. A man who leans in too far when he talks often makes a woman feel crowded. A better approach is to lean away from her slightly. This lets her know that you respect her space, boundaries, and are comfortable with yourself.
The key to making these tips work for you is putting them into practice! Practice these tips and see the reaction you get. When you put them all together, you will be surprised at their power.

Dating Coach, Blogger and Author David Wygant has been featured on more than 2,000 radio and television shows including Dateline, CBS Good Morning, and MTV. Get more sex and dating tips on David's interactive blog at davidwygant.com

10 Signs You're Being Needy

2008-04-22T18:31:00.001+01:00

By David Wygant
Special to Yahoo! Personals

In my ten years of coaching men and women on the perils of dating and relationships, the one journey women tell me they never want to go on again is meeting and hanging out with the "needy and clingy" man.
Nothing turns women off more than a guy who is really needy.
Nothing turns women off more than a guy who is really needy.
Now, I can practically hear men's voices protesting from everywhere, saying "But David, there are a lot of needy women too!" This article is not about them... it's about you.
Below are ten signs that you are being needy. Remember you are trying to attract women, not turn them off. So if you suffer from any of these signs of neediness, you need to immediately stop those actions.
1. You just walked a woman to her door at the end of a date. Instead of kissing her, you ask her if she had a good time. Women are attracted to confident men. They don't want to have to tell you that they had a good time on a date... they want you to be secure enough in yourself to assume that they had a good time.
2. You called a woman last night and she has not yet called you back, so you either email her or call her again to ask her if she received your message. If you want to push her away, this is one of the best ways to get her to quickly run away from you.
3. You start texting a woman you just began dating five or six times a day. You are over-texting her. You don't need to check in every two hours. That's a sign of neediness and clingy behavior that turns women off.
4. You miss a call on your cell phone from a phone number that you don't recognize. You call the woman you're dating, and to whom you talked just two hours before, and ask, "Did you just call me?" This kind of behavior is going to push and scare her away.
5. You agree with everything the woman you're dating says. Women are not looking for a man who agrees with everything they say. Women want a man who challenges them and from whom they can learn. When a man agrees with everything a woman says, he is telling her that he'll do anything to have a relationship (which is another sign of being needy).
6. The woman you're dating is out for the evening with her friends. She promised to call you when she got home. It's getting late and you haven't heard from her. You just can't resist and you call her cell phone several times until she answers it. This is a sign of being needy and insecure. She's out with her friends... not out with another guy. Let her have some personal space and she'll respect you more.
7. You are too available. If you have plans with a friend, keep those plans even if the woman you're dating asks you to do something that night. Women don't want men who are like a 7-Eleven -- convenient and ready 24/7.
8. You try to please a woman all the time. I'm all about men doing nice things for women, but she has to earn it. Some men will let a woman walk all over them, and then continue to be a sponge and allow it over and over again. Stand up for yourself and she'll respect you more. Letting a woman walk all over you is a clear sign to her that you're needy.
9. Don't be afraid to challenge a woman. If you don't agree with something a woman says, don't just sit there and agree with her thinking it's what she wants. Women are looking for someone who is going to stimulate their mind... not bore them. Women are not turned on by men they can completely control.
10. Be the man! Have a plan and stick with it. Women like men who plan out evenings of fun.
Don't always ask a woman what she wants to do. Listen to what she likes when you're having conversations with her
Don't always ask a woman what she wants to do. Listen to what she likes when you're having conversations with her, then come up with a fun plan that you will already know she'll like. A needy man will do whatever a woman wants. A man of action will create plans for what they will do. Being a man of action will lead her to find you a lot more attractive in the long run.
Women are attracted to men who are confident and real. Women want to feel like you need them... but only after you already have your own life, your own ambitions, and your own goals.
The moment a man starts getting too clingy, a woman will run for the hills. This is exactly like how you will pull back from a woman who becomes clingy and needy.

7 Dating Ups and Downs

2008-04-21T18:45:00.000+01:00

How to ride the rollercoaster

By David Wygant

Dating is a process a lot of us really can live without. It's an emotional rollercoaster that can drive you to drink four year-old bottles of Mike's Hard Lemonade from the back of your refrigerator.
Here's my list of the top ups and downs of dating -- and how to feel better about them:
1. Stop the mental post-date recap abuse. You went out with somebody with whom you thought you had a connection, and it turns out you didn't. So now you're going to mentally torture yourself for the next four days trying to figure out what you said wrong. You'll even torture all your friends asking them what you could have done differently.
The post-date recap is a form of mental torture.
The post-date recap is a form of mental torture. You will never know what that other person is thinking unless they call you. If they don't call, it really does mean that he or she is just not that into you (which is about the only good advice from that ridiculously stupid book).
2. We made out in the parking lot and they never called again. Making out is fun! You needed it. They needed it. Don't beat yourself up that you did it, just realize you did it. Be okay with it. It was a great date. You were in the moment, and you experienced something that you wanted to do.
3. I texted them the next morning and said, "I had a great time last night," and they never texted back. So what? You had a great time last night. So did they. They just woke up, and their post-date recap was different from yours. They probably had a good time, but when they thought about it, the chemistry and the "it" factor wasn't there. It's not about you. At least you were honest. So you did all you can do.
4. Should I have said something different in my voicemail message? You left a voicemail message and now you're replaying it in your head a thousand times. "Should I have said 'Last night was fun' with more enthusiasm? Is that why she's not calling me back?"
When it comes to voicemail messages, the shorter the better.
When it comes to voicemail messages, the shorter the better. From an old sales technique, I always prefer to say, "Last night was fun. I have something really funny to share with you the next time we speak." That's it -- it creates a little bit of intrigue, a little bit of mystery and no mental torture.
5. Who cares what they think? You left the above voicemail message without knowing if you'll ever see them again, and they don't call you back. You start to think, "Now they know that I like them, and they don't like me." So what? Is it better to just sit there and hope and pray they call? I always believe in being honest. You've got to do what feels right for you.
6. Stop giving your power away to one person. If a two-hour date can cause you to give away all your power and confidence, then you need to learn to embrace yourself and love yourself more. This is just one person you went out with for two hours. They don't know what an amazing person you are. The only thing they know is the person they sat across from at the table. Whether they choose to hang with you again isn't the issue. The issue is that one person does not determine your worthiness. You've got to toughen your skin.
Rejection is what dating is all about
Rejection is what dating is all about; you can't take it personally. If I go out with someone and I have a great time but they never want to see me again, I'm still a great person the next day.
Want some tips about dealing with dating rejection? See them here
7. In order to feel better about dating, you need to think abundance. Just because you think you like somebody and they don't call you back, this is not the last person in the world you're going to meet. In order to be a successful dater, you need to practice abundance. The power of abundance is training your mind to realize that if it doesn't work out with one person (or 10 people), there are plenty of other people out there who do want to hang out with a fantastic person like you.

Dating Coach, Blogger and Author David Wygant has been featured on more than 2,000 radio and television shows including Dateline, CBS Good Morning, and MTV. Get more sex and dating tips on David's interactive blog at davidwygant.com

1 Trick To Eliminate Approach Anxiety

2008-04-18T18:33:00.000+01:00

One time when I was in High School, there
was this girl...

She was a pretty girl. Blonde and bubbly
and a lot of fun. She was the type of
girl who really lit up a room the moment
she walked in.

This girl also went to my church. So between
school and mass, I had plenty of opportunities
to approach her.

But I didn't.

Then, one day, we were partnered in a class
and got to talking. As I walked her to her
next class, she began lamenting the fact that
she didn't get to go to the winter dance,
which had just passed the weekend before.
Turns out no one asked her!

When I told her I didn't go either, she asked
me "Why not?" to which I replied "I didn't
have a date."

Then she said (and I'll never forget this)
"Well, if you had asked me, I'd have gone
with you."

"Really?" I said.

"Yeah, in fact I was hoping you would, but
you never seemed that interested in me."

When this happened, I was FLOORED. Here was
a beautiful girl, who would have been delighted
to go to a school dance with me - and I was
finding out much too late to do anything about
it!

All because I was too afraid to approach her.

I'm not alone. So many guys suffer from the
"Approach Anxiety" fear.

How many times have you let your chance with
a girl pass you by because you were too afraid
to talk to her?

More than you can count, I'm willing to bet!

The cold, hard facts are, if you want to have
true success with women:

* You need to meet lots of them.
* You need to have no fear of rejection.
* You need to be able to approach a woman
the moment you see her.
* You need to be able to engage her instantly
in conversation.
* You need to have powerful confidence in
yourself
* You need to be able to take action when
opportunity presents itself.

If you can do all these things, you can attract
any woman you want.

Joseph Matthews

Bizlancer, Inc.
8350 Wilshire Blvd.
Suite 200
Beverly Hills, CA 90211

Kylie: Motherhood may not be for me

2008-04-17T19:18:00.000+01:00

thought every young lady's dream was to marry a guy and then have kids but...

Pop princess Kylie Minogue has admitted she may never have children.
Minogue, who is 40 next month, said that although she dreams of having a family she sometimes believes it is "not the right path" for her.
She told the German edition of Vogue: "I never had the feeling I was made for a conventional marriage with a house in the suburbs.
"Media interest in 'supermothers', who are simultaneously on stage and bringing up children, is understandable. But for many that is too much of a good thing.
"There are also artists such as Debbie Harry or Dolly Parton who have managed to have an unbelievable career without a family.
"Above everything else, it comes down to how much love you have in you and if you are ready to give that love."
She added: "How things will turn out for me with regards to family I simply can't yet say."
Minogue promised a change of image for her new tour, which kicks off in Paris next month.
She said: "The showgirl and feathers are behind me. I want a new direction. Jean Paul Gaultier is designing my costumes for the tour - all couture."